Family education, many children are only children, is the darling of the family. And as children grow older, they will gradually tell that your words are moist, so we need to take a good head. Let's share some methods of family education.
Family education methods 1 1. In family education, the most common way is to talk. The quality of conversation is closely related to the art of conversation.
Conversation is a conversation between parents and children in a democratic and harmonious atmosphere. The timing of the conversation should be appropriate, and the topic of conversation should be beneficial and interesting to children. Before talking, parents should induce their children to pour out their hearts freely, and then give back their opinions higher than their children as gifts. Through the exchange of ideas between parents and children, children have been educated and enlightened.
Simple parents talk, children listen, and there is no feedback, which can't be regarded as real communication. What is even more undesirable is that parents satirize and criticize their children by talking, seize a small matter and nag endlessly, which makes them disgusted and bored.
The art of conversation is mainly embodied in the capture of conversation opportunities and the use of conversation methods. Generally speaking, parents and children should not talk when they are in a bad mood, especially when they are angry. Don't talk until the whole story is clear; Please don't have a critical conversation when there are outsiders, especially guests present; At the dinner table, before the children go to bed, it is not appropriate to have a critical conversation.
Family education is characterized by "teaching in times of trouble", so the timing of education should be flexible, and everything should be based on the needs of education, especially the effect of education, and the acceptance of children. There are many ways to talk, such as rambling, investigation, encouragement, serious criticism and education. Among them, rambling, that is, talking freely and happily without being limited by time, place and content, is often a popular way of talking for children.
A successful conversation is like a spring breeze, and children will be taught.
Second, the art of activities with children
Family atmosphere is one of the important factors in the implementation of family education, and activities with children are one of the effective ways to create a good family atmosphere.
In life, parents and children have many opportunities for activities.
Take the children to the wild. Nature is beautiful: flowers in spring, cicadas in summer, fallen leaves in autumn, and snow in winter all attract children infinitely. Parents take their children for an outing in the season, and the pleasing natural scenery will bring their children beautiful reverie and longing, and call back their parents' memories of childhood fun. A common mood and a common language make the distance between the old and the young disappear at once, and how much educational content can be carried out at this moment.
Take the children sightseeing. Children are happiest when they can travel abroad during holidays. Those places of interest and various exhibitions are worth seeing. During the visit, if parents can give incisive explanations, children are most admired; If the knowledge is obviously insufficient, parents will be forced to look up books and materials, so as to win the children's hearts.
Take the children shopping. When children are young, they like to go shopping with their parents, and by the way, they can order things that people like to eat. Parents can take the opportunity to introduce commodity knowledge and instill the truth of frugality. When children grow up, they can shop for their families and themselves. Parents can be accompanied as consultants, chatting while buying, watching and chatting while walking. Two generations are not alert to each other, which is a' good opportunity' for education.
Have fun with the children. After dinner, on holidays, the whole family shows their magical powers, plays the piano and sings, and talks about everything, which fills the family with a happy atmosphere and enhances the cohesion of the family and the interest of life.
Parents and children have a lot to do together. The purpose of joint activities is to eliminate the generation gap, harmonize feelings, entertain and educate, and let family education be carried out in joyful, cordial and unrestrained activities.
Third, the art of praise and reward.
It is also very learned to praise and reward children.
Praise and reward children can encourage them to repeat the formation of good habits; Praise and reward can stimulate children's self-motivation, help cultivate children's self-esteem and sense of honor, cultivate children's self-discipline, enhance children's sense of right and wrong, and help deepen the feelings between parents and children.
The child's re-election has fulfilled the parents' demands and hopes and can be praised and rewarded; Children who behave well can also be praised and rewarded, although they are only signs; Children have completed an arduous task, shown brave quality or perseverance, and can also be praised and rewarded by their parents. Parents should praise and reward their children for winning the honorary title.
There are many ways to praise and reward children, and spiritual reward should be the main one. For example: praise, approval, nodding, smiling, intimacy, etc. Can achieve the goal of inspiring children to make progress. There should also be material rewards. For young children, necessary material rewards are also a good means of education. You can send books, clothes, toys, school supplies, etc. But be careful with your money, and don't let your child's young age and pure heart get copper smell too early.
Parents should seize the opportunity of praise and reward. When a child is excited, it comes and goes quickly. Parents should grasp their children's psychological pulse, praise and reward them in time, so that their good performance can be strengthened and consolidated. If it's Monday morning quarterback, it will weaken the incentive.
Again, praise or reward should be realistic, because this is an evaluation of children, and children should know themselves in praise and reward. Too high, easy for children to be blindly satisfied; Too low, and it is not easy to achieve the purpose of motivation. In addition, parents should be sincere when praising and rewarding, and it is best not to promise in advance. Once they make a promise, they should keep it. Never bargain with your child about the degree of reward.
In recent years, some "scholars" refer to "appreciation education" as "universal education" and say: "Appreciating children can be made out of nothing." This statement is debatable, and it is unscientific to replace all educational means with one educational method.
Fourth, the art of apologizing to children.
In family life, parents often say something wrong, do something wrong, and even wronged their children. How to deal with such problems is really one of the arts of family education.
Parents and children should have a democratic and equal relationship in the family. Parents should take the initiative to apologize if they have done something wrong or wronged their children. This will neither affect the prestige of parents nor damage their dignity; On the contrary, it will set an example for children to correct their mistakes, and will make children sincerely admire their parents' quality and cultivation, so as to trust their parents more and be close to them; The dignity of parents will not be reduced, but will be higher, which will also form a relaxed, harmonious and democratic atmosphere conducive to the growth of children in the family.
