When the dance teacher taught the children to dance, Xiaoli's mother found that the children's reaction was very slow. The movements made are always half a beat slower than other children, and the teacher also gives feedback that Xiaoli can't keep up with the beat in class, which makes Xiaoli's mother very upset.
So Xiaoli's mother decided to tutor her children to learn dance, only to find that the children always couldn't keep up with the rhythm. Anxious, she sometimes blames her children for being "stupid" in the process of teaching them. There are many such children in life. Their response is always half a beat slower than others, and parents will naturally be anxious when they see their children's slow response.
There is an old saying in China that describes a child's growth and development process: "Two lifts, four turns, six sits, seven rolls and eight climbs for one year." In other words, children will lift their legs at two months, turn over at four months, sit up at six months, roll around at seven months, crawl at eight months and learn to walk at one year old. However, some children always learn slowly. So how should parents treat such children?
Is it because children are stupid that everything is slow? Some children are always slower than others in both study and daily life. At school, the teacher called everyone to the playground to do sports. Everyone ran out, but some children stayed where they were. At home, parents let their children go out to help with shopping, and some children are always "slow-heating".
Some parents think that it is not good for children to do things "slowly", which is a reflection of their "stupidity", but this is not the case. Children are slow in doing everything, not because of "benzene" but because of "temperament". Parents need to know why their children are "slow".
As parents, they feel anxious when they see that their children are always half a beat slower than others, and sometimes they accuse their children of being stupid. But in fact, the real reason why children are slower than others is not because children are stupid than others, but because children have a unique temperament. Every child is very clever, and there are not necessarily stupid children in the world. Every child is an independent individual, and their temperament is also varied. Rousseau once said that children's physical and mental development has its natural laws. As parents, we must follow and respect these natural laws and cannot compete with them.
Those children who always do things half a beat slower than other children have a temperament called "slow type", also called "late bloomer". Many successful people in the world have this temperament. It is precisely because they do things half a beat slower than others that they can be more rational and calm when thinking.
Children who are slow in doing things belong to the "slow" temperament. What is a "slow" temperament?
The most obvious feature of the so-called "slow" temperament is that everything is half a beat slower than others, and the understanding of things will be slower than others. For some impatient parents, educating their children with this "slow" temperament sometimes makes them want to climb over the wall.
Although children with "slow" temperament have low acceptance of the outside world, such children also have their advantages. Children like "chronic" will be very persistent in one thing, and they will devote themselves to it with a very serious and responsible attitude when they do something. This kind of child's personality will also be more calm, thinking and doing things more rational and calm. Secondly, children have stronger observation and insight into one thing than other children.
Psychologist Thomas? Chase found in many experiments and observation studies that about 15% of children's temperament types belong to the slow type. Children with chronic affection are not as fond of crying and screaming as children with difficult temperament, nor do they develop rapidly as children with easy temperament. Their growth progress is always slow and their mood changes are weak. So how should parents guide these "slow-hot" children in their lives? Let's discuss it with Nemo's mother!
Parents do this to guide "slow-tempered" children. 1, don't encourage them to learn to let nature take its course.
For some parents who are deeply influenced by the educational concept of "looking forward to their children's success, looking forward to their women's success", they can't help but force their children when they see that their children are always slow to do things, and sometimes they accuse them of "slow behavior". But for these slow-tempered children, the most crucial point is to let them adapt to the environment and think at their own pace.
Everything in the world has rules to follow, and every child has his own unique characteristics. As parents, they should not use general standards to ask their children to do this or that. Learn to conform to children's temperament, give children more independent time and space, and know how to educate children with a natural attitude.
In life, when children get stuck doing something, parents can give them some tips and appropriate help, but they can't completely help them do the whole thing. For these slow-tempered children, they also have their own coping styles, but it takes a long time. Parents should educate their children patiently and give them enough time to grow up. If the child is slow, he will be scolded by his parents. Sometimes, a child will have a rebellious mentality in his heart, which is even more detrimental to his growth.
2. Give children some appropriate help and encouragement.
For children, parents' help and encouragement are great support. This is especially true for children with "slow" temperament, because they are slow to do things themselves and they can feel it. At this time, children will pay great attention to the evaluation of others.
For children, parents' words are always credible. If parents often blame their children for their slow response, they will think that their children are really stupid. Long-term acceptance of these negative feedback from parents, children will gradually become more and more inferior. For "chronic" children, they are more likely to deny themselves because of one thing, so the help and encouragement of parents is extremely important.
Children with "slow" temperament are naturally negative and easy to deny themselves. Therefore, parents need positive education to guide their children to develop the habit of positive thinking. A "slow-tempered" child is like a snail. Although they walk slowly, they have strong perseverance. As long as the snail goes straight ahead, one day it can see the beautiful scenery. Children grow slowly, so parents don't have to worry. Knowing how to use correct and scientific educational methods can bring their children a wonderful journey of growth.