The reasons for the low education level of some teachers' children are various and complicated. In fact, it is nothing new that some teachers fail to educate their children well. It is true that many teachers are willing to treat other people's children, but unable to discipline their own children. Many teachers can teach excellent students themselves, but they can't educate excellent children; I can bring out excellent classes, but I can't manage my children well.
Does it mean that teachers have no time and energy to educate and manage children for work and students? Is a teacher who has devoted a lot of effort to his students but neglected his children's education really an excellent educator?
As teachers, we should know how to educate our children better than other parents, but in fact, we have not done so. As we all know, the education and management of children should not be too harsh, interfere everywhere and pursue perfection. You can't take your grades too seriously. It is children's nature to be lively and playful. We can't interfere, let alone restrict them. We should actively create a harmonious family atmosphere for our children. In the process of children's growth, we should pay attention to cultivating their independence, instead of always doing things for them, interfering in everything and limiting everything. Do we understand these truths? Of course we know. But how is it going? Not so good. Why?
First, no patience, no meditation. With heavy work, great pressure and a lot of housework, it is really difficult for us to separate our energy and settle down to accompany and educate our children. As far as I am concerned, the plan I made for myself earlier is to tell my children at least one story every day and recite an ancient poem with my children; I have to play with my children for at least half an hour every day, but in fact I often use busy work as an excuse. I don't insist, and even I spend less and less time with my children.
Second, occupational influence and mentality. A teacher said, "When I am tutoring other children, even if the children don't understand or understand, I can endure my temper to explain and coach." However, when it comes to tutoring children, they get impatient and even criticize them. "In fact, our teachers and parents often make similar mistakes. Educating children by teachers and parents is a special field in the field of education, and the most familiar is often the most unfamiliar. It is precisely because our teachers love children and education too much that they are most vulnerable.
As a teacher, parents are easily influenced by the teacher's role mindset when educating their children, and often educate their children as a teacher and in a tone regardless of the occasion. In this way, children will only feel that they lack feelings and have rebellious psychology, which will lead to the failure or even failure of education. Because teachers are familiar with this industry, we may find fault with children's education, especially some avant-garde teachers who have made little achievements in education are more likely to find fault with children. This really requires us to reflect and take a warning.
Third, life is single, and people are lacking. Teachers live in a relatively narrow circle and have relatively little contact with society. Long-term single and closed campus life makes our minds generally simple and unsociable. This living environment may be used to us, but it will have a great impact on teachers' children. Lack of parents' contact and little participation in social activities invisibly affect and limit children's activity space, and children's vision and mind will be subtly affected. Therefore, children who grow up in ordinary teacher families are mostly cautious and lack initiative.
As teachers, our work and life, and even our own thoughts and ways of thinking have certain limitations, which are not conducive to the healthy growth of children. But we should actively change, change our self-concept, change our thinking, pay attention to the way of education, find ways to create some opportunities and spaces for children's healthy growth, adulthood and success, and build some platforms.
I have always believed that a successful teacher can also be a successful parent. Because we have educational ideas, methods and strategies, what I lack is meditation and change myself. As long as we are willing to work hard, change and try, we will certainly do better. Only when we change ourselves will our children change. Only when our children have a healthy mind and body can they adapt to the tests of various environments, enjoy learning, enrich their spirit, have many friends, have a brilliant career and have a wonderful life.