Moral cultivation in behavior. It is the result of social influence, family education, school education and personal cultivation, especially the code of conduct and ethics developed in the family since childhood.
The dictionary says: politeness refers to the expression of modesty and respect in speech acts; Education refers to the cultivation of general culture and morality.
[Edit this paragraph] Explain in detail
Politeness and upbringing are not the same thing. Politeness is only one of the manifestations of upbringing. People who know manners may not be educated, but educated people usually know how to observe manners in their environment. For example, a well-educated farmer will observe the manners and manners in the countryside well.
On the relationship between politeness and upbringing;
Politeness is external and superficial, and can be put on by training and deliberately. Education, on the other hand, comes from the heart, which is the inherent quality of the combination of environment, education and experience. In other words, a person is polite and likable, but his heart may be selfish and hypocritical. But a person's education is not only manifested in external behavior, but also shows that his connotation and moral quality are good.
When it comes to education at first, I now know that if you don't show everything out of sincerity, it's just politeness, but polite behavior may change your attitude after a period of persistence and become heartfelt, and politeness will be transformed into education. From this point of view, politeness seems to be the basis of education, and it is the training process to obtain quantitative changes in education.
A good education is a natural and heartfelt behavior. Being kind to others is a kind of nature, not compulsory learning. I am with farmers in Italy, Jamaica and the western United States. Although they are engaged in manual labor, they are naturally humble and polite.
[Edit this paragraph] Education and courtesy
Education and politeness are different and interrelated. The difference is that education reflects people's essential quality and moral level, and reflects a positive attitude and behavior towards themselves and others, while politeness is only an external behavior of humility and respect when people communicate with each other. Their connection is that educated people always use politeness when they get along with others. Therefore, we can neither say that a person who is polite in social occasions but always speaks ill of others in private is educated, nor that a person who is very enthusiastic about helping others is educated.
In other words, we need not only the beauty and perfection of internal moral quality, but also the courtesy and propriety of external behavior. The unity of the two helps us to establish good interpersonal relationships with others. Otherwise, others will either "avoid us" (if we are hypocrites) or "stay away from us" (if we are enthusiastic people who are full of foul language).
The core of education
"Cultivation" plays an important role in good interpersonal relationships, such as caring for others, respecting others, being measured, understanding, gentle, paying attention to details, caring for others, being broad-minded, sincere, open and aboveboard, and so on.
The essence of education is caring for people. Because I care, I can pay attention to and accurately grasp the scale of communication, leaving necessary private space for others; We will overcome all kinds of inconveniences and make our behavior conform to the requirements of social morality; Pay attention to the use of polite expressions everywhere and strive to create a gentle and peaceful atmosphere.
There is a basic principle in interpersonal communication: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. You care about others, be considerate, thoughtful, sincere, decent, respectful and decent, and others will usually treat you in turn. Over time, you will have interpersonal attraction, and your social communication and social identity needs will be fully met. So you will create a good interpersonal environment conducive to sustainable development.
In this way, you have one of the most important external resources that a person can rely on: healthy interpersonal relationships.
Therefore, the concern in education is a great concern for people and themselves, which is helpful for interpersonal communication to enter a virtuous circle.
[Edit this paragraph] Behavior Guide
1. Don't just watch when someone pours you water. Hold it with your hand as a sign of courtesy.
You should at least be able to answer when others are talking to you. You can't say the last sentence, you don't have the next sentence, or you can just say ah, right, right.
When people stare at you, don't look directly at them and pretend not to notice.
4, in a bad mood, even the best skin care products and cosmetics can remedy the skin.
5, poor sleep, will make people incoherent, slow response, prominent dark circles.
6. When others release "poisonous gas", you can't avoid it, nor can you fan the wind in disgust and pretend as if nothing has happened.
7. When reprimanded by the leader, don't bow your head, look directly at the leader and accept criticism, and the fire of the leader will slowly go out, otherwise the leader will add fuel to the fire.
8. A woman can't ask a man for money with her palms up all her life.
9. When you leave after dinner, you say, "I'm finished. Please enjoy your meal. "
10, it must be handed water and rice with both hands.
1 1, don't sit up in the chair.
12, eat the bowl, don't pick the plate, don't knock the bowl with chopsticks.
13. Remember to close the door when you come in last.
14. If you send someone away, you should say, "Go slowly."
15, it is impolite not to wash your hands and throw water on others.
16, pass the knife to others, remember to pass the end of the handle.
17, don't expose the shortcomings of others.
18, don't be distracted when listening to others. This is very impolite.
19, don't point the spout at others after pouring tea for them.
20. When you stand, you have a standing posture, and when you sit, you have a sitting posture.
2 1. When you meet a door that can be opened from the inside out, pull it instead of pushing it.
