China's traditional thought led many parents to "talk about sex". Many parents are silent about sex education. They are ashamed to talk about this topic. When their children are older, they will naturally understand.

But as we all know, this has a great influence on children, because it is hard to imagine what a child will do without sex education.

Take a set of data to illustrate: According to the relevant statistics in China, the number of juvenile crimes in China accounts for 70% of the total crimes, of which sexual crimes account for 30%. The main reason why the proportion is so high is that teenagers lack sexual knowledge. According to the survey, China teenagers' sexual knowledge mainly comes from books, magazines and online browsing. Only 30% of teenagers are educated by their mothers, and even less by their fathers.

So you still think sex education is unnecessary! Many examples in reality can illustrate this.

Improper sex education in childhood will lead to a series of serious problems such as psychological distortion and sexual dysfunction when children grow up. Family is an important source of children's sex education.

In the past, most of the sex education for children emphasized the beginning of adolescence, so most of the sex education for children was between the ages of 12 and 16, and it gradually developed at this time. Many people think that sex education is the best at this time.

I think sex education can actually be earlier, because children around the age of/kloc-0 can already distinguish between men and women; By the age of 3, they have been able to tell their gender and begin to have gender awareness;

When they are 5-7 years old, they will gradually understand that their gender is immutable. The child started after he was 4 years old. Therefore, it is necessary to have sex education for children as soon as possible.

Sex education for children will help children better understand their gender and define their roles, thus forming good interpersonal relationships and avoiding many problems, so as not to make some ignorant things on impulse and regret for life.

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Parents should not shy away from sex and sex education. If this makes children feel that "sex" is a mysterious veil, they will want to understand it in their own way.

Sun Yunxiao, a famous expert in children's education, believes that the second and third grades are the golden age of sex education. At this time, telling children about reproductive organs is like learning knowledge.

But in fact, children can be educated from the beginning of gender awareness.

So, how do parents educate their children about sex?

1. Give children a correct gender orientation.

Some parents like to dress their children in different clothes on a whim, for example, boys dress their children in skirts and hairpins, and dress their children up as girls.

This kind of "prank" dressing of parents has a great influence on children, and children will doubt their own gender, thus blurring their understanding of gender.

The most typical "sissy" is that parents did not teach their children the correct gender orientation when they were young. Therefore, boys wear boys' clothes and girls dress up as girls from childhood, so that children can better locate their gender.

Don't run away from this topic.

When children ask questions about sex, parents should not avoid them. For example, some children may ask, "Mom, why am I different from other children?" At this time, parents should educate their children and answer him, "Because you are different in gender?" Then give him sex education.

Educate children generously, don't be coy and secretive, so that children will feel that sex is a very mysterious thing and will constantly challenge this bottom line.

3. Be gender-aware at home.

Some parents don't pay attention to this, they will change clothes in front of their children, or do some intimate actions with their loved ones in front of their children. This is actually very inappropriate, which will make children have no gender awareness, feel that they can do some such actions for others, feel that there is no difference between boys and girls, and have a weak gender awareness for men and women.

4. Give full play to the role of father in the family.

In family education, not only mother's education, but also father's role is equally important. Especially if the family is a boy, it is not enough for the mother to educate him about gender.

Boys who lack father's education will grow up to be timid, introverted and even sissy. Therefore, the role of father is very important. For a boy, being with his father will better cultivate his masculinity and his personality will be more outgoing.