There are also some particularly clever children, but they are probably not on the same track as ordinary children. People can take the "green channel".

Most parents think that their smart children are actually ordinary children.

Ordinary children are, in a certain way, there will be some small specialties, some bright performances or a part of themselves. But many times, we still have to work hard and make continuous progress.

1, when ordinary children are always reminded of "cleverness"

If you always emphasize that children are smart, then children may avoid doing something in order to maintain their "smart" image.

For example, you won't make yourself work hard, because smart people should do things easily. If you work hard, you are not very smart.

I will also try to avoid doing something uncertain and risky, because if I make a mistake, I am not smart enough. ...

After a long time, when that little cleverness is not enough, it becomes a burden of life to develop this habit of avoiding appearing hard.

2. Tell children more objective laws, instead of boasting about cleverness.

Many laws of doing things exist objectively. For example, under the same conditions, people who pay attention to methods are likely to do better than those who have no rules. People who work step by step will do better than fishing for three days and drying their nets for two days.

Doing things by methods and efforts will be more reliable than simply being smart.

Tell the children more about this objective law and let them know what to do, so it is easier to get better.

3. Be more positive and encourage children, but pay attention to ways and means.

In any case, I think we should be more active and encouraging to our children. Of course, when children do particularly well in some aspects, parents can also praise them greatly.

Both children and adults actually want to be seen and affirmed, which is a sense of values and achievement. This kind of affirmation and encouragement will give children more motivation and make them more motivated.

You can tell your child what he/she has done particularly well, instead of simply saying "You are great".

You can affirm your child's attitude, efforts and methods instead of simply saying, "The baby is really smart."

You can also point out children's own advantages and strengths, make them more confident in this respect, encourage them to learn to think, and learn how to use their own advantages to do things better.