Around children, more problems have emerged: internet addiction, weariness of learning, depression, anxiety, compulsion, conduct disorder, environmental discomfort, running away from home ... These problems not only plague children, but also plague teachers and parents.
Children suffer, parents grieve, and teachers have headaches. Parents can't control it, teachers can't teach it well, and good children can't do it. What happened?
What is the reason for this?
1. Reasons for exam-oriented education
Examination-oriented education is a derogatory term, which is relative to quality education. Exam-oriented education is also called "continuing education", which emphasizes "double basics" and ability and intelligence factors. This is understandable, but the problem lies in one-sided education.
Through nearly a hundred years of human education and teaching practice, it is proved that the teaching content pursued by synchronous teaching (class teaching system) is double basic education, that is, the education of basic knowledge and skills. Double basic education simply attaches importance to instilling knowledge and skills into students, but ignores the cultivation of students' learning practice and ability, moral education and the improvement of people's comprehensive quality. It is a one-sided education with serious defects.
(1) Exam-oriented education attaches importance to intelligence, ignoring morality, physique, beauty and labor; Attach importance to the subjects to be tested, ignoring elective and exemption subjects. I once took my students to the middle school attached to a key school to participate in a chemistry competition, and found that all subjects except the number of senior high school entrance examinations and Chinese were cancelled in the third grade course, which can be described as extremely true and extreme.
(2) Exam-oriented education attaches importance to the quantity of knowledge, ignoring the development of students' quality and self-inquiry ability. China students are rich in knowledge, but they often lack the spirit of innovation and being the first in the world. Ironically, the thunderous educational reform now is dominated by spoon-fed talents in the past. Are they really ready?
(3) Exam-oriented education emphasizes theory, ignoring activity classes and social practice classes; Emphasize simple "efficient" teaching methods, ignoring students' active discovery methods. Examination-oriented education does not respect the existence of people, can not mobilize the initiative of students, and is simplified as mechanical processing.
(D) exam-oriented education pays attention to "good students" and ignores most students, especially poor students. Under the triple pressure of society, family and school, school education has become a serious knockout. Three or two talented people sacrificed a large piece. We should know that basic education (including senior high school, junior college, vocational high school and adult high school) is an ordinary universal education that serves most people. Cultivating a few talents and delaying more people embodies the extreme utility of exam-oriented education.
2. Reasons for family education
Educator makarenko once said a classic sentence: "Everything is given to children, everything is sacrificed, even our own happiness. This is the most terrible gift parents give their children. "
First, there is a huge difference between preschool education and adult education.
Throughout history, China people have never lacked wisdom, but there is no doubt that we lack innovation, adaptability and competitiveness. Parents are children's first teachers, but if our teachers suffer from psychological violence since childhood, and the old ideas are not updated with the development of society, what a terrible treatment we will enjoy when the heavy responsibility of education falls on them again! ..... early education: ability is better than intelligence.
(A) the proportion of only children is large, and an important feature of family education is that emotional factors dilute rational factors.
An only child is cared for by four grandparents and two parents, and the core position of the child is surrounded by excessive love. It is easy for them to develop into serious personality defects such as "only know how to be loved, but don't know how to love others", "advanced physical development, lagging mental maturity", "advanced consumption, lagging morality", "too dependent and weak ability".
Our children, under the cultivation of the first teacher, have never established an independent personality at all. This is not the fault of parents, but the sorrow of China's family education.
(2) Parents are eager to make their children (girls) successful, but they don't know the laws and methods of educating their children (girls) to become talents.
I'm afraid this is not entirely the fault of China's parents, because many parents are still struggling for survival. But one thing is certain, that is, today they think it is good to be an official, so they tell their children to study hard and strive to be a big official in the future; If they think writing a book will make money tomorrow, they will buy a bunch of literary works and let their children study hard. ..... childhood, what need to experience?
Of course, parents' own qualities are also very different, and the corresponding practices will be different to varying degrees. Even so, there is no doubt that China's family education lacks foresight and stage, or has targeted and directionless behavior to children's future education mode and direction.
Even, this phenomenon has two extremes. First, parents completely enslave their children, that is, parents keep their word and let you go to the East, but you dare not go to the West. Second, parents completely ignore their children's "wildness". They never tell you to go east or west. You can beat the dog or drive the chicken at will. But in any case, the consequences of completely ignoring or paying too much attention to family education are not satisfactory.
Besides doting, strict China parents' neglect of their children's non-intellectual factors is also quite terrible. In this regard, many parents seriously stifle their children's non-intellectual factors such as psychology, emotion, will and interest according to their own way of thinking. From the age of three or four or even earlier, parents began to ignore their children's playful nature, blindly ordering their children to learn Chinese characters, recite Tang poems, recite Song poems and practice arithmetic, blindly learning knowledge and blindly directing education, leaving behind non-intellectual factors such as children's self-esteem, self-confidence, persistence and innovation ability.