22. When you say it, you must do it. Don't promise if you can't do it.
23, don't be greedy for petty gain, don't be greedy for money, no matter how much money you spend!
24. When someone is in the room, close the door quietly when you go out.
The world doesn't believe in tears.
26. It is better to let others spend time to keep themselves than to spend time to keep others.
27. People who are poor are not poor.
28. When serving others rice or tea, if there is a person in the middle, don't pass in front of others, but bypass them from behind.
29. Your own ability is the real ability.
30. Learn to be gentle and listen.
3 1, go to other people's homes, don't sit in their beds.
32, clink glasses with others on the wine table, your cup must be lower than the other party, especially when the other party is an elder or leader, stand up and show respect when toasting.
33. Take an umbrella and dry food on sunny days-it's always good to plan ahead.
34. If you ask others, they won't answer you. Don't keep asking.
Try not to make any noise when eating.
36. Squat down when carrying things or putting on shoes, and don't bend over and pout-especially girls.
When someone criticizes you, even if he is wrong, don't refute it first, and then explain it when everyone calms down-be generous. '
38. Enough is enough, whether it is eating your favorite food or losing your temper.
39. After dinner at a friend's house, take the initiative to help wash the dishes and clean the table-the host has been cooking very hard and can't let the host clean up afterwards.
You will meet all kinds of people in your life. You can't get along well with everyone, but one thing is universal: how you treat others, others will treat you.
4 1, big hospitality, small housekeeping.
42. Take back your fist in order to fight back more forcefully.
43. To live in this world, we must first learn the word "forbearance".
Don't tell anyone your secret easily at any time.
45. Money is not saved, but spent to earn.
There is no end to learning, not only to learn books, but also to learn how to treat people. This society is far more complicated than you think.
47. Don't discuss the right and wrong of your boss or other colleagues with your colleagues. Your careless words are likely to be evidence that others attacked you.
48. It is your duty to do things well, and it is your dereliction of duty to do things badly.
49, only the wrong buy, not the wrong sell. Don't just be greedy and cheap.
50. Sometimes loneliness is normal. Don't be afraid. You should adjust yourself.
5 1. I have real friends, but I wonder if you are lucky enough to meet them. Don't deny it whether you meet it or not. Don't calculate others, especially the person you like. Don't use means to get the person you like.
52. The bravest thing is to know the truth of life and love it. Don't be afraid of cheating, but you should know that there are cheating in the world.
53. When borrowing money, you must have a bottom in mind, that is, you must think that the money will not come back. Therefore, the money you lend should always be within the range of losses you can bear. Within the tolerable amount, even if I can't come back, I am prepared. You can't borrow the amount you can't afford to lose.
Between the best friends, unless he is too poor to eat, it is best not to have economic exchanges. Many valuable friendships have been destroyed by money.
55. A gentleman can refer to things, but he should not pay attention to things.
56. Be patient when you go out, and take a step back.
57. Wipe the table in your own direction.
58. The first sentence when making a phone call and answering the phone must be hello; When you hang up, if the other person is an elder or your boss, wait until the other person hangs up. If you are an elder or your own boss, hang up first and don't keep the other party waiting.
59. A hundred infidelities are not allowed.
60. Don't spit and throw things everywhere. If there is no trash can, take it home and throw it in the trash can.
6 1, reading more books is good for the soul, and you will see a wider world.
62. It is you who adapt to the society, not the society adapts to you.
Don't let others know what you really think, laugh in front of others and cry alone.
Don't put your hands in your pockets when you walk.
65. Simple things are complicated to do, and complicated things are simple to do.
66. Opportunities are only reserved for those who are prepared, and nothing will fall in the sky.
67. Brush your teeth carefully under any circumstances, especially at night.
68. Be sure to have breakfast in the morning and drink a glass of water without breakfast.
69. Talk less about other people's right and wrong and mind your own business.
You are priceless.
7 1. Girls and boys have to pay for going out.
72. Be responsible for your actions, don't blame others, think about whether you should do it before you do it, and learn to solve problems yourself.
73. If you want to get ahead in front of others, you must suffer in front of others.
74. If it is a spring door, whether it is pulling or pushing, please go out first and then enter. If someone is behind you, you should take the initiative to hold the door to prevent it from bouncing back and photographing others. Be sure to say thank you when others open the door for themselves.
Politeness should be for everyone, whether it's the boss, the elders, the waiter in the restaurant, or the old man picking up garbage on the roadside.
76. Don't cut in line. All you get is a few seconds of waiting. But what you lose is others' affirmation of your quality. If it is really urgent, explain the situation to the person in front of you. At this time, most people will take the initiative to let you stand first )
77. Don't pursue the last laugh, but see who laughs last.
78. Fill up the wine and pour half the tea. In China, wine should be poured to show respect. In foreign countries, or for foreign guests, especially red wine, no matter who arrives, it must be less than half or a third of a glass.
