I read Psychology of Interpersonal Communication 1 and Psychology of Interpersonal Communication edited by Li Shiqiang in the summer vacation. After reading it, I think interpersonal communication is a very learned course.
There is a story in the book: Lao Yang is a very enthusiastic person. He can not only drink, but also talk. Many friends like to have him join them when they receive guests. Lao Yang lived up to expectations every time and created a very good atmosphere.
My friend's daughter didn't do well in the middle school entrance examination, so she couldn't go to County No.1 Middle School to attend high school. A friend wanted to get through the relationship, so he invited a leader of a county no.1 middle school to have dinner at home. Although the leader has come, he has been reluctant to mention anything to help. Friends are embarrassed to talk at the wrong time, and the scene is a little cold.
Lao Yang believes that leaders who have been engaged in education for so long must have good management skills.
"I heard that when you were young, you were a very capable teacher and trained a lot of talents." Lao Yang said with a smile: "It's good to be promoted to management now!"
"I have the ability to be unworthy, and I have some experience in management."
"My ability is too weak. I want to ask you how to improve my management ability. " In this way, Lao Yang changed a topic of interest to the other party, and the situation immediately improved, and everything his friends asked for was naturally done.
After reading this story, I realized that it is very important to find topics of mutual interest in interpersonal communication. If you want to establish a good communication atmosphere in a short time and avoid talking between lovers, you must find the "meeting point" of the conversation. It should also be noted that don't put yourself first in the conversation, but pay attention to the other person's mood and whether the other person is willing to talk. If you find that the other person is not interested or doesn't respond, don't hesitate to change the subject immediately. The longer you wait, the less they like you. If you don't change the subject in time, the other party will refuse to continue communication and never give the other party a chance to sayno. Only by observing in time and finding the resonance point quickly can communication continue. Maybe this is the so-called detail.
I didn't expect to read books on psychology, which is also helpful for my communication skills. It seems that extensive reading has many benefits. I must read more good books in the future. Students, reading is like a fight in Han Xin-the more, the better.
Thinking about interpersonal psychology 2 Carnegie used the knowledge of psychology to analyze and explore the psychological characteristics of human beings from his own personal experience and completed many works. Carnegie's Psychology of Interpersonal Communication is one of them, which is a relationship guide book that allows readers to benefit from his book for life.
Every time I read an article, I always say "Yes, give me a thumbs up". In fact, in interpersonal communication, we should respect and treat each other well, as Carnegie said in his book. Only those who respect others deserve to be respected by others. In fact, respect is mutual; Know how to understand and care, put yourself in the other's shoes, look at the problem from the other's point of view, and think from the other's starting point, and you will get unexpected results.
Learn to share and cooperate, learn to survive in society, and learn to work at work. At this time, you should show sincerity, learn to share with others, and create happiness for others, so that your team will get better and better, and the rest of the natural team will get better and better. The so-called "everyone gathers firewood and the flame is high"; Pay attention to communication skills when communicating with people, which will get twice the result with half the effort. Good communication can make your way forward much smoother. If you want to change yourself and improve yourself, you should always examine your behavior, don't be yourself that you hate, face up to your problems when communicating with others, and don't be proud and indulgent at any time. No matter how you interact with colleagues, leaders, strangers, family and friends, Carnegie's books will benefit you a lot.
After reading Psychology of Interpersonal Communication, three people are social creatures, and interpersonal communication is necessary and inevitable. In the process of interacting with people, even if you pay more attention, you will inevitably say something wrong and do something wrong. Sometimes these mistakes may cause great mental or material harm to others. At this time, you must be brave enough to take responsibility for your mistakes. In this way, you can not only show that you are a person with quality and responsibility, but also gain the understanding of the other party more easily. If you pass the buck and try your best to justify your mistakes, it will only make you more stupid and unreasonable.
In fact, nine times out of ten people living in the world are unhappy. Who can be happy in everything? Life will never be perfect, and regrets are often eternal beauty. In Buddhism, this world is called "whirling world", which means a world that can tolerate many shortcomings. The world is flawed. If there are no flaws, it can't be called human. The human world is made up of defects. Imperfection is often perfect, and too perfect becomes a defect. Sometimes, your goal is a little far from reality. If you cling to your perfect ideal, you will fall into endless troubles and entanglements, thus making yourself often depressed. On the contrary, find a balance between perfection and imperfection, and you will live a much easier and happier life. Sometimes, people are blinded by this pressure to pursue perfection in life or work. I think only doing my best will make me happier. In fact, sometimes your defects will be a considerable wealth in your life. There is no need to worry about your own defects and make your life colorful.
Smile is a bridge to establish good interpersonal relationships and a lubricant to adjust various contradictions. Smile is like sunshine, it can bring warmth to others and make others have a good impression of being generous, modest and approachable. Smile is a kind of tolerance and acceptance, which makes people connect with each other. Zhan Yan's smile is worth a thousand words. It is easy for each of us to smile, but it can illuminate everyone who sees it. Every time you give a smile, the light of the smile will shine back on your face, bringing you convenience, happiness and good memories.
There are always three or two confidants and some friends in life. And friends are often our best confidants. When we are sad, we can get comfort from our friends. When we are happy, we can share with them. Even the secrets in our hearts can be confided to each other. But friends don't talk about everything, no matter how close you are. Everyone should have their own privacy in life, so the way to get along with friends is also artistic. No matter between lovers or close friends, you should not be too close, otherwise you will put pressure on each other invisibly, keep a proper distance and make the friendship last forever.
