After studying the book carefully, I got many very practical suggestions. From this book, on the one hand, I can understand my role and let us realize the importance of discipline. On the other hand, it will make me get along better with my children. I will establish a closer teacher-student relationship with them and watch them grow sturdily. Caring and considerate discipline will make us feel satisfied and encouraged.
Generally speaking, this book will help us understand children's needs, urge us to respect each other, give unconditional love and find out the reasons for children's behavior. In addition, you can learn some specific skills and know what to do and what not to do, so as to formulate a code of conduct, clarify the expected effect, encourage your child and fully explore his potential. The Education Law of Love puts the theory into practice, and the methods in the book can help children live happily, full of vitality and achieve our expected goals.
I will share with you one or two examples of caring and disciplining skills mentioned in the book.
The first part of this book is "Discipline: Great Challenges and Opportunities for Parental Education". In this part, I fully understand three educational methods, namely, punishment, tolerance and love for discipline. Punishment education has been used since the old saying "Huang Jing points out good people", but in the process of continuous application and practice, we do find that this is a kind of control that focuses on the surface of punishment. In fact, children have not really learned self-control and will not make progress. Therefore, in today's society, more and more people begin to substitute tolerance for punishment, laissez-faire for severity, and punishment has become doting, which is not an effective way of education. After exploration, the author recommended care and discipline to us-pay attention to the way of influencing children with parental authority. This kind of education method starts with "love", aims at children's income and is based on caring.
After reading this part, I am thinking about what kind of love we should give our children. What kind of love can make children grow and gain? I think love should be respect. Every child is different. The only thing is that they all have their own characteristics, but we often ignore this and habitually compare our children, while our children are incomparable. Love is tolerant. We should love not only the advantages of a child, but also his shortcomings. As adults, we are always used to evaluating children with our own eyes, but we often ignore the most basic things. As a child, we need to tolerate his own mistakes and shortcomings. Love is patient education, and children's growth is a long process. As adults, the most important thing is to help children grow up, have enough patience, encourage and support them and grow up with them.
The second part of this book is "the connotation of caring discipline". In this part, the author shows us how to provide encouragement, role models and positive attention for children-all based on love and authority.
In this part, there is a very interesting point. What a child needs is not that you control him, but that you restrict him from time to time. What is the difference between restriction and control? In a caring atmosphere, restrictions will be set only when it is really necessary, and children's ideas will be taken into account. Restrictions are not punitive and are in line with children's long-term development. Persistence is more difficult than setting restrictions, but persistence means not only obeying rules, but also providing a lasting emotional atmosphere, a friendly and open emotional atmosphere, and giving help and love.
The last part is "caring discipline strategy". In this part, the author studies some detailed caring discipline skills, from which we can also learn many effective skills.
In this part, there is a skill that has benefited me a lot, and that is "consequences of fair use". What is emphasized here is that children should clearly see the reasonable relationship between behavior and consequences. Both natural consequences and logical consequences have certain significance. They can make children understand that correct behavior will have positive consequences and wrong behavior will have negative consequences. He has the ability to change his situation and his decision is very important. From this, he will learn self-control and cooperation, and cultivate the concept that children are responsible for their actions.
Adults have a profound influence on children and a great responsibility. For the sake of children, we all try our best to enjoy it. Of course, when everything goes well, it's easy to say so. Sometimes, we feel tired, depressed or helpless, so we can't be perfect parents, but we can be parents who do our best for our children. Just as we teach our children to treat every mistake as an opportunity for progress, we should do the same. Every time we discipline our children in a caring way and succeed, we will be encouraged.