Parents' positive psychology makes children more confident.

What is the Rosenthal effect

American psychologist Rosenthal once did such an experiment:

He came to an ordinary middle school, walked casually in a class, and then circled a few names on the list of students, telling their teachers that these students had high IQ and were very smart.

After a while, the professor came to this middle school again, and the miracle happened again. Those students selected by him have really become the best in the class.

Why is this happening?

It is the magic of "hint" at work.

Praise and expectation have an energy that can change people's behavior. When people get compliments from others, they will feel supported and enhance their self-worth, so they will take corresponding actions.

The Application of Rosenthal Effect in Family

When we apply this effect to family education, no matter whether the child can do it or not, never use the opposite words to stimulate the child, so the result will only be zero.

The best way is to set up a "you can do better" person for your child. Over time, you may find that your child can really do it.

Long-term negative and bad psychological hints will affect children's emotions.

On the contrary, if the mother places high hopes on her children, gives them positive affirmation and nourishes their hearts through expectant eyes, approving smiles and inspiring words, the children will be more self-loving, confident and self-reliant.

The effect of stepping into the door

Step by step, ask the children for something.

The entrance effect is used in the family.

A phenomenon often occurs in daily life: when you ask for help from others, if you ask for higher requirements from the beginning, it is easy to be rejected; And if you make a smaller request first, and then increase the weight of the request after others agree, it will be easier to achieve the goal.

This phenomenon is called "foot-in-door effect" by psychologists.

In family education, we can also make use of the "foot-in-the-door effect", for example, first put forward lower requirements for children, then affirm, praise or even reward them after they have done as required, and then gradually raise the requirements so that children are willing to work hard endlessly.