At a glance, this book has five parts:

0 1, Zhihu, meet your inner treasure.

The main point of this part is that the influence of mother-infant relationship will accompany us all our lives. Knowing this, we have the freedom to rewrite the fate of ourselves and our children.

The younger a child is, the more important his relationship with caregivers is to his life. If a child learns to be independent and comfort himself prematurely, his life background will be lonely and gloomy all his life.

There used to be so-called parenting experts who advocated parents to exercise their children's ability to delay gratification, but careful observation of their children's parents will find that this method destroys the intimate relationship between mother and child, and the child becomes anxious and the mother becomes depressed.

Therefore, parents can rest assured that they can fully meet their children's needs and dependence. The younger the child, the more you want to see the child.

02, attitude, let go of judgment, fully see.

Not disturbing is the great wisdom of respecting children's inner growth rhythm. Parents don't have to frame their children with inertial thinking, let them observe the world through their own eyes and experience their own infinite possibilities.

If parents use all their knowledge to educate their children, at best, children will not surpass their parents; If parents are in awe of their children's souls and just pay attention to them, accompany them and leave them alone, children will naturally become a miracle in the eyes of the public.

03, relationship, childhood communication mode determines the future relationship mode.

How many parents and children get along day and night but have nothing to say.

Language is a wonderful thing, and parents' reaction reflects the choice of educational methods and the quality of parent-child relationship.

"I have you in my heart, so I don't need to communicate verbally", which is an excuse in the name of love.

The mother takes the baby's feelings as the center and gives positive response and attention, so that the child can easily resonate with the people around him, have good empathy and have a full sense of existence.

The best nourishment for children's life is to confirm their feelings.

04, inside, it's not love that hurts.

Reincarnation has a great impetus, and parents with gloomy childhood will pass on psychological trauma to their children. No matter how much we wish our children would stop suffering, our subconscious mind is creating the same trap.

Some parents hold the idea of "love and freedom", but they are often attacked by people around them, because people's subconscious works like this: "What I suffered as a child, you will suffer again." Therefore, people without consciousness can't see children who enjoy love and freedom, which will lead to their old injuries.

The essence of education is actually the self-cultivation of parents.

05, externally, you deserve better.

A child who grows up in a successful learning environment may not have a relaxed and rich life. Get rid of the subconscious restrictive beliefs, and the future development will not be limited.

The absence of childhood will affect a child's life. You should respond honestly to children's needs. Don't pour bitter water on children. "It is not easy to support the family." Please tell me your pride and satisfaction in fighting for this family. For the sake of children's material and spiritual prosperity in the future, parents are requested to put away their sense of heaviness and lack and pass on their hopes to the next generation.