When I was young, I was very naughty. According to my mother, I am the kind of troublemaker who can get my clothes dirty in one day at school. I go home every day without doing my homework and chatting with the security guard. Then the troublemaker met my violent father, and the tragedy was staged day by day. I was often beaten by my father and cried the whole building shaking.
Growing up, I was beaten for not doing my homework, sitting in an incorrect position, being scolded for not remembering anything at once, being scolded for being slow, being scolded for not doing anything well, and even worse, being beaten. What is strict father's educational philosophy? After so much experience, I also have a little summary. Generally speaking, a strict father has a bad temper. Because of his bad temper, he knows that being angry has good effects, especially for children. Because they are unable to resist, they can solve any demands on him through anger, saving a lot of trouble. This is really a simple, rude and effective method compared with telling children all kinds of truths every time they make mistakes.
? Strict father is good at scaring children with anger, making them grow up step by step under his control, and keeping them from losing control, but loving his father is different.
Because I was educated in strict father since I was a child, I am very resistant to being angry with having children. In my opinion, as long as children don't violate the bottom line of morality and law, all mistakes can be solved through consultation, and even if they are punished, they should not be so rude. So I began to think about how to be a father. In high school, I was thinking hard about how to be a qualified father. It sounds funny, but I really thought about it for a long time.
First of all, getting rid of violence is the most critical step. Children's world is fragile and sensitive. If you are mean to him, he will leave a shadow for a long time, which is quite unfavorable to the growth of children. Secondly, companionship, of course, does not need to be accompanied all the time, but it needs constant companionship. Many times, when you leave for a long time, you will find that his world begins to contradict you and make you feel uncomfortable. Finally, it is to give children a sense of security and teach them how to behave correctly. To put it bluntly, it is to perfect his personality. I don't know whether a child's correct personality is conducive to his growth, but a deformed personality will certainly destroy the child, no matter how talented he is, it will bring his own destruction. Moreover, the repair of a broken personality can take as little as five or six years, and it can't be repaired for a lifetime. Therefore, it is particularly important to mold his personality in childhood.