If you are not in a hurry, don't take the medicine yet, and let him be free for a while. And you have to find out the reason why he is depressed. Is he bullied by the school? Your grades have regressed? Was criticized by the teacher? Or is the relationship between parents not good? Parents put too much pressure on him? Parents are too controlling? The differences between his parents left him at a loss? In short, we should find out the reasons and change from our parents.
For children, don't force communication with him yet, you'd better know how to put yourself in other's shoes. Give him a relatively relaxed space and don't give him any sense of oppression. Accept the fact that children's studies will be delayed for a while. Of course, this time has not been wasted. If you can cure your child's depression by changing yourself, it will be a valuable asset in your life.
Thank you for your invitation.
To tell you the truth, if he is really diagnosed as "severe depression", any enlightenment you can give is powerless. According to my personal clinical experience, the only thing you can do is:
Take him to the hospital!
Take him to the hospital!
Take him to the hospital!
Say the important words three times.
Because all patients with major depression are accompanied by:
What's the point of your being alive?
Can't see the future and hope;
Pessimistic and world-weary, life is worse than death;
Living in torment every day;
Even the brain is full of suicide, how to commit suicide and other pains;
Most patients with severe depression refuse treatment because they have no confidence in their condition.
At this time, "enlightenment" is as pale as going to a psychological counselor for "consultation".
Tell you a case:
In the late 1980s, I was invited to a university to review the first book on mental health in China.
A teacher in the university heard that I was a clinician and asked me about a case he was currently taking over.
The patient (they are often called "visitors") is a woman who shows unexplained depression and tries to commit suicide.
As soon as I heard it, I felt that the situation was very serious. I immediately advised him to stop the consultation immediately. Patients must receive compulsory detoxification treatment, contact their families as soon as possible, and be sent to local mental health institutions for hospitalization.
Because the patient is likely to be severely depressed, the possibility of suicide again is very high and the success rate is very high.
Unfortunately,
The teacher didn't listen to my advice and continued to consult female college students with "love" and her own psychological knowledge.
When I returned to Shijiazhuang and called him again to ask about it, he told me that the girl did commit suicide again, but this time, she succeeded.
These are all lessons of blood, which happen in our real life almost every day!
See a doctor quickly. If it is serious, it must be treated with drugs and psychotherapy. Now it's not a problem you can solve at home alone. Be careful, or the consequences will be serious. Even if there is medication, you should enlighten your family, don't give too much pressure, and watch more entertaining and happy programs. Take your time.
I'm sorry to hear that your child has severe depression. As a psychological counselor, I often contact patients with depression, but not every parent has enough knowledge to help their children out of trouble.
First of all, in order to better answer your questions, I need to ask you some questions here:
(1) How did you know that your child had severe depression? Have you passed the professional psychological evaluation scale and the diagnosis of professional consultants and psychiatrists?
(2) Are there any other immediate family members with depression or medical history?
(3) Do you usually have close contact with children? Is the parent-child relationship harmonious?
(4) Does your child go to school? Is the relationship between teachers and students normal at school?
(5) What is the child's daily life now? Is the social function still relatively normal? Will you kill yourself?
Why should I ask you these questions?
Because these questions are the basis for judging whether a person is depressed, it is not rigorous and irresponsible to give you advice directly without specifying them one by one. This violates the professional ethics of my counselor.
Suppose all the problems are the most serious and pessimistic situations, what should we do?
(1) Go to a hospital with a regular psychiatric clinic or a special psychiatric hospital (such as Beijing Anding Hospital).
This is the most critical and inevitable, because severe depression has gone beyond the scope that can be solved by psychological counseling alone. All counselors who say that they can be cured through psychological counseling are irresponsible liars, and there is no room for manoeuvre. I worked in a mental hospital for a year, and I know exactly who should be responsible for what symptoms, so I must go to the hospital and don't take any chances.
(2) In addition to taking medicine and receiving psychological counseling on time, the patients I have handled in the hospital also have a very important auxiliary way: try to arrange the patients with depression and mania in the same ward.
