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Just a few days ago, an 8-year-old girl jumped from the 2 1 building of her home in Huafu Community, south of Chengdu.

What makes a girl give up her life?

According to online reports and community residents, the little girl jumped off the building because she was not allowed to watch TV at home. She felt uncomfortable and later stopped jumping. ...

Hearing this statement, the first reaction is heartache, and then fear.

Nowadays, children are so fragile that they can't get through the slightest thing and jump off a building to end their lives. It is not only selfish, but also makes parents suffer the pain of losing their children and is condemned by moral public opinion.

This is the sorrow of education in China, which is related to the whole society, family and school.

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Sadly, this tragedy is not the first time.

On April 3 this year, a boy of 10 years old in Dazu District of Chongqing jumped from the 20th floor of his home and died on the spot.

The police investigation found that the little boy jumped from the bedroom window because his parents did not allow him to watch TV and refused to receive education.

Coincidentally, what happened below is almost exactly the same.

65438 At noon this year 10, a boy of 10 years old jumped from his balcony and died on the spot.

It is understood that the boy did this because on the day of the incident, the boy didn't go to school at home because of a fever and asked his mother to play computer, but his mother refused, so he jumped off the building.

Such tragedies have warned us again and again that parents should pay attention to the mental health of minors.

2065438+In May, 2007, students from Grade Two of Beijing Key Middle School jumped from their homes. His mother was emotionally unstable and jumped to her death a day later.

According to the last words:

Father confiscated his mobile phone because of his poor academic performance. The next day, the child failed to ask his father for a mobile phone and chose to say goodbye to death.

Also in May, a student from Huafeng Campus of Nanchong No.1 Middle School fell to his death. The fuse is also because children play mobile phones, family members are in conflict and their emotions are out of control.

I really don't want to list too much. This kind of tragedy is not unique, but quite common.

The reasons are different and strikingly similar: children's self-evaluation is extremely low and they can't find the meaning of living and the value of life.

His sense of value comes from solid sources: first, his parents' approval; Second, excellent grades.

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One young life after another comes to this world, perceiving the beauty of the world and exploring the meaning of life.

However, their blooming age in flower of life came to an abrupt end, leaving behind a series of family tragedies.

We are all familiar with the story of Einstein making a small bench.

Once in a handicraft class, the teacher asked each small basin friend to make his favorite items.

One by one, the children showed all their skills: some made beautiful cocks out of clay, some made lively puppies out of rags, and some made colorful melons and fruits out of colored wax. ...

Einstein was the last person to send his work to the podium. The teacher looked down and almost laughed.

It turns out that little Einstein made a rough little bench. The teacher shook his head and said sarcastically, "I don't think there is a worse stool in the world!" " "The students are laughing.

"yes! There is worse than this! " Einstein replied firmly, turning back to the desk, and quickly took out two ugly little benches. "These two are worse. This is my first and second time to do it. This is the third one I gave you. Although it is not satisfactory, it is better than the first two. "

The teacher picked up three small benches and studied them one by one, thoughtfully. "Hey, what a lovely child!" He couldn't help talking to himself.

Einstein knew almost nothing except professional proficiency, and his performance in life was clumsy, but this did not prevent him from becoming the greatest physicist in the 20th century.

Since God has given talents, let them be used! Every child has his own advantages and disadvantages.

The biggest problem in current education is that it is across the board, pursuing excessive standard answers and lacking the idea of seeking common ground while reserving differences. The children educated in this way lack independent thinking ability and critical spirit, and they follow the trend.

The so-called experts, only in a certain field, do much better than ordinary people. Doesn't mean he can do everything.

Schools should break the shackles of exam-oriented education, not only judge heroes by scores, but also implement diversified evaluation mechanisms, attach importance to children's physical and mental health education, and first let children become independent individuals.

Rousseau said in his masterpiece Emile:

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In modern society, everyone's time is precious.

