For adults, a 3-year-old child thinks the child is too young. If you reason with them, the children won't understand, but this is what parents think. 3-year-old children actually have their own ideas about learning things. When parents convey the wrong behavior to children, children don't know whether it is right or wrong, so they are used to imitating their parents' behavior.
3-year-old children urinate everywhere, grandma taught them.
Xiao Chen, our downstairs, usually has a good relationship with her. At ordinary times, both our families like to take their children out to play, so we make an appointment habitually. However, when her daughter was 2 years old, she could not resist the economic pressure, so Xiao Chen had to return to the workplace and give her daughter to her mother-in-law. There are advantages and disadvantages when the mother-in-law comes. The advantage is that you can share housework. The disadvantage is that my mother-in-law has some bad habits because she has lived in the countryside for a long time, and inadvertently taught this bad habit to a 3-year-old child.
On one occasion, Xiao Chen was on vacation, and she asked her to take the children out to play. At that time, the weather was lukewarm, the children were wearing open-backed pants and two children were walking when they saw Xiao Chen's daughter suddenly squat down. We thought something had happened, so we went to have a look and found that Xiao Chen's daughter was "convenient". At that time, both I and I were surprised. This is a public place, and children are too casual. Then Xiao Chen quickly told her daughter, "Next time you want to go to the toilet, be sure to call your mother and I'll take you to the toilet. You are a girl, you must pay attention to your image, and your behavior also destroys the environment in public places. " Unexpectedly, my daughter said, "Grandma asked me to do this. Not dirty. At home, grandma said that you can go to the toilet anywhere as long as you don't pee your pants. Grandma will help me clean up. "
Faced with her daughter's sweet words and practices, Xiao Chen quickly took her daughter home and communicated with her mother-in-law. She can't teach her children like this anymore. The problem of urinating everywhere will easily become a habit, and she can't just spoil the children. Grandma said with a little indomitable, "Isn't this at home?" The child's discharge is not dirty. I'll clean it up. "In the face of her mother-in-law's unrepentant behavior, Xiao Chen became wild and said: Children should take care of themselves in the future, and such uncivilized habits must be changed by themselves.
In our society, we can often see some adults taking their children out to play. When children want to go to the toilet, they are allowed to urinate anywhere. They think it's nothing and it's not dirty. In fact, they have laid a great "hidden danger" for their children. It's not about being dirty, it's about whether children have a sense of civilization and whether they can do it. When parents allow their children to do it, they can do it in their minds and will continue to do it next time.
In public places, it is actually a very uncivilized habit for children to urinate anywhere. Parents don't feel dirty, and others don't feel dirty in public places. Some people will choose to walk away silently when they see such behavior. Some people will stand up and accuse if they don't like such things, but parents are often more fierce than those who accuse them. For such behavior, many people dare to be angry and dare not speak. In fact, such behavior is not the fault of children, but the responsibility lies with parents, who have not cultivated their children's awareness of civilization and given them correct guidance. Although the child is young, I feel that the child can't learn anything. In fact, children are best at imitating their parents' behavior.
So, how should parents establish a sense of civilization for their children?
1. Respect others. Tell children that in public places, they must know how to respect others and not to bring inconvenience to others. Moreover, if they want to go to the toilet, they must tell their parents not to pee anywhere. This is a very uncivilized behavior, not a dirty problem. When your uncivilized behavior will embarrass others, you will feel ill-bred. Whether you treat others or your family, you should keep a good upbringing.
In the street, we sometimes see people with limited mobility. When children don't know why they walk like this, they sometimes laugh at them and imitate them. In fact, this uncivilized behavior of children will bring them a sense of shame and make them very embarrassed. When children see such a person with mobility difficulties, we parents can't lead our children to laugh at others, which is a very uncultured behavior. We should guide children correctly, treat them with a normal heart, don't laugh at them, and don't imitate their walking posture, which will aggravate their sense of shame and hurt their self-esteem. We should respect them. When they have any problems, we can also teach our children to help them. This can not only cultivate children's respect for others, but also help them develop the quality of helping others.
