_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ This is my reason _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ Let's put aside congenital inheritance first, because that's what we'd better not change. At present, for a growing person, the two most important growing environments are family environment and school environment. According to the experience of most normal people, there is no influence of school education before the age of 6, and then the intensity of school education will continue to increase, which will basically occupy more than 80% of a person's high school time and energy. Let's look back at this question, "which is more important, family education or school education", which is a difficult question to answer, because it is difficult for people to grasp the connotation of the question. If I explain the importance of family education, then we can find thousands of papers as the basis through Google; Similarly, if we want to illustrate the importance of school education, there are hundreds of examples. If the two are compared, different researchers will definitely draw inconsistent conclusions from different angles. So if you subdivide it into different angles, will it be a good choice to answer it from different angles? Of course, this is also a way of answering questions. From the widely understood function of education, we can easily distinguish two larger dimensions: teaching and educating people. The former focuses on the acquisition of knowledge, while the latter focuses on the shaping of personality. Next, look at the word "important", which is another elusive word. The first meaning of "importance" is that family/school education has a great influence on one aspect of people, so we must pay attention to these influences; The second meaning of "importance" is that family/school education plays a great role in shaping the development of a certain aspect, and we need to pay attention to it. In view of the first level, we can replace the question of which is more influential in knowledge learning and personality cultivation, family education and school education. Of course, it is not good to jump to conclusions before I have conducted in-depth research in this field. However, from some basic psychological principles, some inferences can be made appropriately. From the perspective of knowledge learning, it is necessary to classify knowledge more carefully, such as some practical skills: taking children to do laundry and cook … or pure basic knowledge: physical chemistry … and some common-sense things that people can talk about: history, etc … Secondly, we should discuss parents' education level and attitude towards children's learning, etc. Then there is personality. Although psychoanalysis has withdrawn from the front academic stage, some of its ideas have been proved to be valuable, one of which is the influence of early experience on personality shaping, such as children's attachment, parent-child communication and so on. If the age of 24 is taken as the time point of basic personality stereotype, family education is the only dominant force in the first six years; At the primary school stage of 6- 12 years old, the family education received by children is basically the same as that of school education; /kloc-after 0/2 years old, if junior high school begins to live on campus, the school will be even worse. However, according to Eriksson's understanding, what developed after this is mainly the issue of self-identity, which is actually a process of establishing values, including gender identity, self-identity, outlook on life, world outlook and religious beliefs. No matter how much influence family and school have had at this stage, they can only take a back seat in human development, and only the self can dominate and decide to accept the family. So according to my understanding, the answer I gave is that the shaping of character is mainly in family education. Many teachers and students who study psychology may have the same view. For example, after listening to a lecture on criminal psychology in Li Meijin last year, when talking about antisocial personality, Teacher Li repeatedly emphasized the influence of family on children's personality development, and quoted a wealth of cases to support his point of view. In addition, she suggested that for boys, more attention should be paid to the influence and help of fathers in shaping their childhood experiences. The next answer is mainly aimed at the second level, where this is not a problem that can be solved by science and data. Because it involves "should", the essence of this problem is the functional orientation and division of labor between family education and school education. This is a problem involving specific value orientation, and everyone has different understandings of this issue. Therefore, on this issue, only opinions can be put forward, and no answer can be given. Tell me my opinion, not exactly my opinion, but my opinion influenced by a very idealistic teacher. The present society endows school education with too many missions and value orientations, which seems to make our education stronger, more qualified and more colorful, but it also makes our school education too overwhelmed. After the education reform, it looks like nothing. When I was a freshman, I came into contact with a job as a "Song teacher" by chance (I met too many Song teachers in my life, and everyone took my car and gave me all kinds of valuable experience). He is a Beijinger, over 500 years old, a former soldier and educated. His wife is the editor-in-chief of a national magazine sent to the aunt of the neighborhood Committee, and both of them are very kind. One of the projects he was doing at that time was "community education", which is what we understand as "family education". It is said that this project was invested by a big boss in Taiwan Province Province, and it is in the preparatory stage. At that time, I signed up for a community publicity volunteer, but until now, he has not contacted me. It is estimated that the project died halfway. I only had an in-depth chat with him once, and I found it very enlightening when I came back. His philosophy is that "the school only cares about teaching and leaves the work of educating people to the family". The initial orientation of the school is the place to learn knowledge. The society wants the school to fulfill the mission of educating people, but the personality shaping in the school is imperceptibly completed in the complicated social interaction of all kinds of people. Schools may be able to regulate teachers' behavior, but it is always difficult for schools to regulate the interaction between peer groups. Education is in a very passive position in the process of school personality shaping. Family education is much simpler and purer, so family plays a positive role in children's personality development. The misunderstanding of our current education is that some people become shopkeepers when parents push their children to school. I just hold parent-teacher meetings and pay tuition fees. Other things are handled by teachers, but there are some things that teachers have limited energy. A teacher is a perfect teacher if he drives some students to grow up actively through his excellent moral character, personality charm and good interaction when he has spare time to teach. Teachers are passive, and they have no obligation to take care of students who do not actively construct and improve their personality. So, how our parents can't educate their children! What is the ultimate goal of family education? I think it should be to guide children to have the will to actively interact with the external environment, so as to complete the construction of their own personality. Parents must give the school an open, active and positive child, and the school can provide a suitable development environment for the child through its unique social communication function. Of course, this is only the function brought by the nature of the school itself. The main business of the school lies in the training of knowledge, experience and skills. Quality education should start from the family. Only by improving parents' educational level, changing parents' educational concept and providing high-quality children from their families can we export talents with both ability and political integrity from the school port. In the development of personality, the role of the school is just a fermentor, and what kind of results can really be fermented depends on what you put in!