Two years ago, our local newspaper published a penalty message in a prominent position on the front page, clearly stipulating that a young man who had just returned from the army was not allowed to take any kind of conscription examination, apply for bank loans, start a company, or find his own way out, and was blacklisted for three years.

Once the news was released, it caused a sensation in our local area. According to informed sources, it was this young man who said that military training was too tiring, refused to participate in any form of military training and clamored to go home. No matter how he does ideological work, he refuses, but he just refuses to go in. In order to avoid affecting other soldiers, they returned directly after collective decision-making, and at the same time communicated with the local government and gave corresponding punishment to set an example.

Can be returned by the army, it must be because the child has some behaviors that do not meet the requirements, which led to such an embarrassing ending.

To be a qualified soldier, physical condition must be put in the first place. From the hardware point of view, your child has a good physical quality and a good foundation. He has successfully passed the heavy examination of the conscription physical examination, and his parents have become glorious military families.

However, physical examination is easy, but mental concepts are difficult to detect. Entering the melting pot of the army, a series of strict military training awaits everyone. Fighting every day is a common occurrence. If you are not careful, you may be injured, painful and tired everywhere.

At this moment, it is not excluded that some young people regret the choice of being a soldier, and begin to try their best to avoid training, and even become passive and refuse to do exercises.

Under normal circumstances, superior leaders will find ways to do ideological education.

However, there are all kinds of people in the world, and it is not enough to mobilize a few words to change the status quo. Once you meet someone who will bite the bullet, no amount of ideological education is useless. Only when it is completed can we avoid future troubles.

And your child must have caused this result for some reason.

In fact, we should be clear that being returned is only the first step, and the most regrettable thing is the subsequent punishment measures. At this moment, I believe your children will know that they have to pay more for their willfulness, but it is too late to regret it.

What shall we do? What shall we do?

For parents, the mood at the moment is gloomy to the extreme. They love their children dearly and don't know how to help them adjust their mentality. Killing two birds with one stone is really difficult.

For the child, being returned and humiliated, in the original living environment, he can't look up and be a man. In order to help children relieve mental stress, parents are advised to take their children away for a period of time, even in the same city and live in another community, so as to get rid of the strange eyes of outsiders and let their children recover slowly.

In the new residence, parents can try to set up a stall with their children, start a small business first, or find a temporary worker nearby to do it first, and so on. At the very least, make a living by yourself, let children feel that they are still valuable, and help them build strong self-confidence first.

After a period of time, the next step will be planned according to the child's state. If children gradually accept the reality psychologically and stop rejecting it, they can go home again.

In short, parents should open their minds, find another way, take the wrong path and not take the usual path, which may help their children pass this checkpoint smoothly.