Watching crying parents regret their choice, they reflect in despair. Sending their children to such a school is their most regretful decision, and they are very sorry for their children. -Tragedy is worrying, which is true. The culprit is really not the evil Zhang Yu College, but such irresponsible parents. They "dumped" their children to Zhang Yu College as trouble and sent them to the devil in a grand but selfish and stupid way, leaving psychological scars that can never be erased.
Zhang Yu College has become the target of public criticism, but it is necessary to reflect on how this "darkroom education" that tames children as tools came into being. It is the darkroom thinking in parents' mind and socialization before darkroom education in Zhang Yu Academy.
I have always felt that "problem of juvenile" is not an objective existence, but a social system that has lost its educational ability, just like many "diseases" are produced for the convenience of discipline. Parents and educators who have lost their patience and ability in education avoid their own problems and put all the problems on their children. They often think that there is something wrong with their children, and often regard their normal personality as a "disease that needs treatment" without reflecting on themselves.
Some time ago, a friend was very worried about whether his son had a problem. It is difficult for him to concentrate when he is in kindergarten. He likes to whisper to other children and do a lot of little tricks. Teachers often criticize him. She was very anxious and asked me if I knew any experts who could correct and treat them. I told him, isn't it normal that such a young child loves to play and doesn't concentrate like an adult? It is not children who are sick, but adults who are sick and anxious. Parents who usually don't care about their children and have no time to spend with them are more likely to be anxious. They project anxiety on their children, have no patience to communicate with them, and regard hyperactive children as "troubles"-thus creating a "disease". Many so-called problems are actually just a projection of adult anxiety.
Look at mother's reflection. "My son didn't go to school at that time and always wanted to go online. As a mother, I am anxious and miserable, and there is no way out. I want my children to get rid of this negative emotion. " So, she entered "Internet addiction school" on the Internet. "This Zhang Yu College caught my attention. I think the publicity page of the school is very good, and it advocates the education of Chinese studies. I think this is a school that educates children to be good people. " -First, have you ever reflected on how the habit of "always wanting to surf the Internet" came into being? Is it the child's fault? Parents stare at mobile phones, computers and mobile phones all day in front of their children at home. What kind of educational environment do they give their children? I have no time and patience to accompany my children. When my children are a little noisy, they will get on their mobile phones and IPAD and let themselves play online. Can they not "always want to surf the Internet"? Parents' impatience makes children develop the habit of surfing the internet, and they have no patience to help children get rid of network dependence. So they want to leave their children as "trouble" to others, find experts online, find a place casually, and even send them there without careful investigation. This shows how anxious and irresponsible they are. Isn't the illness of parents much more serious than the so-called "always wanting to surf the Internet"?
One is not to think about whether the child is a "problem", the other is not to think about how the so-called "problem" comes from, and the third is to have no patience to help the child overcome the so-called "problem". Seeing that the children "showed no hope", I arbitrarily locked them in a dark room, where they could not get rid of the anxiety of adults. Only when you have this dark room in your heart will you feel that your child is sick and send him to those messy places as a problem and trouble. Zhang Yu Academy's way of "treating diseases" is just a continuation of the "darkroom thinking" of ignorant parents. Ignorant parents sent their children there in the name of "good for their children". Which college treated children in that cruel way in the name of "good for their children"? Violence in a dark room is as terrible as parents' anxiety about "for the good of their children" The children's way to the dark room of Zhang Yu College was paved by their sick father, and they finally left their children as trouble to places like Zhang Yu College, expecting them to take immediate remedial measures. Finally, they were either electrocuted, beaten by the rulers, or locked in a dark room.