79. When you come back from a friend's house in the evening, be sure to tell your friend that you are at home. No matter what others do, it is polite. If a friend comes home at night, send a text message to ask him if he is home.
80. Come back from the outside. If you cook a hot meal at home, you can't eat it right away. You should get used to this temperature. It is best to drink warm water to warm your teeth. I heard that this can prevent toothache and premature tooth loss.
8 1, dinner, every time a dish is served, let the leaders and elders move chopsticks first, or take the initiative to turn over the dishes in front of them.
82. When others are sleeping, try to lower the volume of walking, doing things or talking.
The economy is good, but don't be stingy.
84. Reach out and don't smile.
Don't haggle over unimportant trifles. Let bygones be bygones.
Please keep your distance from others when you speak, and don't cling to others.
When you speak, always use honorifics such as "you" and "I'm sorry", use words such as "I'm sorry" and "OK" and "What do you think".
88. Don't interrupt when others are talking. After listening to other people's opinions, even if you disagree, you should nod your head gently to show your respect.
89. In public, the ringtone and message prompt of mobile phone should be soft, preferably vibrating. When talking on the phone, don't raise your voice and dance happily, which will destroy the peace around you and make others pay attention to you. That's rude.
90. While chatting with everyone, the phone rang. I want to tell you: sorry, you talk first, I'll take a call.
9 1, go out to visit others. When the host sees you off, be sure to say: Please stay, there is no need to see you off.
92. When the first person enters the elevator, press the button and wait for the person behind to come in. When you come out, if you are a junior or a junior, if the time is not too urgent, just wait until someone else goes out.
93. When someone gives you something that she cherishes or is expensive, it's best not to accept it. A hedge between keeps friendship green. Sometimes, material things can destroy precious friendships.
94. Apologize when others ask you for help and you can't help, and then try to make up for it. For example, "check online. There may be ... ",don't refuse others with a" no "stiffly, which will make you look particularly cold and arrogant.
95. When you clip a dish, if someone else clips it first, the dish you want to clip is on the other side of someone else's hand. You should wait for someone else to clip it first, instead of passing through it from below or above.
96. When men and women walk together (on the right), let the girls walk on the right, because the right is safer.
97. When taking a taxi, if you stop the car yourself, you can't grab the back seat.
China Early Childhood Education Project
A series of books that condense the wisdom of authoritative experts; A parenting plan that absorbs the latest research results; National promotion of infant education project; Follow-up and evaluation services that benefit thousands of households. Seven years of all-round follow-up guidance, authoritative expert consultation and evaluation, healthy, happy and all-round development.
brief Introduction of the content
The Early Childhood Education Project in China is a series of books that gather the wisdom of authoritative experts, a parenting plan that absorbs the latest research results, a national infant education project, and a follow-up evaluation service that benefits thousands of families. This book is one of the books in this series, suitable for parents aged 1-3. This book comprehensively examines children's early upbringing from many aspects such as medicine, nutrition, psychology, education, sociology and ethics, and absorbs the latest research results at home and abroad. It is divided into seven aspects: parenting points, physical and mental development, scientific parenting, expert consultation, intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training, intelligence development evaluation, nursery rhymes and essential toys. This book is easy to understand, illustrated with pictures and texts, and writes the eastern and western cultures and ancient and modern concepts clearly and fluently. It is a reference book for parents and people who want to be parents.
This book is a set of popular science books about children's early upbringing, which is written by a group of national experts and is very authoritative. Professor Dai Shufeng, the editor-in-chief of this book, is a famous scholar with both theoretical foundation and clinical practice experience, and has been engaged in the exploration of early childhood education for a long time. Beijing Oriental Shengtong Children's Development Research Center, established according to her educational philosophy, enjoys a high reputation in China and has helped parents solve many practical problems in recent years. The Expert Committee of the China Committee for the Care of the Next Generation and the China Women's Reading Research Association affirmed the value of this book and solemnly recommended it to comrades whose young parents are engaged in infant education.
This book breaks through the traditional observation perspective, comprehensively examines early childhood education from many aspects such as medicine, nutrition, psychology, pedagogy, sociology and ethics, and absorbs the latest research results at home and abroad.
Brief introduction of the author
Dai Shufeng, Professor of Peking University No.1 Clinical Medical College, Director of China Eugenics and Eugenics Association. Editor of Journal of General Practice, Organizing Committee of Beijing Children's Psychology Association, founder and director of Beijing Oriental Shengtong Children's Development Research Center.