(3) Although parents' awareness of education has increased, they do not have enough time and energy, and their lives are almost full of material support.
(4) There are many and complicated social factors, and the controllability of family education, especially sex education, has become a stumbling block to the smooth growth of children to some extent.
3. The reasons for school education
The pain of education lies not in the heavy burden of our teachers and the multiple tasks of our students, but in the fact that there is no way to bind our educational ideas and educational behaviors, which makes the whole education system face the dilemma of "two skins". On the one hand, it is the vigorous education of advanced educational concepts, and on the other hand, it is the outdated education and teaching methods and education assessment system, which have become two completely different systems in actual education and teaching.
In our curriculum concept, we emphasize students and pay attention to their thinking quality, world outlook and methodology, emotional goals and sustainable development. The role of teachers has changed fundamentally, not only imparting knowledge, but also promoting students to learn, develop and build courses; Not only the traditional educators, but also the learners, researchers and organizers of the new teaching relationship. Another important goal of the new curriculum is to emphasize reducing the burden on teachers and students. The ultimate goal of evaluation is to "promote development", dilute the screening and selection functions of evaluation, pay attention to the development needs of teachers and students, highlight the incentive and adjustment functions of evaluation, stimulate the internal development motivation of teachers and students, and urge them to make continuous progress and realize their own values. The goal of teacher evaluation is to establish an evaluation system to promote the continuous improvement of teachers' professional ethics and education level, change the long-standing practice of taking students' academic performance as the only criterion for teacher evaluation, and establish a diversified new evaluation standard for teachers' growth. The goal of student evaluation is to establish an evaluation system to evaluate students' all-round development, which not only pays attention to students' academic achievements, but also discovers and develops students' various potentials, helping students to know themselves, establish self-confidence and develop continuously at the original level.
4. Social and environmental reasons
The current social environment is conducive to children's personality development, and our society is more conducive to children's personality development than ever before. The problem lies in education. Our education is still "two skins". Our parents and teachers will "lie" and say things against their conscience.
This is not a question of the morality of parents and teachers. It is the reason why some educational concepts are too conservative, stale and outdated. Our educational methods, educational ideas, educational forms and educational contents need to be improved in many aspects. It does not adapt to the cultural environment of social development, which makes modern education vague and powerless.
This is an era of rapid development
This is an era of diversified information.
Many traditional things are bound to be impacted in the development and even replaced by new things. This is the inevitable development of social history, and there is nothing to make a fuss about. There is nothing wrong with bringing forth the new. Our traditional ideas must adapt to the development of the times. In other words, it is not that the environment is not conducive to children's personality development, but that our parents and teachers are not adapted to today's educational environment. In short, our educational philosophy does not match the environment in which children grow up. For example, this is an era of rapid development of information technology, which has brought revolutionary changes, and the use of computers has become a common thing in life. However, you have to let the child put down the calculator and use the abacus; You want your children to read thread-bound books instead of surfing the Internet ... Do you think your education is still alive?
On the other hand, it is unwise for any society, family or kindergarten to avoid problems. There is nothing wrong with telling children about social problems truthfully.
5. Reasons for cultural development and change
Children's views on things and psychological conditions come from the information deposition of three systems. These three systems are: family system, school system and social system.
From 2004 to 2007, the central government will invest 654.38 billion yuan in education reform in the western region. Revising the code of conduct for primary and secondary school students and implementing the law on the protection of minors have given great attention and expectation to students as a resource. However, at present, primary and secondary schools are basic education, and their teacher resources and information channels (textbooks) are the "bottleneck" factors that restrict the development and transformation of students' resources. As far as the score line of college entrance examination is concerned, the enrollment score line of normal colleges (universities) is not obviously high, which leads to the shortage of teacher resources. As a result of its vicious circle, it is more difficult to improve the teaching staff of ordinary schools. Coupled with the role of social system forces, such as: teachers have few opportunities for promotion, low wages, and spouses are unemployed. Will make the "bottleneck" smaller and smaller.
Social recognition of schools is judged by the number of students admitted to key middle schools and universities, not by how much inspiration and influence students receive at school and how much ability to survive and adapt after entering society. Due to this abnormal social and psychological influence, all the students admitted to key middle schools and universities are good students, and those admitted to Tsinghua and Peking University are the darlings of heaven, with boundless prospects, respected by people and recognized as high-quality resources by the society. But aren't the students who didn't go to college national resources? Should they kill themselves and disappear? Imagine sitting in a sedan chair: everyone likes to sit rather than carry it, but what if everyone carries it or holds it?
In today's information age, Internet, TV, movies and magazines all convey information with their own economic purposes. It is often combined with adult entertainment learning and presented to students in a liberalized way. Because students' recognition and grasp of information are influenced by "material accumulation" and have different performances, they have reference, fantasy, exclusiveness and fuzziness in love, sex, ethics, morality, career and future.