This practice will be adopted by almost every mental hospital because it has a good auxiliary effect on patients with two diseases: manic patients need a person to listen to their new ideas and actions all day, while depressed patients are an ideal listening object, because it is difficult for them to interrupt their "performance" on their own initiative, so manic patients like depressed listeners very much and can let them release themselves freely; For patients with depression, manic patients will find ways to activate their hearts all the time, make their hearts in a state of "stagnant water" ripple again, find the meaning and essence of life, and gradually become active. So this arrangement is very helpful for the treatment of these two types of patients;
(3) As a family member, we should not only respect the doctor's arrangement, but also learn to observe and be flexible in daily life, and handle everything flexibly for patients with depression. Most importantly, we should not pretend to be smart in front of depressed patients, because depression does not mean that people are fools, but depressed patients will be more mature and smarter, because they see many things thoroughly, even beyond their age range, so when we communicate with them, we should first respect them as individuals with normal intelligence. At the same time, when we are doing other activities, we should not deliberately go out to take care of him and deliberately treat his behavior differently. This is very naive and ridiculous for people with depression, which will eventually make them more disgusted with his environment and may even aggravate his condition.
Our care and love for them must be "moist and silent", giving people a natural, harmonious and unobtrusive feeling. If we can't do it, don't do it deliberately, or we will get twice the result with half the effort.
In addition to paying attention to himself, we should also pay attention to the differences before and after his illness, especially what effects and stimuli he had in the early stage of his illness. It is the best way to make more targeted changes through comparative observation, which will improve our efficiency.
Third, what should people who encounter other depression in their lives do?
With the acceleration of the pace of life and the increase of people's pressure, many people have depression or depression, which is not good for us personally and society. So we should reserve the corresponding knowledge to help the people around us, which is also helping ourselves: Imagine if 7 people in a unit 10 are depressed, will the remaining 3 people be normal? Therefore, we should pay attention to it at the early stage of development. Even if 1 in 10 is depressed, the remaining nine people should do their best to help him tide over the difficulties, so as not to let the problem spread to the whole team and eventually be wiped out.
When helping people with depression, my suggestions are as follows:
(1) Invite him to participate in the activities he is interested in and give targeted praise according to the highlights in the activities;
(2) Doing good deeds in public, especially for people with depression, will give them hope for this society;
(3) Asking him out in some relatively small and private fields, or inviting him to participate in feelings together, will make him feel more valued;
(4) In order to give ourselves and others a healthy environment, we should also be strict with ourselves in our daily life, and maintain a certain degree of self-discipline while not doing things that violate the law and discipline, so that people can look forward to life more.
I hope my advice can help you. At the same time, if you have any questions, please feel free to pay attention to me and trust me privately. I will know everything and try my best to help every friend who has mental difficulties.
Depression is a physical disease, not a psychological disease. So go to the hospital and take medicine to relieve symptoms.
Bad things and bad people are just incentives or fuses.
Relax and enlighten you. It's definitely not a word or two.
I also have depression, but it's not serious. I can live a normal life.
However, except for work, I basically lie down. I will do children's study, but I won't do anything else.
My mind is empty. Not interested in anything.
You want to ask me what happened recently?
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Fathers love filial piety, couples love each other, and children are naughty, all within the normal range. The work pressure is not great, and the money is enough. So there is no motivation. I can live a normal life.
But I'm just unhappy.
Not happy to give money, not happy to earn money, not happy to eat delicious food, not happy to watch TV dramas, not happy to read novels, not to mention learning, you can't learn at all. Even I bought a bag, spent a lot of money and recited it all day, feeling bored.
My mother says I'm lazy, but I'm not lazy at all. I try to live.
My nephew also suffers from depression and bipolar disorder. Last year, he made a terrible noise. He hid the knife in his bag and was not allowed to look at people. Taking medicine is much better, and now it looks normal. My mother was inspired by this and didn't say much about me.
She often says that I am tired of living, and I don't know what to do with such a good life.
I'm also confused. I also want to live an active life, but it's really difficult.
It is difficult for me to communicate with people. I've tried my best to live like this.
So now the self-demand is very low. Sleep more when something goes wrong. The trouble is over, study more, exercise more and make up for it.
I wish you a speedy recovery.
Severe depression, you must go to a regular hospital for treatment, and you must take medicine strictly for a long time.
