I don't know who can prove that he has no selfish desires, as long as there are many people who are selfish. It's just that everyone's ideology is different and the phenomenon reflected is different.
The more selfish a person is, the more sophisticated and complicated her thinking ability is. Usually the selfishness we see and think of is that she is stingy and calculating. In fact, this selfishness is a simple character. Generous and open-minded is the selfishness of Yin Boli. This selfishness is small and wide. In exchange for your best interests. Because of the different appearances, one is direct, the other is tortuous, and the other is true, taking into account the immediate interests. A hidden, considering the long-term interests. However, two kinds of selfishness can't prove the statement of' less empathy'. But she can prove that the more selfish people are, the healthier they are psychologically. Because they are calm and clear about their interests and goals.
Selfishness, most people misunderstand, selfishness is not simply taking, if you think so, then most people are selfish now, and there are very few open-minded people! Selfishness is simply doing what you like without considering the feelings of people around you. It's as simple as that! Why do you tie selfishness and interests together? I can only smile! I hope everyone understands! Generally speaking, selfish people don't think too much. As long as he thinks he can do it, he will do it without thinking too much about other people's feelings. Just live a little easier, talking about health is a bit too much!
This is a fallacy. Mental health is actually closely related to the long-term living environment, and of course it is also closely related to interpersonal communication and education.
This view is definitely wrong. The more selfish a person is, the less healthy his mind is, because in this person's world, he only thinks about how much he has lost, but doesn't consider how much he has. In such haggle over every ounce, his heart is always out of balance. This imbalance first harms oneself, and then others.
We often meet some selfish people around us. They don't say a word to others, keep small things for life, and are unhappy every day. They always feel that others owe them a lot, which will cause some psychological problems and bring great harm to their bodies, which may lead to hypertension, heart disease, cerebrovascular problems, and of course depression and schizophrenia.
Whether in the city or in the countryside, we will often see some people fighting and hurting people for a trivial matter. In more serious cases, they may violate the law or even kill people because of their inner imbalance, which will have unstable consequences for others, themselves, their families and the whole society.
Therefore, we must be an open-minded person, a person who can feel the same, and try to keep an optimistic attitude to get along with others and help others. Then, what you get is not only happiness and physical and mental health, but also a lifetime wealth.
Selfish people are healthy for themselves, because their idea is very simple, that is, they just ask for it blindly and don't know how to be grateful and return. This is much easier than a virtuous person.
In fact, people's life in society is very complicated. Affection, friendship and love are mixed with many emotions, such as being clear about grievances, always being grateful and being kind to others. We should cherish our hearts and find opportunities to repay them. We will consider others, pay attention to discretion in everything and not hurt others. To treat good people, we should respect and praise them; to treat bad people, we will scoff.
But for a selfish person, her thoughts will be single. She can't distinguish between good people and bad people. Because the bad guys can't take advantage of her, they do, so she just scolds her from the moral high ground. If she meets a good person and treats her well, she won't be grateful in return. She doesn't think it is selfish to take advantage. She believes that everything is achieved by her wisdom, and what others lose is paid for their own IQ. She has no other complicated feelings and puts her own interests first. She is a dishonest, unkind and mean person. So everyone "respects" her and stays away from her. But if one day she meets an aggrieved and irrational person, she may take the initiative to fight back, with disastrous consequences.
Therefore, selfish people are proud not to live in a big social family, but they have to pay their debts sooner or later if they live in society.
This statement is absolutely wrong. Selfish people are the most unhealthy psychologically. Because selfish people are very concerned about personal gains and losses, any trouble involving their own interests will make them suffer. It's hard to get inner peace. Moreover, selfish people are generally psychologically gloomy, and many ideas cannot be put on the table, shared with others, and released, which is not conducive to mental health.
Empathy you mentioned is actually a very good quality. It is very helpful to solve potential problems. Learning to put yourself in each other's shoes can eliminate some possible contradictions and conflicts between people in advance, so as to avoid another outbreak. In fact, you are helping yourself. Otherwise, how much psychological impact will it have on you when conflicts break out? Like fire prevention and fire fighting, which is more important?
Therefore, empathy will not only make you feel "tired", but will help you and make your life easier. I hope my answer can help you.
First of all, there is a concept in this issue that needs to be clarified.
That's selfish.
Selfishness is a common and normal psychological phenomenon. "Self" refers to self; "Private" means self-interest; "Selfishness" means only paying attention to one's own interests, regardless of the interests of others, collectives, countries and society.
Selfishness has these three characteristics: 1, and it is deeply rooted. Selfishness is an almost instinctive desire, deep in one's heart. It is hidden in the personal demand structure and is a deep psychological activity.
2. Subconsciously, because selfish psychology is deeply hidden, its existence and performance are often unconscious. It is precisely because of this that we turn selfishness into morbid social psychology;
3. keep it secret. Selfishness is a morbid behavior that is ashamed to meet people. For example, who will make a fuss about these behaviors because they are selfish, unscrupulous, and violate social morality? Therefore, there are many selfish behaviors that we ordinary people think in life, most of which will make people uncomfortable or cause public anger, but they have become habits, so subconsciously they will cover up and cover up with many fantasies.
The formation of selfish behavior has subjective and objective aspects. Objectively speaking, it has a lot to do with everyone's living environment, the influence of some morbid cultures in society and the influence of improper family education. Let people have more satisfying needs for their own desires. On the other hand, subjectively speaking, if personal needs are divorced from the unreasonable needs of social norms, people may tend to be selfish. Personal sensitivity, value orientation and social behavior have certain internal relations. Self-sensitivity refers to a person's psychological feeling after caring about others' own problems, feeling that he needs others' help and actually getting others' help. However, a high degree of self-sensitivity will externalize the sensitivity to people. Selfish people are often self-sensitive, self-centered, and have extreme dependence and demand on society and others, but they have no social value orientation and lack a sense of responsibility for others and society. Deep down, I am lonely and helpless.
Then, the formation of selfish psychology itself is caused by unhealthy psychological development, so how can selfish people be psychologically healthier?
The concept of selfishness actually needs to be clarified and clarified!
If you are rich, you will help the world, and if you are poor, you will be immune! I think these are the first two realms of active life! It is also a good way to deal with the world to see clearly the self-contempt and self-humiliation of this world!
For most people, poverty is the only choice! Be yourself and manage your little home! Don't give trouble to relatives, friends and society! Follow universal morality!
When you have stronger strength, you can help the world!
You said it backwards. The more selfish people are, the less healthy they are psychologically.
You see, selfish people make small calculations all day, calculating others and calculating themselves. How to use it? Their life pressure is much greater than that of ordinary happy people. It's not much cheaper and it's not easy to take up. Can you not worry?
Can you be happy and healthy when you are calculating yourself and others all the time?
Egoism is human nature, and everyone has it.
Taking self-interest as the motive and altruistic behavior as the means to achieve win-win cooperation is wisdom.
It is unwise and unsustainable to take self-interest as the motive and harm others as the means.
Because people's nature is to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, most people who have been shooting themselves in the foot will change because of reflection. If you can't reflect, it is also a social maladjustment and an element of personality disorder. According to the degree, it can be defined as psychological problems, psychological obstacles and psychological diseases respectively.