Situation 1: The gentlemanly demeanor that people often say seems to never stop with him. All weekend, you were surrounded by trivial chores, sweeping the floor, washing clothes, bask in the quilt, cleaning the room ... but he still buried himself under the covers and fell asleep at noon. Let alone help you share the housework, and even get up and pour you a glass of water without saying hello. Just when you were indignant at his thoughtlessness, he shouted from the bed: Why isn't lunch ready yet? You cough violently in the middle of the night, but he doesn't care about your illness. Instead, he complains that you don't pay attention to your health, so that you wake up the dreamer in the middle of the night; The kitchen was slippery, so I accidentally fell down when I went in. Instead of helping you, he laughed at your stupidity. Go home from work and sigh a few more times. Instead of helping you share your worries, he blames you for pulling a bitter gourd face all day. Although you have a deep resentment towards him, there is nothing you can do. On a cold winter night, a woman longs for a man to say to her, "honey, it's too cold." Go and rest. " When it comes to a man's mouth, it becomes "why is it so cold in the room? Did you forget to close the window?" At this time, a woman's heart is probably colder than her body. Women need men's consideration and care, but men are extremely stingy about it. People often compare men to dirt and women to water. A man's head is always as stiff as mud, and a woman's heart is always as delicate and sensitive as running water. The man's eyes, however, seem to be blocked by mud, and he can't see the eager and considerate eyes of women. However, men are not considerate, and it is not all because they are clumsy. Behind the seemingly dull, men also hide deeper psychological reasons. 1. He has been spoiled since he was a child. He was kept in a honey pot since he was a child, and everyone in his family regarded him as a treasure. With a mouthful of food and clothes, he has long been used to being served. Everything you do, he takes it for granted, and you are willing. He doesn't understand the hardships of others, let alone others. 2. Rude and insensitive, there is no better adjective except that his head is a rotten piece of wood. Hints don't work on him. Your strangeness, your pain, your bad mood ... don't waste your time, he won't notice at all. In his eyes, your makeup and makeup removal have not changed, let alone expect him to understand your changing mood. He is healthy, strong and optimistic, but he doesn't know much about female psychology. When you are frustrated, he will think that you don't care as much as he does, and you can get up quickly when you fall. So, when you told him your depressed mood, he just laughed it off and thought you were making a mountain out of a molehill.
In marriage, PK Wisdom Cheng Yi is depressed in bed. Although she was hungry and uncomfortable, she didn't feel tired at all. Looking at the man sleeping like a dead pig around her, she almost had the idea of strangling him. It happened this afternoon. Cheng yisu has dysmenorrhea. At the end of work this afternoon, she almost fainted again. At home, Cheng Yi didn't even have the strength to stand, let alone cook with fire. Thinking that the man was going to leave work soon and was unable to cook, she called him: "honey, I'm not feeling well today." I didn't cook dinner. Eat outside and come back. " She thought that the man would go home early and bring her a hot dinner when he received her phone call. However, the meter didn't hear the sound of the key opening the door until 9 o'clock. Not only that, she didn't see the expected dinner. What made her even more chilling was that the man just glanced at the meter lying in bed and said, "You went to bed so early." He turned and walked to the living room and picked up the remote control. Cheng Yi think impassability. She called him and told him that she was not feeling well and why he was not feeling well at all. Even if you don't eat, why don't you even have ordinary greetings? Cheng Yi remembered that not only today, men never seem to know how to be considerate of themselves-Cheng Yi cleans the living room, while men knock melon seeds everywhere; Cheng Yi was ill, and the man asked her to help buy beer. Cheng Yigang came out of the shower, but the man turned the air conditioning temperature to the lowest, almost freezing her to death. Thinking about thinking, Cheng Yi felt that he couldn't stand it any longer. In this way, she feels that she has no confidence and perseverance to continue living with men. According to Cheng, it is necessary to have a good talk with men. Whatever the outcome, at least tell me how you feel. Weekend is always the best time to talk, you can get rid of the troubles of work, and you don't have to worry that the bad mood after the quarrel will affect tomorrow's work. The next day was the weekend, and gauge made an exception and didn't do any housework. Since getting up in the morning, she has been sitting quietly in bed reading her favorite books. All morning, the man didn't notice gauge's unusual behavior, until he was hungry, only to find that his wife didn't mean to cook lunch at all. "What's the matter with you? When are you still not cooking? " The man asked gauge angrily. "I remember telling you that I was sick and didn't have the strength to cook." Gauge calmly answered the man. "Nonsense, when did you say you were sick!" Men really can't remember when Cheng Yi said such a thing. "Yesterday afternoon, I called to tell you. Maybe you were too tired to notice. " "Yes, I may be too tired. What about you now? " The man scratched his scalp and tried to ask gauge. "I haven't eaten since last night. I don't think I have the strength to get up and cook lunch. " "Why ..." The man's head will never understand. "I told you I wasn't feeling well. I thought you would care about me. At least ask me what's wrong, or if I ate. But you ate and drank outside and didn't ask me at all! You know I really need you ... "Looking at the man's callous face, Cheng Yi could no longer control his lacrimal gland. "I wish I had told you earlier ... well, have you taken any medicine? I will buy it for you. " The man realized that he had made a mistake, but his words were still full of sophistry. "It's not a matter of medicine. I have dysmenorrhea. I don't think I have the strength to cook. If you are hungry, go and find something to eat yourself. " Gauge stopped paying attention to men. She was really angry. The man is a little silent. "all right." Then he got up and went out. Looking at the man's back, Cheng Yi's tears wet the page. To Cheng's surprise, half an hour later, the man came back with two boxes of lunch in his hand. "I think you are hungry. Eat. " The man put one of them in front of Cheng Yi and went to the living room to enjoy his lunch without saying anything superfluous.