As a neurosis, the biggest risk of depression comes from suicidal behavior, which is uncontrollable.
Because the causes of depression are complex and harmful, we must take drugs strictly and improve our mood through drugs. Especially for severe depression, simple psychotherapy is not enough.
Don't worry about the side effects of antidepressants. Among all the drugs used for mental illness, antidepressants are very mature and safe. On the basis of taking medicine, supplemented by psychological counseling and treatment, it will recover well.
Of course, the recovery of depression depends on strong relationship support. As parents, more company is more important than anything else. Pay attention to find the child's sudden interest and excitement and strengthen it. These are more important than enlightenment. Because for depression, the truth is understandable, but I can't get out, and the enlightenment effect is very poor.
Finally, we must pay close attention to preventing suicide.
My children used to be depressed. I found that she was in a bad mood, so I asked her to drop out of school, stay with her for a year, and listen to her heart. During this year, I regarded myself as a teenager, sharing games with her, talking about stars, talking about online celebrities, talking about everything at this age, taking her to travel, getting close to nature, trying to relax my children, crying if you want, laughing happily, being yourself, and not suppressing emotions. The most common saying is that you are my baby, and I love you the most. Come on, give me a hug. These disgusting words are said almost every day. I am not a professional psychologist, but my child's mood is getting better and better, and he fell in love with diving, saying that he would take the diving certificate after the contour test. Now I have returned to school, my study and life are normal, and my ability to withstand pressure is much stronger than before.
My son has severe depression. How can I enlighten him?
Judging from the general level of psychological practitioners, a patient with severe depression is difficult to enlighten, let alone an ordinary parent and an ordinary psychological counselor.
In this case, the first thing to do is to find a high-level psychological counselor. Now there are many psychological counselors and many platforms. Let's first look at some psychological counselors' explanations of depression, the causes of its formation, the regularity of its attack and the causes of patients' pain. If you explain the experiences and feelings close to your child, you can establish a consulting relationship with a psychological counselor.
Then it is to guide children to receive psychological counseling. Many children resist, or the previous counseling is ineffective, don't believe, or don't believe at all. They think preaching is useless, or they think they have no problem. Let the children listen to the psychological counselor's explanation of the symptoms and receive counseling if they feel reasonable.
Find a good psychological counselor. After the children receive counseling, parents should understand, study together, understand family education, and find their own problems to change in time.
Parents have an unshirkable responsibility for their children's illness. First reflect on yourself, where you owe your children and where you are wrong. Apologize sincerely to your child after reflection, and then communicate patiently. This is the first thing you have to do. Second, take the children out for a walk, communicate while walking and deepen their feelings.
Watch a movie with your child, let the child choose what he likes to watch, and talk about his feelings after watching it. Fourth, accompany your child to exercise, and you can go to the gym. If language communication is difficult, you can exchange words and write a letter to your child. It can be a few words, a piece of paper, not too long, you can write more. Remember to use paper, not cell phones. Let's call it a day, and then see the effect.
Take the mother of a depressed child as an example:
First of all, you are not sure if your child is really depressed. My baby was once diagnosed with severe depression. The hospital asked for hospitalization and prescribed a lot of medicine. As a result, the child was almost nervous after taking the medicine, dizzy and disgusting, and his hands were shaking. Later, I saw that the drug was addictive, which scared me enough. I had a little discussion with the child and wouldn't let him bring it.
Personally, I feel that the serious illness certificate sometimes given by the hospital is not true. Mine is not true anyway. Because people who know children don't think this is depression, but what children show in front of doctors is depression.
Second, give the child a lively puppy. I also followed my friend's advice and adopted a little stray dog at the request of my child. The lively nature of the puppy brings a lot of happiness to the children.
Third, understand children and spoil them more. There is really no need to enlighten him. He knows everything. You should do a good job in logistics support for your child, care more about him, pay more attention to his every move and pamper him.
Fourth, play sports with your children. It is said that exercise can produce euphoria and help to relieve depression.
In fact, depression is nothing to be afraid of, just like a cold. You shouldn't regard it as a scourge. Strategically despise, tactically attach importance to. You must stay with him and let him know that you are his strong backing under any circumstances.