Is there any way to make parenting simple, happy and beautiful? I strongly recommend a book by Mr. Yin Jianli. The simplest education is the most beautiful. Let everyone sweep away the troubles of parenting and sing along the way!
I read this book six years ago and I feel very good! I turned it out the other day and reread it. Combined with my own experience of raising three treasures, I have more feelings and am even more amazed at this book!
Before opening this book, please think about two questions:
"What is the most beautiful education?
"What is the function or purpose of education?
The English word "education" comes from the Latin word "duc ā ti not", which means "education", that is, to induce something hidden in the body and mind by certain means. So from a personal point of view, one of the main functions of education is to cultivate. From the perspective of training, the most beautiful education is to guide, explore and release people's potential to the maximum extent.
So what is the simplest master key that can open the education program?
Teacher Yin summed up three points:
The first treasure is "reading". Reading can not only shape children's intelligence, but also shape their psychological quality. Because any book, as long as it is a good book, is often full of feelings of truth, goodness and beauty, which will have a subtle influence on children.
The second treasure is freedom. Giving children freedom does not mean leaving them alone, but it means that you must give them "three rights": the right to choose, the right to try and the right to make mistakes. A person, first of all a free person, can become a conscious person.
Sambo is a "good example". Setting an example for children is not only the way you look in front of outsiders, but also the way you get along with children. How to get along with children is the most direct and effective teaching material. Everything you can teach your children is written in it.
Children are the same as children, but they are different. The task of parents is to help their children develop healthily. Educator Dewey said: "The highest purpose of all education is to form character." In everyone's life growth, there is no more important teacher than parents.
In the era of involution of modern education, parents, teachers and children all live in anxiety and want to make their children better. Children's extracurricular time is filled with various training classes.
But we must be vigilant: art education is not art skill education.
Have you noticed that there are more and more sick children, such as ADHD, autism and sensory disorders? ...
For some behaviors of children, we should not rush to label them as sick. We should find our own mistakes in parenting and actively improve the quality of parent-child relationship.
"There is a trend now. When children have some psychological problems or behavioral problems, people no longer have the patience to think about their personality differences or educational ecological environment, but directly push these problems to medical care, so there are more and more diseases surrounding their brains and consciousness. "
Teacher Yin believes that the outbreak of autism is related to propaganda and huge medical benefits to some extent. Autism is often advertised as a pure physiological disease, because only by absolutely separating it from education can a huge market for research, diagnosis and treatment be formed. The hype of autism into a genius also gives parents an excuse to face and fail in education.
Teacher Yin reminded parents that doctors can't look at the problem in depth from a child's growth experience, and the observation starting point and rehabilitation ending point of a child's mental disability or mental retardation are all in the education system. The most important concept of psychological rehabilitation should be how to return the growing environment full of love and freedom to children. What kind of eyes parents look at their children and how to treat them determine what kind of state children will face the world.
As a parent, I think education can be both simple and complicated. What is simple is the big guiding principle, but what is complicated is the concrete application of the principle and teaching students in accordance with their aptitude at different growth stages and under different circumstances. It takes ten years to plant trees, but it takes a hundred years to cultivate people. In the era of fast-paced education commercialization, parents need love, patience and skills to help their children discover and develop their potential.
The most beautiful education is the simplest and the simplest education is the most beautiful! Let's read teacher Yin's book together and enjoy parenting!