Our parents are busy at work during the day and have to cook and clean the housework after work at night. Basically, there is little leisure to help children with their homework, let alone communicate with them as friends.

The communication methods we usually adopt are short, flat, fast, simple and rude, and the delusion of getting the maximum effect at the least cost is not feasible for children.

Nowadays, children after 90 s and 00 s have strong self-esteem. It's easy to say, but useless. Too serious, hit the nail on the head, self-esteem can't stand it.

1920, an American boy aged1/kloc-0 accidentally kicked his neighbor's glass while playing football.

People claim $65,438 +02.50. After the boy who made a big mistake apologized to his father, his father made him take responsibility for his mistake.

He said awkwardly, "I have no money to compensate others."

Father said, "I'll lend you this 12.50 yuan first and pay me back one year later."

Since then, the boy has gone out to work hard every weekend and holiday. After half a year's hard work, he finally earned enough $65,438+$02.50 and returned it to his father.

This boy is Reagan who later became the president of the United States. When he recalled this incident, he said, "Taking responsibility through my own labor made me understand what responsibility is."

Parents should teach their children to be responsible for their actions from an early age. As long as it is the result of their own independent behavior, we should encourage children to dare to do it, don't shirk their responsibilities, and be brave enough to bear the consequences.

We shouldn't take everything for our children, which will dilute their sense of responsibility and is not conducive to their growth.

Most of them are parents born after 1980s. Our children are the only child generation, facing an embarrassing phenomenon.

There is only one child at home, and our education is very risky, unlike the original family with three or four children. An educational mistake will be remedied next time.

Therefore, in the process of educating children, we will be anxious, insecure and a little timid.

Usually when children make mistakes, parents often dare not take care of them, dare not teach them, dare not scold them or dare not fight them. ...

As a result, our children are too spoiled, just like flowers in a greenhouse, as fragile as blx, and can't stand a little wind and rain, let alone a sense of responsibility and gratitude.

However, if children can feel the care of their families, this care is not based on achievements and performance, but unconditional care from the heart.

In this way, it is easier for him to build real self-confidence, face setbacks positively and accept his feelings and integrity.

Self-esteem is like a punctured piece of paper, which is easily crushed by the last straw.

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Tao Xingzhi, a great educator, has a famous saying; "Thousands of teachers in Qian Qian teach people to seek truth, and thousands of students in Qian Qian learn to be human."

Those children who commit suicide or commit suicide all develop selfish personalities from childhood.

They never thought about why they came to this world. I never thought how much pain my death caused my parents. I never thought it would have any bad influence on society.

After nearly ten years of education, I have heard and witnessed many parents' education of their children really failed. They are euphemistically called "herding education", but in fact their lazy consciousness is at work.

They think that as long as children are allowed to play, they will put aside all dancing, painting, Go and English, and ignore everything else. Can such children really compete fairly with others when they grow up?

When I was a child, I found out that my children made mistakes and stole things, regardless of whether they asked or not. Can you manage him when he grows up? Will he blame you for not educating him well in the future?

No one in the world has ever understood this truth at what stage. The laziness you stole in the golden age of your child will surely be repaid twice in the future.

In the primeval forest of India, the story of "Wolf Child" shows that if a child is not properly stimulated by language at birth, he will never learn to speak like a human being, but only howl like a ghost.

But unfortunately, at that time, it was too late for you to regret it. You may not get good results if you spend ten times or dozens of times of time and money.

More than two thousand years ago, Confucius put forward that the highest state of education lies in teaching students in accordance with their aptitude.

A key opens a lock, and every child is a different genius, but you just don't notice it.

Taiwanese education scholar Hao Guangcai said:

The famous philosopher and educator IELTS Bells wrote in What is Education that the essence of education is:

"A tree shakes another tree, a cloud chases another cloud, and a soul awakens another soul."

Education is a process of constant awakening. First our parents, then our children!