Before 1980, he worked in obstetrics and gynecology in Peking University Hospital; 1980 was transferred to the earliest neonatal professional group established in Peking University Hospital. In the same year, I studied related majors for one year, engaged in medical treatment, teaching, scientific research and follow-up guidance for infant development. 1982, 1984 studied the development law of newborn's psychological behavior with American psychologist Dr. Braxelton, and participated in children's psychological behavior training classes for many times. 1983 went to Japan to study perinatal medicine, set foot in the field of "prenatal education and early education" in Japan and applied it to practical work; From 65438 to 0992, the theoretical system of "Treatment of Children's Sensory Integration Disorder" by Dr. Ayers of the University of Southern California was studied, and the related research results of the Sixth Hospital of Beijing Medical University were used for reference, and the concept and method of early education with "sensory education" as the theoretical core were put forward. /kloc-in the summer of 0/995, "Beijing Oriental Shengtong Early Childhood Education Research Service Center" was established, which is now the "Beijing Oriental Shengtong Child Development Research Center". Cooperate with famous experts in the industry to carry out early childhood education research, psychological and behavioral problems service and adjustment. Understand and help parents and children with heart, affection and love. Because of her unique views on brain physiology and children's physical and mental development, his innovative ideas, teaching methods and models of children's education have won high praise from all walks of life. People's Daily, Health News, China Education News, CCTV, China Education TV, CNN Radio and other media reported many times.
catalogue
1 year 1-2 months
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Reasonable addition of protein
Animal protein and plant protein
One-day recipe example
Prevention of zinc deficiency in children
Expert consultation
What is the reason for sweating too much?
It is difficult for children who walk to eat.
How to keep feet warm
Dislocation and lameness of hip joint
Is an injection better than taking medicine?
"throwing things: it is the baby's learning method.
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Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
1 year 3-4 months
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Expert consultation
Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
1 year 5-6 months
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Expert consultation
Intelligent intelligence promotion training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
1 year 7-8 months
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
scientific childrearing
Expert consultation
Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
1 year from September to1month.
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
65438+1October1-1February
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
February 65438 +0-3 months
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
Two years and four months.
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
Two years and seven months.
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
2 years old 10- 12 months
Parenting points
Continuously develop
scientific childrearing
Intelligence improvement training and emotional intelligence training
Intelligent development evaluation
Children's songs and essential toys
appendix
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Prevention of zinc deficiency in children
Zinc is one of the essential trace elements to maintain human life, and it is indispensable for the synthesis of dozens of enzymes such as protease and dehydrogenase. Zinc can affect the synthesis of nucleic acid and protein in vivo. Participate in the metabolism of sugar, lipid and vitamin A; It is related to the body's growth and development, immune defense, wound healing and other functions. If zinc is deficient, some diseases will occur or cause infant growth and development disorders. The diet in our country is mainly cereal, at present, because most babies are only children. There are widespread factors such as parents' doting on their children, children's bad eating habits, such as partial eclipse, picky eaters, and excessive growth and development, which lead to relatively insufficient nutrition and easy to suffer from digestive tract diseases, resulting in reduced absorption of zinc in the intestines, so infants are prone to chronic zinc deficiency. It is better to prevent zinc deficiency as soon as possible than to wait until zinc deficiency is found before taking medicine. In fact, under normal circumstances, if the feeding is reasonable, it will not cause zinc deficiency.
Normal people need a certain amount of zinc every day. Infants under 5 months old are about 3 mg/day, 5- 12 months 5 mg/day, 1- 10 years old 10 mg/day. Adult 15mg/ day. Pregnant women need a little more during pregnancy and lactation, about 20-25mg/ day. As long as we pay attention to feeding foods with high zinc content regularly, we can meet the demand of zinc for infants and young children. Lean meat, liver, eggs, milk and dairy products, lotus seeds, peanuts, sesame seeds, walnuts and other foods contain high zinc, and seafood such as kelp, shrimp, marine fish and laver are also rich in zinc. Others such as litchi, chestnuts, melon seeds, almonds, celery, persimmons and adzuki beans also contain more zinc. The results of scientific research show that animal foods generally have higher zinc content, higher absorption rate and greater biological effects than plant foods. When the baby has a long-term fever and diarrhea, he should pay more attention to supplementing zinc-containing foods to prevent zinc deficiency.
If you suspect that your baby is zinc deficient, you must go to the hospital to check your blood zinc or hair zinc, and you can only be treated if you are diagnosed with zinc deficiency. The amount of zinc supplement is calculated according to the daily zinc supplement 1-2mg/kg body weight. Zinc gluconate granules are suitable for infants. 1-3 months is a course of treatment. The specific dosage should be taken under the guidance of a doctor. At the same time, we should actively find out the reasons, improve feeding methods and pay attention to dietary balance. Once the symptoms improve, it is necessary to adjust the dosage of zinc or stop taking medicine. Be sure not to give your baby drugs containing zinc as a supplement, and don't give your baby foods fortified with zinc for a long time to prevent zinc poisoning.