2. Many normal children are "crazy" and "rampaging" at home, and they do the same outside. Then we parents should tell our children that outside is not as good as at home, and there are few family members and relatives, and we can tolerate children's bad behavior, but outside is different. You can't influence others because of your bad behavior.
Many times, some children go out to play, just like a "runaway wild horse", and their behavior is not appropriate. Once, I took my 4-year-old cousin out to play. She is as reckless as at home. She accidentally bumped into a high school student with a drink and spilled it all over the students. That student is not good at talking about my cousin, so she has to tell me that the children should be careful the next time she notices that this is a public place. In case she bumps into some unreasonable people, things will be difficult to solve. After that, she hurried home to change clothes. Faced with such a thing, it won't be so easy for another person to leave. Sometimes she has to pay for other people's clothes.
Therefore, parents should not ignore their children's behavior because they are too young. Such misconduct will have a very bad influence on others, and others will label their children as uneducated because of such behavior. Therefore, parents must regulate their children's behavior and not bring inconvenience to others.
Children learn to imitate their parents' behavior. Many times, civilization is not only the behavior of defecating everywhere, but also the way they speak. Sometimes children are not suitable, and some adults will be embarrassed. Although children will talk nonsense, if they say it without thinking, it will sometimes be funny, but it will bring a lot of inconvenience to others, and others will think that children are impolite.
Taking a bus is believed to be a means of transportation for many people to and from work. Xiao nai is 8 years old this year. Because parents are afraid of accidents on Xiao Nai's way to school, Xiao Nai's grandmother drives her children to and from school. As we know, the time for children to leave school is the peak period. Usually grandma takes Xiao Nai to her seat, but there are too many people today, and there is no room. Suddenly, I saw Xiao Nai pointing to an aunt and saying, "Get up and give us your seat. How dare you not give up your seat to your child? " Grandma looked at the child's behavior and smiled and said, "This is my grandson, my grandson." I didn't know that Xiao Nai's grandmother turned a blind eye to Xiao Nai's uncivilized situation. The girls who were asked to give up their seats were embarrassed and asked them to sit down. After Xiao Nai and Grandma sat down, they proudly asked Grandma for credit: "Grandma, I did a good job. Did I learn from you? " Grandma also smiled and praised the child: "My little milk is great. It's really shine on you and better than blue! " Finally, I understand that the uncivilized tone of children is brought to them by their parents.
Many times, because children are influenced by their parents or people around them, it is easy to learn their parents' bad habits, but some parents don't think so. Children are complacent, but they don't know that this is an act of destroying children.
Parents are role models for children, and many behaviors of children are learned from their parents. And although the child is so young, he can learn quickly, and even if he doesn't learn all, he can imitate a 7.8. Therefore, parents should pay great attention to their behavior in front of their children. It is said that children learn with them. If parents bring good behavior to children, then children will learn good behavior. Then, when parents bring bad behavior to children, children will also learn. Once a child develops the wrong habit, it will bring great negative influence to the child if parents don't pay attention to it.
If their children are labeled as "uncivilized" and "uneducated", then parents also want to take them off. Because in every parent's mind, their children are disobedient and have no future. I don't want to hear people speak ill of my children. Therefore, parents don't want their children to be labeled as "uncivilized" and "uneducated", so parents must regulate their children's behavior and develop the habit of stressing civilization.
Parents have an unshirkable responsibility for uncivilized children. 3 years old is also an important stage in the formation of children's subjective consciousness. The educational process at this stage must not be ignored, otherwise it will have a lifelong impact on children. So, do you usually let your child pee anywhere? Will you teach your children some uncivilized behaviors? What do you think about this? Welcome to the comments section. Let's discuss and communicate together.