In today's society, many children are very talented and smart, but the children themselves feel inferior to others. In this case, how can we help them know themselves? Xiaoyu is a five-year-old child. He usually looks smart at home, responds quickly and has many tricks. He also seems to do things more actively. However, when he was in kindergarten, he became taciturn and unresponsive. Compared with at home, he is like two children. When asked, the child can't make a correct judgment. When asked by the teacher, the teacher's evaluation was that the child was disobedient. Later, the child and his mother said that they didn't want to go to kindergarten and wanted to play at home, because he saw that all the kindergarten friends were particularly smart, and he was the only one who didn't do well, which made his mother very anxious. How can we change Xiaoyu's present situation?

I believe that in real life, many such children look no different from normal children at home, but in a group, they always feel that they are not performing well and no one is smart. In fact, children themselves are very smart, but they don't realize their cleverness. Such children often lack self-confidence. Because children are young and ignorant, there is no way to form an objective self-evaluation. Parents often ignore the cultivation of children's self-awareness in early childhood, which will lead to their weak self-awareness. Self-awareness comes from others' opinions and comments on themselves, such as teachers' and parents' comments on children. If teachers and parents often make some negative comments or labels on children in life, children will think that they are such people. Some parents think that children are young and have nothing.

Research shows that children begin to establish their own self-awareness from the moment they first land, which is formed through constant communication with their parents and others. People who often have the closest communication with children become the people who have the greatest influence on their words and deeds during their growth, which also affects the formation of children's self-awareness and induces children to judge themselves.

1, physiological self

The so-called physiological self refers to a person's body image, including gender and physical characteristics. Parents should guide their children to identify with individual differences in this period, and recognize their gender and their own advantages and disadvantages, such as height, physical appearance and appearance.

2. Social self

Social self refers to their position in social relations, such as their influence and social status among relatives and friends. Parents should let their children have a comprehensive understanding through family self, society, self-collectivity and self, and let them accurately grasp their position in others' hearts.

3. Psychological self

Psychological self refers to the understanding of one's temperament, ability, personality, hobbies and ideals. This is also the most critical place for children's self-awareness and needs careful analysis. In my mind, I have many contradictions, such as the relationship between today and tomorrow, the relationship between advantages and disadvantages, and the relationship between happiness and troubles. These psychological problems belong to the category of psychological self.

The development of children's self-awareness entered the social level from the physiological level, and they began to know themselves accurately from the aspects of appearance, personality characteristics and interpersonal communication. In this process, parents must give their children correct guidance, which can help them understand themselves and find their place in society.

1, parents' cognition is very important.

In the process of children's growth, parents become the first mirror of children. Parents' attitudes and behaviors should be consistent with their children. Preschool children are in the embryonic stage of self-awareness, and they are also most vulnerable to the evaluation and influence of others. At this time, parents are the most exposed, so parents naturally become the first mirror of children. They have experienced many firsts with their children. Parents should not only give their children positive comments. Also pay attention to the consistency of evaluation. If the parents are very different, it will be difficult for children to form a correct understanding of themselves, and it will also cause children to be at a loss about themselves and not know what they really look like.

2. Teach children to judge for themselves.

Let children know clearly that others' comments on themselves, whether excessive accusations or praises, are just children looking in the mirror. There will be various shapes, and these may also be unrealistic self. Let children know how to distinguish, otherwise they will lose the ability to distinguish right from wrong. Parents should encourage their children to participate in various activities and get in touch with children of various personalities. In this process, children will find that everyone is different and everyone's ability is different, so as to find their own advantages and disadvantages and make a correct self-judgment.

3. Witness yourself from different angles.

The cultivation of self-awareness plays a key role in children's future and is also a major problem for children's mental health. Therefore, parents should constantly improve their children's self-awareness level in their lives. They can participate in different activities in family, social activities and groups, so that children can discover themselves from different angles and cultivate their various abilities, which will also enable children to improve themselves from different angles, which will become their lifelong wealth.

No parents can accompany their children all their lives, so in the process of cultivating their children, we must strive to make them excellent enough, find their future orientation, give play to their abilities, and make them confident enough to face the future bravely.

Let more families be harmonious and happy, and help more children grow up healthily. Welcome to pay attention and forward. If you have any questions about family education, you can leave a message or a private letter. I am Cheng Si, a teacher, focusing on the spread of wisdom in family education.