When you are afraid, fatherly love is a stepping stone;

When it is dark, father's love is a lamp;

When tired, father's love is a bay of life water;

When working hard, fatherly love is the spiritual pillar;

When successful, fatherly love is encouragement and vigilance.

Father, for every child, has different meanings, but one thing is common. He is an irreplaceable and indispensable role in the process of children's growth.

The importance of father in family education also determines the role of father in family education.

So, how should a father educate his children and play his role well?

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-Boys-

The growth of boys

Need father's guidance

Many parents believe that mother's education is more important in the process of children's growth.

However, this is not the case.

Gerdi, a famous psychologist, said: "Father is a unique existence and has a special power to cultivate children."

Father is a brave textbook for children, and father is a guide for children to go to the world.

Wu Zhenyu will tell Feynman when being questioned and attacked by others: "Those screams and shouts will only ruin your future life."

Reagan's father would ask him to pay compensation through his work when he accidentally broke the window of his neighbor's house, and told him, "It is the responsibility to bear the fault through his own labor."

When boys grow up, their father is the object they often imitate.

They need to find their own position and see their future through the correct guidance of their father.

Father's words and deeds

It's a life lesson for children.

American child psychologists believe that the process of children's learning social behavior depends on imitation in the process of observing others' behavior.

We often hear these words:

"Your children are so much like you";

"Your son looks exactly like his father";

You have the same temper as your father.

From birth, children are imitating their parents' behaviors, language habits and even various preferences.

Therefore, the establishment of children's world outlook depends largely on parents' words and deeds.

In this process, the advantages of father in education have been fully reflected.

In the face of children's setbacks and difficulties, fathers are more qualified to ignore them when educating their children, and children are more likely to become calm children.

In the face of children's problems, fathers know how to be willing and defensive when educating children, and children are more likely to become independent children.

Dobson, a child psychologist, wrote a sentence in Raising Daughters: A child's self-worth and self-confidence are directly related to her relationship with her father.

Every child is a blank sheet of paper. In the process of growing up, it is inevitable to draw a stroke that belongs to the father, and the decision of this pattern is in the hands of every father.

Father's company

It is the best gift for children.

Teacher Wu Zhihong said:

"Love and companionship are far more important than education. Healthy, harmonious and intimate parent-child relationship is the cornerstone of children's personality. "

In most families, the father is a serious and silent image, and they always keep their love for their children in their hearts.

This is also the reason why many children feel the lack of fatherly love and are not close to their fathers.

All these will affect children's childhood and even their whole life.

Wu Zhenyu once talked about his father in an interview. He said with tears in his eyes, "My father has always been very strict with me. If only he could play with me like I played with my son when I was a child. "

This is a father's love that he can't understand, and it is also a regret that he can't make up for all his life.

Today, he made up for this regret and became the best "friends" with Feynman.

Psychologists have found that children who are often accompanied by their fathers have good adaptability to different environments. Father and children often play games, which will make children interact with others more actively and healthily and improve their social communication ability.

Father is more than just a title.

Be a father who will accompany his children, even if there are only ten minutes of fun and communication every day, you must know that all great education is not as good as a father who knows how to accompany his children!

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Girls

Please ask your daughter to be brave.

Not perfect.

Meg Mick wrote this passage in the book Dad is a Mountain:

"The father is more important than anyone else to lay the trajectory of his daughter's life and is the real' backing' of her daughter's life."

Huang Lei's daughter, Huang Duoduo, has searched hot search for her clothes and costumes many times.

Many people say that she is precocious, and even that she is nothing like a student.

Fortunately, her father Huang Lei was not among the attackers.

She is still the Huang Duoduo who dares to be herself instead of being the perfect child in others' eyes.

In the new issue of Life I yearn for, Huang Lei's education of his "daughter" Zifeng Zhang is also worth pondering by many fathers.

When Zifeng Zhang faced the "voice" from the outside world, he told her to have the courage to face everything, bear the ups and downs in life, enjoy life and be a happy child.

As fathers, we can't shelter our daughter from the wind and rain for life, but we can teach her the courage to face the wind and rain and the ability to take care of herself.

Father is leading the children.

Lighthouse on the way forward

Writer Meg Mick wrote this sentence in the book:

"Compared with anyone else, the father is the one who can lay the trajectory of his daughter's life."

A good father is an indispensable beacon in her daughter's life, illuminating her life.

In the movie "Perfect Stranger", Sophia feels uneasy because of an invitation from a friend. Her father told her not to do something just because others would be unhappy.

Jiang, a character who touched China, once felt inferior because of deafness and wanted to give up his life. Her father told her not to compare with others. Everyone has problems to overcome.

A psychological report from the University of Michigan once pointed out that 69% of girls think that their self-confidence comes from their father's encouragement.

Whether in life or in life, a father's education for his daughter can help her find the direction of life and grow into a better self.

A visionary father

Know how to set rules for your daughter.

American psychologists have found that 20% of a person's success depends on his innate qualifications and 80% depends on his father's teaching.

In the same sentence, father's influence on children is 50 times that of mother.

When Li Chengxuan and her daughter lucky went out to record the program, lucky climbed into the cart carrying the goods without her father.

Li Chengxuan warned her many times, but she still didn't keep the agreement.

Therefore, Li Chengxuan asked Lucky to stand up as a punishment. Although she cried her eyes out, Li Chengxuan did not compromise.

Afterwards, when lucky calmed down, he explained why he was angry and told lucky that some rules could not be broken when faced with security and principle issues.

Li Chengxuan let Laki understand and learn the rules, which is the best umbrella for a father to give his children.

Many parents think that children are still young and should be allowed to grow up freely. Premature restraint will only make the parent-child relationship worse and worse.

However, love without rules is a knife that hurts.

"Love children" and "make rules" have never been a single choice.

The Welsh poet george herbert once said: A good father is better than 100 good teachers.

So, please remember every dad:

Give the children more time. No one is a born educator, but your company determines the speed of his growth and the width of his life.

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