Men are very concerned. Although the man's actions are rude and short, and he doesn't say anything about care, Cheng Yi can clearly feel that he cares about himself. Her heart suddenly lit up. It's not that a man really doesn't understand her, but that gauge needs a little skill to induce his tenderness. "I think I have to cultivate him slowly." Eating the food brought back by the man, Cheng Yixiao. This lunch is a dawn for Cheng Yi. Early in the morning, the autumn rain outside the window continued. In order to let him feel the warmth of the quilt when he was asleep, you got up in the rain and bought him breakfast. The chill of late autumn is close to the bone marrow, and the cold rain makes your immune system completely fail. So, you're sick. You are lying in bed depressed, and you hope he can take care of you, even if it is a warm word. However, there is nothing, no forcing you to take medicine, no words of concern, and he doesn't even know that you are sick. You only heard him mutter to himself before going to sleep: "I went to bed so early today." Men really don't care about men, don't know how to care about men, and are even stupid enough to throw stones when women need them most. Women are disgusted with them, but they are helpless. Many women simply give up hope. They comforted themselves that he was that kind of character and wouldn't hurt anyone. As long as the couple are friendly, his mind will be dull. As we all know, women think this way, giving men a step to step down. Thoughtfulness is a necessary condiment in marriage. A person who doesn't care about you, a person who doesn't care at all, can we really spend our lives with him? The answer is no, because mutual care is one of the important factors to maintain the stability and harmony of marriage. No one really gives without asking for anything in return, especially in marriage. Women may be able to tolerate men's thoughtlessness and gentleness in a short time and find various excuses for it, but in this warm marriage relationship, women must have complaints and gradually accumulate them in their hearts. Finally, women's bad emotions will erupt with the induction of a certain factor, while men will be deeply puzzled by women's sudden emotionalization, but they will blame women for being out of thin air. In this way, the contradiction between the two people will intensify, and it is very likely that it will eventually evolve into a war at home. Caring for children is the nature of parents. Besides, no one is born to think of others. Men, not all natural lovers, know how to be caring and attentive to women. Even some seemingly considerate men, their gentleness is also tempered by emotional tempering. In fact, every man is an unpolished rough jade, which needs a woman to carve slowly with her patience and perseverance. Women, don't care about men's callous eyes. If the man is the stupid puppy in the conditioned reflex experiment, we are Pavlov who controls everything in the laboratory. Women must use wisdom to let men know that it is important to learn to be considerate! Tips for women 1. Be proud of him-when you are in a bad mood or overworked, don't just hold on. Tell him gently that you need him now. Every man has the dignity of a gentleman, and he will be proud when he knows that you need him so much. In order to maintain this sense of pride, being close to you and caring about you will naturally become something he is willing to do. 2. Infiltrate considerate thoughts-men will never know how to be considerate of women without training. Women should tell men their needs in time, such as getting comfort from him when they are tired, getting care from him when they are sick and so on. As long as I get home, the pestle can be ground into a needle, not to mention a man who is immersed in the details of life every day! 3. Give him the opportunity to put himself in his shoes-you have been taking care of him and caring for him. For him, all your efforts are worth it. Interrupt his dream, find a chance, pretend not to see when he is sick, pretend not to hear when he is thirsty, and let him taste the taste of not being stuck by the human body. Attack his shield with his spear; If he wants to learn how to be considerate of women, he must first learn to put himself in others' shoes.