First, doting makes children's ability low. Every parent wants their children to have strong ability and excellent academic performance, but parents unconsciously spoil their children, which degrades their abilities in all aspects and leads to their low ability. In France, an old couple gave birth to a child when they were in their fifties, so the old couple took good care of and loved the child. When children are 25 years old, they have to relieve defecation with the help of their parents.
Imagine, if the two old people are gone, how can the child live? The old couple refused to let their children do anything, which led to the disappearance of all their abilities and instincts. Although this is an extreme case, it is a wake-up call for every parent. In order to enhance children's ability, we must not spoil them, but love them rationally.
Second, doting makes children lose interest in learning. Because of our doting, children's abilities are covered up. If children with low abilities are allowed to participate in study and life, they will encounter many problems. Such children will encounter all kinds of obstacles in their study, so they lose interest in learning, hate learning, and finally get tired of learning and even drop out of school. When these children's academic performance drops, other problems follow. Therefore, almost all children who are tired of learning have grown up in doting. For the sake of children, please keep parents away from doting.
Third, doting confuses children's values. Children who grow up in a doting environment have some chaotic values in their minds. Because he has been living in a doting environment, he can do whatever he wants, and then he will feel that he doesn't need these correct values, that he is satisfied, and even his thinking will stagnate in that feeling. When he enters the society, there will be a series of problems. Such children are in a state of confusion on many issues, such as principles and values. This is the result of doting on children.
Loving children does not mean doing everything for them. Loving children doesn't mean giving them whatever they need. It is the most important thing to give children the space to grow up freely and to nourish the spirit they need to grow up. A child is an independent individual, who will face the world, society and life independently in the future. Therefore, it is most important for parents to cultivate their children's viability, so that children can exercise, practice and learn how to deal with dangerous situations in the vast world.
Fourth, doting makes children have no love in their hearts. The only child has attracted the attention of the whole family from the day he was born. Because he is an only child, all aspects will care. Children are surrounded by this kind of doting all day, and there is no love in their hearts: because children only know how to accept love and don't know how to give it.
Generally speaking, if a child really loves others, he must first establish contact with others, and then he can love others. And a large number of only children are indifferent, but they are very greedy for the love of others. Even my mother needs to accompany me when I do my homework. If they don't, they can't. Children should be loved, but they should give back to others and let them have a happy experience.
We should use scientific love to protect the healthy growth of children.