Find a psychiatrist or something to enlighten you and help you find a point. You can't communicate without common ground. The cold war is not the way. Life is to live your own life. This is in favor. Maybe your mother had some experience before and changed her outlook on life. You can learn about it from the older generation. She is your mother, of course she loves you. The key is communication. That's all I thought of. I hope your relationship can change as soon as possible.