Excerpt: Step 1: Teach children to know their emotions.
Every new physical and mental feeling that children have in the process of growing up should be made good use of as an opportunity for children to know themselves. If parents take advantage of the right time, then this experience will become a practical education for children's cognitive emotions. Use picture book knowledge (various feelings) to play emotional picture games, describe feelings in words, and bring children to know various emotional cognition. For older children, focus on cultivating children to speak their feelings and emotions bravely.
Step 2: Teach children to cope with emotions.
1. Coping with fear means leaving fear. 2. Ask for help to deal with disgust. 3. Deal with anger and calm yourself down first. 4. Respond to happiness and know that happiness has two sides. 5. Respond to sadness and tell it. 6. When you are surprised, discuss with someone you trust. 7. Learn to accept and trust each other. 8. Planning expectation is planning realization. When you expect something to happen, you should realize your wish.
Step 3: Teach children to control and manage their emotions.
Emotional control gadget: 5 fingers 12345. Formula: 1, I don't hurt people with my thumb. 2, index finger I take a deep breath and count in my mind. 3. The middle finger tells me how I feel. 4, ring finger I find someone to help me. 5. pinky, I want to be quiet for a while. When children remember the formula of 12345, they can play role-playing games with him. For example, simulate a scene where emotions are out of control, and then remind children to stretch out five little fingers. Practice the formula step by step from thumb to little finger. This is an exercise to control and manage your emotions.
Step 4: Teach children to recognize other people's emotions and deal with interpersonal relationships.
Method 1: insight into other people's expressions, method 2: listening to other people's voices; Method 3: Say a compliment. You can set up a small ceremony in your life and feel beautiful things with yourself. You can say "thank you" and "goodbye" whether it is a city, a town, the sea, a forest or a small street.
Excerpted from "Learning Patterns"
Emotion is not eternal, and existence is reasonable.
More and more people think that emotional management is a matter worthy of attention. I remember when I used to study. Many people write that their learning goal is to learn to control their emotions. I have also seen the emotional state of adults and children around me. There are also great psychological changes in the attitude towards emotions: I feel that some emotional expressions are shameful and fragile. I was laughed at by others. -all kinds of emotions are normal, natural and reasonable, and emotions are not eternal. I allow any emotion to happen and exist.
Accept emotion
I have always adopted an attitude of accepting emotions towards children. Dabao had mixed-age classes when he was in kindergarten, so children graduated every year. Every time everyone cries, only he doesn't cry. I asked him, why don't you cry? He said: I held back, crying is wrong, it is a bad performance. I'm surprised. What made him form this belief at such a young age? I quickly told him that it is normal to cry when you are sad.
Last week, I took my children to have their teeth sealed. In the front row is a 7-year-old girl with decayed teeth. The child was scared and kept crying. Doctors and parents are impatient. The doctor said it didn't hurt. If you cry again, you will be spanked. Then my dad said beside me, why are you crying? It's embarrassing. You are the only one crying here. Don't cry. You are not afraid of losing face. At that time, I really felt sorry for this child.
Parents' reaction to bad mood. That's what we learned from our predecessors. China's culture since ancient times has reserved the expression of emotion. Cann't be exposed These "men bleed without tears!" "Crying is a sign of weakness." Beliefs handed down for thousands of years, such as "laughing without showing your teeth" and "showing your emotions without showing them", are teaching us that "emotions are bad and cannot be revealed." . So we don't know how to face the bad emotions of ourselves and others. Or avoid neglect, or treat the expression of emotions with a threatening and forbidden attitude.
Emotion, like water control, is better blocked than sparse.
Actually, it's better to block than to sparse. This is the same as controlling flood. We must treat emotions and behaviors caused by emotions separately. We should tell ourselves and our children that "you are in a normal mood and you are fine." It's just not appropriate. "Not because you are not good, you just want to change. It is only because this kind of behavior is inappropriate that we should change our behavior. This idea is open, and I believe that there will be many more ways to treat emotions and inspiration will appear.
teach by precept and example
As parents, we have the belief of "normal existence" when dealing with the generation of emotions. Recognize what emotions are like, and realize that emotions are caused by our unmet needs. We will have more acceptance and understanding of ourselves and our children. We will actively think about positive ways to channel our emotions, and we will also realize whether I am just venting my emotions at the moment. We will also sincerely apologize for our uncontrollable venting behavior. When we can do it ourselves. Any emotional ups and downs in life have become an opportunity for us to guide our children. Use various "tricks" to cultivate children with high emotional intelligence.