Of course, when parents apologize and admit their mistakes, especially for their children, they must be sincere, not perfunctory, not looking for objective reasons, and sincerely seek forgiveness.
Verb (short for verb) The art of tolerance.
Tolerance means that after a child does something wrong, parents accept the child's fault with a broad mind. They don't reprimand or investigate harshly, which will make the child deeply blame himself, calmly think about his past in regret and guilt, and urge him to turn over a new leaf in the generosity of his parents.
Ways and means of family education. The importance of family education
It is generally believed that family education is the education that parents (first and foremost) give their children in family life. That is, parents consciously exert certain educational influence on their children through their own words and deeds and family life practice. According to the modern concept, family education includes: the interaction and education of family members (including parents and children) in life.
1, family education is the starting point and basic point of educating people.
Family education generally refers to the process in which parents and their adults educate their minor children. Its educational goal should be: to ensure the healthy development of children's body and mind before entering the society to receive collective education (kindergarten and school education), and to lay a good foundation for receiving kindergarten and school education. After children enter the park, they cooperate with kindergartens and schools to make them develop morally, intellectually, physically, aesthetically and laboriously.
The focus of education is to pay attention to moral education, cultivate children's good moral quality and develop good behavior habits, including living habits, work habits and study habits. And teach children how to learn to be human. Compared with school education and social education, family education has the following characteristics:
2. Early family education.
Family is the cradle of children's life, the first place for children to receive education after birth, that is, the first classroom in life; Parents are the children's first teachers, that is, the first teachers. Therefore, parents' education for their children is the earliest. Generally speaking, after three years of development, children enter early childhood, from 3 to 6 years old is preschool, which is often called early education stage, which is an important period for people's physical and mental development.
Second, family education skills
Rule number one: discuss more and give less orders. For example, to remind children that it is time to do their homework, you can say, "It's time, shouldn't you do your homework?" Instead of just saying, "Stop watching TV and do your homework!" "In this way, the child will feel that you respect him and are willing to listen to you.
The second type: more guidance, less reprimand. In fact, the more parents respect their children, the more self-esteem they will have, and the more they will pay attention to correcting their words and deeds to win the respect of others. Of course, the specific situation should be treated on a case-by-case basis. Parents don't have to be euphemistic about their children's bad behaviors and habits, but they can't reprimand them. Instead, we should talk to him equally and seriously, point out its harmfulness, ask them to correct it and draw up some punishment measures.
The third type: make more friends and less pry into "privacy". Many children are particularly disgusted with their parents going through their schoolbags and peeking at their diaries. In fact, parents should make friends with their children, spend more time chatting with them and ask them about school, interpersonal relationships, views on some things and so on. In this way, children feel that their parents respect and trust themselves, and they will trust their parents more and more, and they will regard their parents as the objects to talk to, not the objects to keep secret.
Family education method 3 children grow up in three environments: family, school and society, but family is the main environment for children to grow up. As an important part of preschool education, preschool family education bears the brunt of the influence on children.
The influence of family education on the formation of children's hot behavior habits and the development of cognition and personality far exceeds that of kindergarten, which is irreplaceable by any other education. However, there are still many parents who are not fully aware of family education and its important role. As a result, children's education is neglected, which makes them lose a solid foundation for healthy and smooth development.
More and more facts prove that the cultivation of good behavior habits is much more important than the acquisition of knowledge. Cultivating good habits is the foundation of a person's independence from society, and children's good behavior habits include many contents, such as living habits, cherishing things, self-care, work habits, self-control and etiquette. Recently, in individual conversations and general interviews with parents, it is found that children's behaviors and habits are out of line between family and kindergarten.
In kindergarten, children behave well, are obedient, can actively do all kinds of things within their power, are polite, don't fight, don't talk back and don't swear; At home, parents report that their children are very disobedient, willful, rude and dependent. What is the reason? The key reason is that the good behavior habits that children have formed in kindergarten are diluted and abolished at home, and a series of problems and puzzles make it difficult for children to continue and develop good behavior habits.
So, what is the significance of cultivating children's good behavior habits? I think there are mainly the following points:
First of all, it is good for children's health: good hygiene habits, including personal hygiene (clothes and body) and public hygiene (no spitting, no littering); Good living habits, including not picky eaters, eating and sleeping on time, etc.
Secondly, it is conducive to children's self-reliance: doing their own things is of course something that children can do. Don't underestimate that children can accomplish a small thing on their own. If parents support and encourage them, their self-confidence will gradually increase.
Thirdly, it is conducive to children's good interpersonal relationships: they can't take other people's things and know how to care, love and help others. These are also basic moral principles.
Then, it is conducive to children's career achievements: concentration, perseverance and perseverance. This is the most important behavior habit that affects children's future academic performance.
Finally, we should cultivate good behavior habits. Bacon said: "Habit is a tenacious force that can dominate life." This shows the importance of cultivating good behavior habits. Cultivating good behavior habits is an important condition to promote the all-round development of children's intelligence, ability and physical and mental health. With good behavior habits, many problems in study and life will be solved, but it will bring unnecessary trouble to children's study and life and future development. Therefore, it is necessary to cultivate children's good behavior habits.