The following is an article "I don't want to take so many classes" written by a fourth-grade student in Shanghai in the magazine "Reading and Writing Xintiandi" subscribed by Xiaoqiu: "Alas, it's the weekend again!" I sigh. Are you sure the weekend is not good? Don't worry, listen to me. Recently, because of my poor grades, my mother enrolled me in many cram schools, such as English, composition, Olympics … and even erhu classes! These days, it takes six or seven hours just to do homework, not to mention courses. It is customary to get up early every weekend and go to bed at eleven o'clock in the evening. The whole pair of "panda eyes" was really miserable the next day. There is too much homework and there is no rest time at all. After writing the composition, I do math, after math, I read English, after English ... who deprived my child of his innocent childhood? Because of too much homework, I often fall asleep at my desk! I often protest to my mother, and the result is either criticized by my mother's knife mouth or beaten by my father's diamond fist! So, the scene at the beginning of this article happened. While doing my homework, I listened to my mother's nagging and kept shouting: I don't want to take so many classes! After listening to the child's voice, as a parent, can you understand how bitter the child is? Will you continue to let your children take so many classes or decompress them? The following is a transcript of Mr. Chen Mo's speech, which I hope will be helpful to your decision. Teacher Chen Mo consults six or seven hundred children every year and has rich clinical experience, so her data and opinions are quite convincing. It is said that it is difficult to make an appointment for teacher Chen's consultation. Teacher Chen said that the symptom of being tired of learning is that homework can be finished at 7: 30 and must be finished at 9: 00. After the second grade of primary school, many children began to be tired of learning. The overall pressure on children is very great. Generally, there are problems in senior two, and children will give up if they are under too much pressure. Teacher Chen's summary of the school environment is that school life is monotonous, the competitive atmosphere is strong, and teachers are anxious. Teachers are a high-risk group of anxiety, and children's emotions are influenced by teachers' emotions. Imagine that Mr. Zhang, who entered the classroom, was anxious, Mr. Wang was anxious, and Mr. Li was also anxious. Children are already anxious at school because of the influence of anxious teachers. After returning home, parents should give her psychological relaxation and every family should smile at her. It is tight for children to go to school the next day, so let them go far. But the real family environment is that many parents have high expectations for their children. If a child who has been nervous all day at school comes home again, the rubber band will break one day. Teacher Chen told us that the principle of one-child education is that fathers should look at their sons with appreciation, and mothers should look at their daughters with appreciation. This kind of child will be better. When talking about the factors that affect learning, Mr. Chen discusses them from three aspects: physiology, psychology and living environment. Physiologically, there are physical conditions besides inherited intelligence. Children with shallow sleep have weak nerve development and weak attention; A child who just went to school can't write some words in the grid, which is the reason why his physical development is not in place, not that he doesn't work hard. If a child who has been busy at school all day thinks that his writing is not good and will be punished, it will ruin him even more. Parents should wait and be patient. Generally, children will catch up slowly in the third and fourth grades of primary school. Don't destroy his psychology from the beginning. Parents should cherish and protect him more. Children with enuresis and asthma have weak central nervous system and insufficient concentration. Such children are most afraid that their mentality will be broken in the first and second grades of primary school. The reason why high school students can't learn well is emotional problems, but primary school students are not. Psychological aspects are mainly reflected in anxiety (mainly mother's anxiety), interpersonal relationship and inferiority complex. The child went out behind his mother's back. If the whole class rejects your child, parents should step in and find professionals at some point. Also need to get the cooperation of the school, so that the child's nightmare can be fifty years old. Children's psychological task in primary school is to plant an inferiority tree or a diligent tree. This tree was planted by the teacher. Primary school teachers can't say anything about evaluation. If the teacher's evaluation of the child is not good, the mother should make an eraser to erase the teacher's bad evaluation of the child and encourage the child, then the teacher's tree will not be planted. If children feel uncomfortable, they will turn left, steal things and hit people, because they can't express themselves in words and have heavy psychological pressure. Children have no quality problems, and the basic psychological crisis is fear. If children want to read good books, they must have a peaceful mind. The living environment includes family structure (extended family, family of three, reorganized family), parental relationship and parenting style. If children are involved in discussing big issues at home, such as buying a house, and let them judge whether their parents' views are right or wrong, then their maturity will be high. Children can face difficulties because they have a sense of security, and children who have a good relationship with their mothers have a good sense of security. Children can't be afraid of their mothers. Many children with TIC disorder are afraid of their mothers. And the mother should be the one who protects and comforts the child when he is wronged. In the first and second grades, children should be helped to learn. Parents' mentality is companionship. Children do their homework and parents read newspapers. After the third grade, parents will be separated from their children's study. It is normal for children to be inattentive when doing homework, because children can only remember ten minutes' attention. At this time, parents can pretend not to see it, touch his head back and say, "Do it!" " . The child's handwriting is not good. Let it go. If the child copies 15 as 5 1 (it is a neurological problem), the mother will help him erase it and let him copy it correctly. If the child's mistake is to understand the problem, tell him on the weekend, not on the same day. Let the child do whatever he wants after finishing his homework, such as assigning other homework, and he will put it off until late. Children who finish their homework ahead of time and can play are highly motivated. Pupils should be raised. Get well. The child has had a fever for two weeks. Children's sleep is a top priority at home. Adults will pay attention to sleep when they grow up. Dad's role: first, dad needs to have time alone with his children in kindergarten, and his mother can't be there, otherwise the children are prone to Oedipus; Second, when 12 and 13 years old, fathers need to have time to be alone with their children. Without a mother, it will give children a lot of strength, and the father is the dominant. After listening to teacher Chen's lecture, I strengthened the orientation of family education, that is, to provide her with time and space to develop her interests and specialties as much as possible during her growth, and to cultivate her character and behavior habits in daily life. As a parent, I don't need to prove how successful I am in parenting with my children's academic performance and the school I went to. I hope my child can live a stable life and have the ability to resist the ups and downs of life. Now is an important stage to lay a solid foundation for her life.