First, learning setbacks lead to fear of difficulties.
When entering junior high school, the courses are increased, the books are thicker and the homework is bigger. The requirements of all subjects are relatively high. Freshness will soon be replaced by "schoolwork burden", dazzling and even hectic. Sweep away the carefree happiness of the past, and get a little more depressed and anxious.
Students with excellent grades in primary schools have high expectations for their academic performance in junior high schools. If they can't adapt as soon as possible at first, frustration will affect their confidence in learning. For different children, we can start from one of the following aspects: 1. Tell children the characteristics and methods of learning in middle school. The most important thing is to learn to attend classes, preview actively and review in time. 2. Tell children to go all out, be diligent and solid, be careless, and it is absolutely impossible to rely on cleverness. No pains, no gains. 3. It is a good idea to strengthen the guidance of methods, especially the learning characteristics of different subjects, such as Chinese writing, mathematical problem solving, English listening and reading training. It is a good way to subscribe to relevant books, newspapers and magazines to get method guidance. 4, don't care too much about the exam results, the scores of different papers are not comparable, and occasionally you don't do well in the exam, which can't hurt your self-confidence. We should encourage and help children to analyze the causes of mistakes, and then find out the defects in their studies or exams.
Second, bad interpersonal relationships lead to behavioral disorders.
Most children are only children now. If their family is well-off, their parents are spoiled, or they think they are good-looking, or their parents are close to their teachers, such children often have a strong sense of superiority. Everything is centered on me. However, the class is a collective, and it is bound to encounter setbacks, mainly from the disapproval of classmates and the criticism of teachers. If we can't treat it correctly, we may form narcissism, stay away from the group, and even intensify contradictions and fights. It is obvious that it is very important to learn to get along with classmates. We hope that parents can insist on "tolerance, mutual assistance, introspection and communication" to educate their children to deal with the relationship between classmates. In order to cultivate the sense of cooperation, establish team spirit, and assist the class teacher to create a good class family atmosphere.
We should advocate self-criticism, unity and mutual assistance, reason, honesty and trustworthiness. This will benefit people for life. When getting along with teachers, most students are sunny and natural, polite and good at communication. There are also more introverted people who don't talk much to their teachers and wrap themselves tightly. This kind of students may have a certain sense of inferiority, or be criticized by the teacher improperly. I want to say that most people with low self-esteem are excellent, but there is some psychological hint that he should not show himself. I also want to say that teachers are sometimes influenced by emotions. When criticizing children, the facts are unclear and the reasons are unclear. Of course, teachers should take the initiative to care for children with communication difficulties and correct their mistakes, but the ideological guidance of parents is actually more important. Because you know more about the reasons why children feel inferior than we do, and you know more about children's dissatisfaction with teachers. We should affirm the advantages of children. For example, he may not report well on the board of directors, but he works hard. Enhance their self-confidence. We must affirm that teachers' criticism motivation is care and expectation. Promote them to communicate with teachers boldly, eliminate misunderstandings and relieve children's anxiety. Because of the complexity of teachers' work, it is inevitable that there will be omissions or improprieties. But we got the understanding and support of most parents.
In fact, whether adults or children, people's happiness often comes not from wealth or fame, but from harmonious interpersonal relationships. Learning to live together and maintain good interpersonal relationships will create a spiritual sea without reefs for your children, and the sails that fight against the sea of knowledge will sail more briskly.
Third, rebellious psychology leads to indulgence.
In primary schools, teachers and parents maintain considerable authority, while in middle schools, there will be more democracy due to the enhancement of students' independence. For example, if you have more money and time at your disposal, you can partially participate in adults, and some students sometimes misunderstand this democracy and gradually breed rebellious psychology. So as to relax the requirements for yourself, there are loopholes in attendance, cleaning, classroom discipline, homework, preview and review. Teachers' same requirements often have different effects on different students. For example, they also ask for an honest exam, but some people cheat in the examination room and arrange the same cleaning, some people slip away halfway and ask to finish their homework, some people plagiarize and some people acquiesce. This can't help but reflect on the differences in our family education. At any time, behavioral habits and psychological quality are the roots of trees, while academic achievements are only leaves, flowers and fruits. Only with deep roots can we flourish and bear fruitful results. Students who study well are almost all examined without exception. Therefore, attaching importance to the cultivation of students' behavior habits and psychological quality is the foundation of educating people. I think, before the child really matures, parents should still maintain moderate authority, set rules, really supervise and urge, and be moderately hungry and cold. Oppose education, bribery of children and blind tutoring.
Finally, I want to talk about the promotion of physical education class and the maintenance of parent-child atmosphere. Careful parents may find from their children's manners that they are getting too close to a classmate of the opposite sex. In fact, this is a subtle psychological change caused by physical maturity. Parents must guide them correctly in an appropriate way, neither leaving them behind nor killing them with a stick. We should carry out science education in advance. Too early is meaningless, and too late may not be able to resist the impact of desire. The content should guide healthy hobbies and enrich children's interests. Be sure to prevent children from touching unhealthy books and audio-visual products and from indulging in online games or chatting. Because after all, children, self-control is still relatively weak. You'd better not make an exception until you graduate from high school. There are two old sayings, the yellow poison is fierce, and the tiger is powerful. Play with things and get tired of it. Never, remember.
Warm affection gives children an eternal psychology. It is long-term and far-reaching to rely on parents' virtues of respecting the old and caring for the young, loving their posts and being dedicated, obeying the law and working hard. It is very important to give children a reliable financial security, and it is even more important to give them a warm and reliable family environment. Whether your children can open their hearts to you and tell their sufferings and joys is very important for you to master their thoughts. Only by maintaining this kind of communication with Tancheng regularly can we achieve the successful docking of two generations. Therefore, spending time with friends, customers and children may be a more effective investment. But not being with children is preaching. Sometimes playing games, telling jokes and going out for an outing are more conducive to the next education. There are many confessions about this in students' weekly diaries and compositions. What can move and educate children often comes from the affection reflected by trivial things in life. Children's emotional intelligence will also be further improved in this kind of affection. Single parent families should pay special attention to this. No matter which side, you should take good care of your children. When a husband and wife divorce, they should not lose their responsibilities as parents, and should not deprive their children of their due fatherly and maternal love. This is the law, morality, and one's own vital interests.