First, why don't children listen?
1. Development of sports ability
The baby's physical activity ability is gradually mature, and he is extremely eager to expand his independent activity space, so he constantly tries to do new things independently. At this time, many mothers will block and restrict the baby's behavior, which will make the baby dissatisfied and naturally oppose his mother, so he is "disobedient".
2. Self-awareness development
After the baby is two years old, self-awareness begins to develop, and autonomy and activity enthusiasm are improved. In addition, he began to realize the power of "I" and wanted to participate in everything, but this performance often contradicted your norms. If you impose your will on him, he will resist, leading to frustration and becoming more and more "disobedient" over time.
3. Curiosity is not satisfied
The baby is curious and wants to touch everything. If you don't understand the baby's curiosity and think that the baby is fooling around and being naughty, and restrict his actions, even reprimand and beat him, it will easily cause the baby's dissatisfaction, and "disobedience" will arise.
Second, how to educate a disobedient 2-year-old baby?
1, it is better to listen to him first than to make him obey.
When the baby is about 2 years old, his sense of independence will gradually develop, so you will find that whenever you ask the baby, he will always give his own opinion. Children want to emphasize their existence by denying the opinions and instructions of adults, which is also a way to seek the respect of adults.
Therefore, mothers can grasp the baby's psychology and listen to the baby carefully. The baby is noisy: "I don't want to sleep!" " "If you refute him at this time, it may lead to a scolding war. Therefore, even if the mother is very sad, don't get angry easily, control your emotions, and then squat down and listen to the children.
You can ask him, "Why don't you want to sleep?" When the baby finds that his mother is willing to communicate and understand his thoughts, he will calm down and explain clearly. At this time, mother had better express your attitude in an understanding way: "I know you still want to play with dolls, but it's time for bed." If parents can give their baby a chance to express themselves with an open attitude, then the baby will try to convince you with words next time, instead of just crying and attacking.
Parent-child communication is also an art. Parents should not just listen to their children. Good interaction can enhance mutual understanding, let go of parents' attitude, understand their psychology from the baby's point of view, and give timely feedback to let the baby know their parents' thoughts.
It is better to help him do what he thinks than to let him do what you think.
The baby's sense of independence is not only reflected in his comments on your opinions, but also in his strong demand to do it himself. The baby wants to show his ability to adults by letting him do something by himself, because he feels that his ability is strong enough.
For example, as soon as the baby learns to eat with a spoon, they insist on putting the spoon into the dish of vegetables and trying to scoop up a vegetable. This is not only very difficult, but also will spill food all over the table. At this time, many parents would want to help him, but he refused.
Instead of forcing your baby to do what you want, let him do it himself! Only help him when he really needs you, and help him as much as possible according to his ideas. For example, if a baby has a desire to pick up vegetables, then his mother can teach him how to pick up these long things with chopsticks. Don't stop to state the pros and cons of what the baby wants to do. They don't want to listen to you Standing behind him and giving him help at any time is what the baby wants most!
3, rather than let him understand your thinking, you should understand his thinking.
When communicating with the baby, we rarely take the initiative to put down our parents' attitude and listen to the baby. Differences in thinking make it difficult for parents and babies to understand each other. Since the baby has not learned to look at the problem from your point of view, then parents should take the initiative to understand the baby's thinking!
When we adults say that we can't do this and that, we are actually using adult thinking to control our children. For example, if a baby wants to eat sugar, we usually say, "Eating too much sugar is bad for teeth." Many times, the baby is still "disobedient" and insists on eating. Then the mother can listen to him and let him eat from another angle, but add: "If you eat too much polysaccharide and your teeth hurt, you should go to a doctor for tooth extraction, and you should bear the consequences yourself." In this way, the child feels that you are on his side, but at the same time he can hear you "stop politely".
It is better to play games with him than to reason with him.
Mom and dad always make sense one by one, Monroe hat? Become bored. No baby doesn't like to play, and no baby will really want to hear your long speech. Therefore, instead of reasoning with him, it is better to play games with him and let him entertain and educate in the game!
Role-playing games can strengthen communication between parents and children, and at the same time, children can try to substitute roles and learn to look at problems from the perspective of others. For example, the roles of mother and baby are reversed, and the baby played by mother often steals cakes. In this situation, the mother can guide the baby, "What can you say as a mother to let me know that eating sweets often will make your teeth grow worms?"
Playing games like this is actually instilling these educational ideas into children secretly! Then the next time you say something similar to your baby, the baby will be able to accept it better and know how to look at the problem from the perspective of parents.
It is better to turn your baby into an adult than to turn yourself into a child.
Parents tell their babies to obey, in fact, they will judge and ask their babies' behavior according to the principles and behavior habits of adults. The child is still young, so we don't need to pursue the baby like a little adult. Children have their own childhood and happiness, and should not be bound by rules and regulations. Parents might as well turn themselves into children, have fun with their children and enjoy a wonderful parent-child time!
Parents remain childlike and actively participate in their babies' games and activities. The baby likes watching cartoons. Whenever Superman appears, the baby often can't help but get excited or imitate Superman's cross-death action. Dad can take the initiative to watch with the children, chat with the baby from time to time during the watching process, get excited with the baby when the protagonist appears, and cheer together when the bad guys are defeated. Parents can get in touch with their babies at a distance like children, and their hearts will get closer!
6. Instead of being the baby's "boss", it is better to be his friend.
Parents will inevitably have some dignity as parents. On some principled issues, no matter how the children cry and resist, parents will still say "no" with a straight face, and sometimes even ask their children what you have to do as parents. You can't do this. The relationship between parents and babies should not be command and obedience, and the parent-child relationship is also based on mutual respect. Why don't parents put a low profile and make friends with their babies?
To be a baby's friend, you must participate in the baby's game. Parents can arrange some interactive games with their children, for example, father can teach their children to play chess, or mother and children can play checkers together. Parents can also take their children to the playground, ride the Ferris wheel and roller coaster with them, laugh and shout with them, and let them feel their parents' enthusiasm. Or parents take their children to watch his favorite anime movies, try to feel their children's world with their eyes, and share their hobbies with friends.
Bian Xiao's words: In fact, children's inner world is simple and lovely. No child is born bad. Besides, how bad can children be? In the final analysis, children grow up and study in a family environment, so parents and family are his role models. Parents' behavior has a direct impact on children's behavior. When a child makes a mistake, mothers should correct it immediately. Don't tell the child why and where it is wrong, so that he can understand the truth of being a man.