What's the effect of hitting children often? First, create a gap. Although scolding children can establish dignity, scolding them too much will only make them feel fearful, which will lead to fear and gradually make them afraid to get close to their parents. Other children see their parents hugging, and children in this family see their parents avoiding?
The second is psychological dysplasia. Often scolding children will make their psychological inferiority complex. No matter being beaten or scolded, the child's self-esteem will be worn away. When self-esteem is exhausted by sticks and bad words, children will only feel inferior and will deny themselves in the future. When I was a child, I told my mother not to scold me so that my neighbors could hear me. Because at that time, my neighbors knew that I was wrong and would take me as a topic. It's really shameful to say that.
Third, children will be violent. When a child grows up with scolding, he will implicitly realize that scolding is a useful method to solve problems, and this violent factor will implicitly accompany his growth. In the future, when he encounters problems or educates children, he will be more inclined to solve problems in one way. A violent way.
Fourth, children have a bad temper, and thinking about problems is easy to be extreme. The scene of scolding children is usually full of anger, noisy, tears accompanied by pain, and inner aggression is difficult to solve. Growing up in such an environment, children's temper can't be gentle, and they are most likely to be angry and irritable, unable to think quietly and impulsive!
Fifth, children who are often scolded will have more extreme characteristics in their first personality, such as timidity or excessive naughty rebellion; Second, they have no confidence in themselves and lack initiative; Emotionally, except for parents' psychological conditions such as fear, resentment and hatred, it is difficult to produce love, and at the same time, the sense of self-worth is particularly low, which will affect children's views on things in the future and easily go to extremes. Interpersonal relationships will not be very good.
Sixth, children are often scolded, and some of them will be rebellious and moved to be scolded, and they don't know what is wrong, disgusted and uncomfortable. Such children are prone to problems. Some children are often beaten and cried, and they are afraid, flattering and timid in everything they do. Such children are always bullied by others and dare not make any noise.