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Family education is oriented to children's growth and personality, starting with the identification and correction of children's problem behaviors, and giving positive perception and belief to children's growth experience.

At the same time, improve children's ability and quality, and finally realize the educational process of parents and children growing together.

Family education is the most important and influential part of children's growth education. Parents are the object of children's life.

Family education is often neglected and distorted, which often leads to unimaginable results.

This is because parents don't attach importance to family education and don't know how to be a qualified parent.

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Family education model in China can be roughly divided into four types:

First, stocking education

Parents are busy making money to support their families, do business and manage the company; I am too busy socializing and playing mahjong to take care of my children.

Give children to the elderly and nannies in life; Academically, give the child to the teacher, to the homework tutorial class, and to the outside cram school.

Parents just gave birth to their children, paid for their growth, and failed to fulfill their due obligations and responsibilities.

Parents have little or no communication with their children. There is little emotional communication between them, and their relationship is gradually alienated.

In the long run, parents don't know what problems exist in the growth of their children. Don't know how to communicate with children? You feel like you have a baiwenhang. ...

Results: Children will feel lonely and helpless, and they are nominal orphans. It's cold at home every day, so you don't want to go home, and your family values will be very weak. The problems encountered in children's growth were not solved in time, resulting in an irreparable ending.

Second, the education of beating and scolding

When our children don't eat, listen, do their homework, and their grades drop, parents will change from impatient, angry and scolding to beating.

There are only two possibilities for children to face parental abuse and parental beating. One is to give in to being beaten and be a good boy. It is difficult for such children to have their own opinions, have no thinking, and do what others say.

The second is to turn anger into emotional outburst and revenge.

Children will suppress their emotions. After a long time, negative emotions will erupt, become uncontrollable and become a cruel tyrant.

We often think it's okay to scold children. Scolding children is good for children, and it is for children to be obedient and promising when they grow up.

But we don't know how much language hurts children. How powerful is language?

Our parents often say, "Why are you so stupid?" You are a pig brain. ""Why don't you die? "Wait a minute.

These words are scratching the child's heart like a knife and will be engraved in the child's heart.

These ugly words hurt children's self-esteem, make them lose their self-confidence in study and life, and psychologically deny themselves.

They will feel that their parents don't love me, that their parents love other people's children, and they will be anxious, worried and resentful.

They will repeatedly think about their parents' scolding and subtly develop in the direction of scolding language.

A few days ago, it was reported in the news that a child of 16 years old caused seven or eight fires in the same community.

When the police asked him why, he said angrily, "My parents say every day that I will go to jail sooner or later, so I will show him."

What he did was to get back at his parents and ruin his future and his parents' hard work.

He doesn't know what prison means to him. I don't know how much this will affect my future life.

Results: Children who beat and scold will be slaves or tyrants in the future.

Third, praise education.

Now many parents know that it is not good to beat and scold their children. They should learn to praise their children and build their self-confidence. But some compliments seem hollow.

For example, if a child gets a hundred points in the exam, we will say with appreciation, "Wow. You are great, you are great. "

When children draw a picture and show it to their parents happily, they will casually say, "Wow, you are great."

These empty praises have no power, and such praise methods have lost their meaning. The correct way to praise is to tap the inner awakening power of children.

For example, if a child gets 100% in the exam, we should say, "You study so hard and do your homework so carefully, and you will definitely get 100% in the exam. This is the result of your efforts. "

You should let the children know the story behind this achievement. This is the result of my hard work and hard study.

For example, children's paintings are better, so where should we point out? Where is the progress? What are the disadvantages?

In this way, children will sum up themselves, constantly carry forward their own advantages, make up for their own shortcomings, and understand where they need to improve, and they will get better and better.

Results: Empty praise will make children lost in praise, without analysis and summary.

Fourth, unconditional education.

Unconditional education refers to unconditionally accepting children's emotions and managing children's behaviors. Respect the growth law of children's lives, meet the physiological needs of children at different stages of their lives, and let children become the people they want to be.

Many of our parents have enrolled their children in interest classes that they think are good, helping them fill in their volunteers and make choices.

Do not respect the child's own conditions, let the child complete the unfinished dream, or let the child become what he wants.

However, it is a child's life. Everyone is unique. Children should learn what they like, which is a respect for children and life.

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These four models cover almost all the family education models in China, among which we are more or less involved. We should reflect on our behavior and sum up our experience.

Undoubtedly, unconditional education is the best family education model and the most difficult to achieve.

First of all, we should let go of the utilitarian heart, the bad education methods of the older generation, and don't go with the flow.

Explore children's inner potential, respect children's wishes, manage children's behaviors, and let children thrive and become a person with values, morality, outlook on life and dreams.