The guest of this Ted talk is Rita F. Pierson, who was born in an educational family and has been teaching for 465,438+0 years. Pearson has worked as a teacher in primary schools, middle schools and special education schools, as well as a counselor, exam coordinator and chief assistant. In every job she does, she enthusiastically understands her students, encourages them to believe in themselves and supports their growth.

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Teacher Pearson said: I am either at school or on my way to school, and the topics I talk to people are also what happened at school.

My grandparents and parents are both teachers, and I myself have been a teacher for forty years. Therefore, over the years, I have had the opportunity to observe the educational reform from different angles. Some reforms have achieved good results, while others have not. We know the reason why children drop out of school and don't like learning, either because of poverty, low attendance or the influence of peers. We know these reasons. But there is one thing that we have never discussed or seldom discussed, that is, the importance and value of teacher-student relationship for education.

Good relationship is the foundation of learning.

James Kona (a famous American child psychiatrist) said that good learning is based on good relationships. George Washington, an American education expert, also said that the process of learning is the process of establishing good relations. Everyone here has a teacher or someone who has a great influence on himself. Over the years, I have observed the teaching methods of teachers and found some great practices, but also some unsatisfactory places.

A colleague once told me that I am paid only for teaching, and I have no obligation to make my children like me. Teachers teach, students learn, that's all. I said, "If children don't like you, they won't learn from you.". She said it was impossible, and I said, well, you will find this year extremely long and difficult.

You can start with simple things to build a good relationship.

Maybe some people will think that some people are born with a gift for building good relationships with others. But Stephen Covey has a point. He said that building relationships can start with very simple things, such as actively seeking understanding instead of passively waiting for understanding, such as apologizing. Have you ever thought that your children would be shocked if you said you were sorry?

I am poor at math. Once I taught ratio, and when I went back to the office to check the textbooks, I found that I had taught it completely wrong. When I returned to the classroom the next day, I said, "Sorry, children, I made a mistake in teaching yesterday." As a result, the student said, "Never mind, teacher, you were too excited yesterday. We can only let you continue."

I once took a class with poor grades. I was so stressed that I cried. I thought, how can I take them to the passing line in nine months? This is very, very difficult. How can I improve their academic performance and self-esteem at the same time?

Students need our encouragement.

Then I had an idea. I tell my students that I am the best teacher and you are the best students. We are destined to be together, and we should show our best to others.

A student asked suspiciously, "Really?" I said "really".

We want to show our best in other classes. When we cross the hall, people will notice us, so keep quiet and strut past.

I also taught them to say to themselves, "I am unique, I was born unique, and I will leave this world, better, stronger and more powerful than now." I am fully qualified to study here. I have things to do, people to influence, and places I want to go. "They will also say loudly, yes.

When you repeat these to yourself long enough, they will naturally become a part of you.

Once I gave a student a 20-question test, and a student got the wrong answer 18. I wrote "+2" on the test paper and drew a big smiling face next to it. Later, the student asked me with a sad face, "Teacher, is my grade an F?" I said yes, and he asked, "Then why do you draw smiling faces?" I said, "Because you still have grades, you didn't get all the answers wrong. You got two right. Next time, I believe you can do better." He said, "Yes, I can".

"-18" makes you feel terrible, and "+2" makes you feel that I am not useless.

A good relationship is a valuable legacy.

In the past many years, I have seen my mother do her best as a teacher. She will review lesson plans during recess, visit her home after school in the afternoon, and prepare snacks, towels and soap for the children in the drawer.

She has been doing this for many years. Many years later, when she retired, I saw those children come back to see her and said, "Teacher, you know, you changed my life and made me feel valuable. I want you to see my achievements today. "

Two years ago, my mother died at the age of 92, and many of her students came to the funeral. I was very moved at that time, not only because of my mother's death, but also because I saw that the strong feelings established between my mother and students did not disappear with the passage of time, but always existed.

Can you build relationships with more people? Of course. Will you like all the students? Not exactly.

Teachers are also great actors.

You know, there are always the most naughty students. You can't like all students. The most naughty student has come to challenge you. Whether you can establish a good relationship with them is the premise of education. So, on the other hand, teachers are also great actors. We will do jobs we don't like, listen to meaningless policy explanations and insist on lectures. In any case, we will insist on teaching, because this is what we should do.

Teaching and learning should be fun. If every child is not afraid of taking risks, is willing to think and has a skill, how strong will our society be? Every child deserves praise and encouragement, as do adults who never give up, know how to build a strong relationship and insist on being the best of themselves.

This is hard work, but it is not impossible. We can do it because we are educators and we were born to change the world.

Postscript:

The focus of the whole article is to emphasize the importance of establishing a strong relationship. If children don't like you, they won't learn from you. Not only between teachers and students, but also between parents and children. As friends, good communication can help our children grow up better. If we can do it for teachers who are not related by blood, then as parents, we should do better. In addition, it also has deep respect for the profession of teachers.

Rita Pearson: Every child needs a champion.