According to the survey, 56% of students want to know "the current situation of studying at school" (the ratio of male to female is 50/50); My parents want me to learn 3%; 9% (including 74% boys and 26% girls) hate this kind of learning; 17% (half male and half female) are indifferent to learning. Therefore, under the direct or indirect influence of social environment, students' psychological vulnerability, blindness, limitations and instability have been fully demonstrated, which makes students doubt and be confused about their future. This is a very dangerous psychological phenomenon.
There are too many phenomena of "strong desire" at present. That is, in the eyes of parents and schools, children and students are often regarded as "replicas" of personal desires or objects of personal goals, and as their own "private property". The comparison between schools, the comparison between colleagues, the pressure from all walks of life and their own loss are all implicated or spread to children.
"One person pays attention to the key points, and the whole family (school) is glorious!" This phenomenon is really common. What society gives children is not a relatively "free space and sincere environment", but a form of "ego (individual or collective), desire (hope or intention), determination (plan or goal), restriction (regulation or sanction), comparison (comparison or ostentation)", which realizes personal intentions by a means of repression and coercion. This phenomenon, this environment, whether the students as a resource body? Don't! That is simply trampling on human resources, trampling on students' psychology, and being irresponsible to the country and society!
Due to the influence of market economy, material and spiritual life is improving and changing day by day. Coupled with various forms of cultural life, some families have been dismantled and reorganized, leading to changes in children's emotions and psychology. According to the survey, 85% of juvenile offenders come from single-parent families and reorganized families, and 70% of them spend their time in Internet cafes. The phenomenon of students' "5+2=0" is sometimes manifested (that is, no matter how rich and progressive the five-day education in the school is, once the two-day rest on Saturday and Sunday is added, the children's educational achievements in the first five days will be zero due to unrestricted contact with the social environment). Children's understanding and judgment of things in the social environment is determined by the amount of "material accumulation". Therefore, the social environment has strong plasticity and inducement for children.
6. The reason of interpersonal environment
Many parents think that the Internet is harmful to their children, especially online games. Many schools have advised students not to surf the Internet. But the researcher's conclusion is just the opposite: Internet addiction is just a symptom, and behind it is a child's deep psychological problem.
"Internet addiction is a deformed problem in China. It is a comprehensive reflection of many problems in China. " Gao Wenbin said: "The key lies in education. Our education must keep up with the pace of the times, otherwise young people will not be able to stand it, and our nation will pay for it. "
The core factor of internet addiction is the single evaluation system of the school. In our primary and secondary schools, the core evaluation system is achievement.
Gao Wenbin believes that another reason is the lack of frame of reference in growth. Nowadays, children attend classes at school and are taken home by their parents after school, so they have no time to play with their friends. At school, there is a ten-minute break between classes. But on the Internet, he suddenly found so many friends and switched to the Internet.
There are also problems with the school curriculum. "Our current school education is called castration education, and all the courses are set according to the growth law of girls. Emphasis on memory and repetition, not as competitive and wild as boys like. In China, Internet addiction is mainly caused by online games, which has a lot to do with it. Games are all about fighting monsters, upgrading and providing such competitive and' wild' things, which are very attractive to boys. Instead, girls are particularly addicted. Just because girls are usually not interested in these things, there is no content on the Internet that particularly attracts girls. "
However, all the teenagers in China grew up in this environment, not all of them are addicted to the Internet, so there are individual problems as well as environmental problems.
Family is the dominant factor of Internet addiction. First of all, it is almost certain that at least one of the parents of Internet addiction teenagers is a neurotic perfectionist. Such parents have long accused and criticized their children, which has hit their self-confidence. In this way, once the child makes any mistakes, he turns to the internet for comfort. Second, most children with Internet addiction have lost their father's function, and the role of father in children's growth is very small. Many dads are busy with work and have no time to spend with their children. Father plays a very important role in the formation of children's control. Once the father's function is missing, the child's self-control will go wrong.
Education is the key and cornerstone of everyone's healthy growth, and it is a complex systematic project. Education in a complete sense should be composed of family, school and society. In China, the division and defects of education, especially the weaknesses and disadvantages of family education, are undoubtedly exposed. With the birth and growth of children, the contradiction, one-sidedness and strangeness of education can not be ignored. In the face of contradictions, if there is no proper solution, then there is only one result: the compromise of one party to the contradiction. It is a silent struggle for children to choose to skip classes on the internet, even part of their love-an extreme route combining reason and impulse.
The birth of differences is, on the one hand, the rapid growth of children, the continuous establishment and stability of interpersonal relationships such as new environment and new friends, on the other hand, the strangeness of parents to their children. I often don't meet each other, and I just say a few polite words after meeting. In the end, children become the most familiar strangers to their parents. What is familiar is their past, and what is unfamiliar is their spirit and future. References:
Zhengzhou Meiling psychological consulting network