Empathy is a very important ability, but this ability actually needs parents to teach their children. Some parents will find that they don't know how to empathize when educating their children. In fact, some parents think that this ability is something he needs to learn slowly, and parents don't need to give him any guidance. This idea is actually incorrect, because a child is like a blank sheet of paper, and he doesn't understand many things at all. If parents don't teach their children, it is actually very difficult for them to understand these things slowly. If when educating children, they have been taught how to put themselves in each other's shoes, but he can't always learn. In fact, parents need to think about whether there is something wrong with their own education methods.

1. Parents always teach their children arbitrarily. In the process of educating their children, some parents hope that they can learn a lot of abilities and understand a lot of life truths, but they don't give their children the opportunity to practice themselves. In other words, in the process of educating their children, some parents want their children to learn how to put themselves in others' shoes, but they always instill some knowledge and some truth in their children.

Then this is definitely not a good method. It is very likely that the child has been taught many times, but he still won't know how to put himself in the other's shoes, because in the process of the child's growth, empathy actually requires him to constantly face some things, accept them slowly and learn slowly. This kind of thing will not happen overnight. In other words, when parents tell their children what to do, it is not a good idea. The best way is actually to infect their children in your own way and let them learn.

Second, empathy needs to be taught to children slowly. This ability is not as simple as learning some knowledge. Just like some adults, when they grow up, they realize that empathy is very important, but it is difficult to really do it when dealing with some things. We can only learn knowledge through repeated exercise and training, but it is actually very difficult for some people to put themselves in their shoes, because their own living environment does not require them to put themselves in their shoes.

In other words, when they deal with some problems, they can find solutions quickly, and even someone will help them find these solutions. For example, when they were young, they met some problems with their friends, and their parents would directly propose solutions to them. In this case, children will lose the opportunity to put themselves in others' shoes. If there are some contradictions between children and friends, what parents should actually do is to guide their children how to put themselves in their shoes, such as asking what they think, and then slowly guide them to think about their friends' situation through some questions.

Third, parents should also learn to put themselves in other's shoes. Parents should educate their children to learn empathy. At the same time, they should actually learn to sympathize with their children. Sometimes, children are very tired and even miserable in their studies, but parents will blindly help their children arrange their study time because they want to get good grades, but in fact, children don't accept it or even understand it. If parents can learn to empathize with their children's emotions and feel their children's thoughts at this time, it may also make their children's learning easier.