Nowadays, children are spoiled, and there are almost no opportunities to face setbacks and solve difficulties independently in the process of growing up, so they often don't know how to get rid of and surpass them when they encounter difficulties. Family frustration education is a very difficult problem that parents need to face.
Sensitive child Weiwei's daughter is in the fifth grade this year. My daughter has never been wronged since she was a child. She is beautiful and did well in the exam. She is a child like a peacock. Recently, Wei Wei saw that her daughter likes painting, so she signed up for a painting interest class. At first, it was fine. Later, because the teacher said a few words in the painting class, my daughter went home and cried, and said that she would never go to class again.
Wei Wei found the teacher, and the teacher said that it was actually just a small mistake of Wei Wei. Vivian knows that her daughter has always been used to praise, but now she can't listen to criticism.
What are the misunderstandings about parents' ability to resist setbacks? 1, the ability to resist setbacks, "resistance" is very important.
Many parents attach great importance to "resistance" and think that when children face setbacks and setbacks, blindly "hard resistance" is a manifestation of psychological strength. In fact, many people feel nervous breakdown, which starts with "resistance".
Hard resistance will only increase psychological pressure, and even lead to depression and spiritual abyss. Every child's ability to withstand pressure is different. Parents need to understand their children's psychological state, so that children can learn to accept setbacks and learn to change in reflection instead of blindly resisting.
2. Deliberately let children experience setbacks.
Exercising children's ability to resist setbacks does not mean deliberately letting children experience setbacks. What parents need to do is to capture the "small setbacks" that children experience in their daily lives and find the right time to educate their children. If you do it deliberately, the effect is often not very good.
The impact of setbacks on children often has two sides. On the one hand, frustration education can improve children's psychological endurance, on the other hand, it may make children lose confidence and even collapse. Therefore, only by teaching children to face the setbacks in life rationally can they keep their enthusiasm for life.
So how to correctly improve children's ability to resist setbacks? 1) Improve children's ability to think positively.
When children encounter setbacks, parents should set an example and keep an optimistic attitude, so that children will be infected. In children's life, there are also some very unpleasant things, even small things may make children feel depressed, such as bad weather, failing exams, not wearing favorite clothes and so on.
Parents should encourage and support their children when they are in a bad mood Smiling and hugging are the best ways to comfort them. Guide children to think positively and turn unhappy things into happy things, and children's ability to resist setbacks will be improved.
2) Guide children to vent their bad emotions reasonably.
Difficulties and setbacks have dealt a great blow to children, and their negative emotions need to be vented. But the child is too young to have such ability.
Therefore, parents should guide their children to vent their bad emotions reasonably. If they just struggle hard and hide some bad emotions in their hearts, children are also prone to psychological problems.
3) Teach children to have growth thinking.
Nowadays, many children have a bad mentality, that is, they have no growing mind. When they do things, they often pay too much attention to the result of things and can't see the process of things. Only in this process can children have stronger ability to face and solve problems.
Sometimes the process is more important than the result. If children only focus on winning or losing, it is really easy to be unhappy. Parents should also actively participate and give their children some encouragement when they finish something.
All in all, the real family frustration education is not to make children feel "numb" about setbacks and not take them seriously, but to let children face setbacks directly and not be afraid of setbacks. Some parents like to create setbacks for their children and deliberately exercise their children's ability to resist blows and setbacks. In fact, this also violates the original intention of family frustration education. As long as parents observe carefully, they will find many small setbacks in their children's lives. It is very meaningful to accompany them to fight against these setbacks.
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