You are the child's family, and the child spends a lot of time with you. If you want to do a good job in children's ideological work, you must communicate with them more. This is really important. Communication is more important than anything else. The following are the details: Please read more when you have time.
Parents can educate their children from the following aspects:
First, educate children to understand the value of life and cherish their own lives. Parents should let their children know that human life is very fragile, and human life is only a few decades. We have too many things to do in this short life. We should grow up, make ourselves worthy of life, make contributions to family, society and country, and leave a glorious legacy in life. Our life should be colorful and valuable. You only have one life, and if you lose it, you won't come back. If we are impulsive, it will lead to physical injury or even loss of life, which will be meaningless and very worthless.
Second, parents should educate their children to be kind to themselves and learn to comfort themselves. Cherish life, you need to learn to be kind to yourself. If you encounter troubles or problems, you can find appropriate solutions. Trying to escape is the most stupid and irresponsible behavior for yourself and others. You can also give yourself some comfort and think from another angle. Someone once said: a person who can comfort himself must be a person whose inner world is full of peace; A person who praises himself must be a person who is confident and optimistic about himself; A person who can inspire himself must be a person with wisdom in his heart. How nice it would be if we all became such people!
Third, parents should tell their children that a person's life is a combination of happiness and pain, success and frustration, and success and failure. We should neither expect smooth sailing in life and always win over generals, nor think that life will be frustrated forever. In the process of human growth, there are countless ditches and ridges. After crossing the hurdle, it is a smooth road, and there is no hurdle in life; There will be dark clouds in the sky, but they won't be cloudy forever. When dark clouds pass, there will be light. Let children think of happiness in pain, success after overcoming difficulties in setbacks, and success after hard work in failure. Let children know that time will dilute the painful experience, frustration, disappointment and frustration of failure. When we use our own efforts to jump over the ditch and usher in the light, looking back, how insignificant the ditch and dark clouds are. And how naive I was when I tried to die for it and was miserable.
Fourth, parents should educate their children to be strong in the face of setbacks and have the spirit of never giving up and not being afraid of losing. People who suffer or even give up their lives in the face of setbacks are only strong, not strong. The difference between "strong" and "strong" is actually different. Being strong is just a state of mind that can't afford to lose, and being strong is a state of mind that refuses to admit defeat and dares to fight hard. This is what we want. With this mentality, we can overcome all setbacks, face all setbacks bravely, eliminate all pain, and let ourselves live a valuable and successful life.
Fifth, parents should pay attention to their children's emotions. When they find that their children are in an abnormal mood and show pain, disappointment and even despair in life, they should guide them in time from the following aspects:
1. Teach children to find someone to talk to, don't let them keep it in their hearts, and transfer the pain in their hearts by guiding them to talk to others. Parents can also find their trusted relatives and friends or teachers and classmates who have deep feelings for their children, guide their children to speak freely in front of their children, and release their mental anguish and pressure.
2. Let children vent their emotions, such as encouraging them to cry, giving them a chance to shout, making them angry and letting their pain and depression vent.
3. Guide children to listen to some relaxed or simple rock music and symphonies, so that their repressed emotions can be gradually released in soothing and beautiful music, or strongly released in shocking music shock waves.
4. Let children listen to cross talk, watch comedy sketches, or watch movies, plays, and read books, so that they can unconsciously use laughter to drive away depressed emotions and transfer boring psychological pressure.
5. Take the children to a small village to play, go to a picturesque place to breathe fresh air, clean up the brain, let the children get in touch with nature, arouse the children's love for beautiful nature, and melt the original gray emotions in his mind.
6. Ask the children to have a little spirit of Ah Q and arm themselves with a little spiritual victory, then they will leave all their troubles behind.
7. Children should learn to accept and tolerate, that is, accept others, accept themselves, tolerate others and tolerate themselves. To accept is to accept happily, and each of us should accept others happily, including their strengths and weaknesses, including their criticism of ourselves; You should also accept yourself happily, that is, accept your strengths and weaknesses (weaknesses are gradually overcome in the process of acceptance).
At the same time, we should also tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of others, our own weaknesses and mistakes. As long as we do this, we can always maintain a balanced mentality and bravely face all obstacles in life.