In interpersonal communication, we should learn to change and improve ourselves, let ourselves learn low-key self-criticism, learn to respect and treat each other in communication, avoid unnecessary arguments, and learn to praise sincerely. Everyone's different ideas will make us disagree about the problem, and argument is the worst choice. We need to understand each other and look at the problem from different angles. Well-intentioned and tactful suggestions let us solve the problem quickly and effectively. Tolerance is the best mediator to deal with contradictions in interpersonal communication. Only by tolerating others can we get their understanding. Be more tolerant and sincere in life. So as to establish a good interpersonal relationship.
Reflections on the Psychology of Interpersonal Communication I am very glad that I took Zhao Yongzhong's Psychology of Interpersonal Communication for College Students this semester. Now it's drawing to a close. I learned it in one semester, and I feel quite deep. At first, I just had an inexplicable curiosity and interest in psychology. I don't know what subject this is and how to learn it. But through a semester of teacher Zhao's explanation, I found it both helpful and fun!
Generally speaking, a way of doing things conveyed by teachers in each class is to pay attention to details, which we often ignore, but it will leave a bad influence on others' hearts. On the contrary, if we recognize many details carefully, it will have an inestimable effect on others' minds. After all, in this society that is no longer simple and direct, the waves in others' hearts will not be revealed in expression, but will be cultivated silently in future actions. Therefore, I personally think that this is not the deterioration of the times, but the progress of society and a platform for in-depth communication between people. In that case, we can't change it, we must accept it. For example, when you send a friend away, I hope he will go far away. Say hello to your family when they come home. Be more patient when someone confides. Take care of others when you go in and out. Wait a minute. Such a trivial matter will not cost us too much time and energy, but in the eyes of others, our own image may become different.
The most impressive lesson is the topic of gratitude. After a boy became a father, I was deeply lost in thought. Parents' love is always so transparent that sometimes we can't find it at all, so that we don't understand it, don't accept it, and even resolutely refuse it. Why love becomes disgusting is the heart that we don't want to be bound. However, before we were hurt, we never thought that bondage was happiness or shelter from the wind. When we can become the harbor of the next generation, we realize that it is not so easy to be a harbor. Self-righteous boats are always desperate to leave themselves, without actual cables, just waiting for the wind and waves to push them back. So, feeling. I used to be so stubborn, too, didn't I? So, sigh. Poverty inherits the wind! Understand that this transparent love is so great, it is as weak as air but wide.
In this process, I observed the students around me a little, and they were all lost in thought. I think I'm blaming myself for disappointing my parents. Why do we always regret things after they happen and think deeply after they affect us? Why can't we squeeze some time into our 24-hour work to think about behavior? This problem also bothers me: laziness in behavior has been reflected in the bus and subway, being late. What is the reason for being lazy today? "It doesn't matter", "I'm too lazy to think" and "Who cares" have become our spoken words, but what have we been thinking about? We are all going to the extreme of thinking, ignoring small things and being at a loss for big things. When things happen, judge them, sum up the process in the development of things, think before and after the exam, and at the end of things. Can you be a sober and rational person forever, instead of an animal who judges right and wrong with his senses? The answer is: difficult!
The reason, I think, is largely the erosion of various ideas from outside. Outdoor media, lace news, online games, etc. With endless creativity, ever-changing moves, great attraction, wide spread and high talkability, it has become an ideological nuclear weapon. In addition, young people have little ideological restraint and are eager to follow suit, which will inevitably greatly enhance the power of "nuclear weapons", and even I don't know how many times it has been turned over, thus achieving the teenager who jumped off the building because of online games.
At this point, I don't want to say any more. Talk about breaking the world of mortals just for self-indulgence! I only hope that those who are not awake in the world will open their eyes and be rational as soon as possible. This is what I want.
The above is my experience in taking interpersonal psychology for college students this semester. The humor and vividness of Mr. Zhao's lectures have given me a new understanding of more than ten years' education and rekindled hope for the future national education. Mr. Zhao Yongzhong and his teaching methods left a deep impression on me, which further increased my interest and concern in psychology, thus making me have a good start in learning psychology. Thank you for your enlightenment! Thank you!
Comments on interpersonal psychology 5 Sometimes I feel that these theories are really reasonable compared with my personal experience, and I feel the charm of psychology more and more. The whole process of Cai's class is basically laughing and laughing. I feel that the whole person has relaxed a lot, which not only relieves the depression after we finish the professional class, but also learns a lot.
After studying the course of psychology and life, I gradually found it not difficult to know myself. In addition to being a calm realist, it is more important to learn how to adjust your mentality. After getting to know yourself, I find myself always complaining about others. Not only that, I also like to consider a small matter very complicated. But now I find that my knowledge of psychology and life has formed a big net in my mind, and my life experience is always tested by theory. I see. I'm fine with it. I learned patience and tolerance.
Through the study of psychology and life, my personality, the way of dealing with people and even my values have changed a lot. I began to learn to care about others, and I began to be considerate when dealing with things. I gradually began to observe and understand my friends' psychological and emotional changes, and tried my best to give some psychological counseling and verbal comfort to alleviate mild psychological problems. Perhaps these "trivial things" are not worth mentioning, but I can see the influence of psychology and life courses on me from the change of behavior. It is no exaggeration to say that the study of psychology has improved my cultural knowledge and self-cultivation. In this process, I am also growing.
Psychology and life not only let me know a lot of psychological characteristics, but also let me master how to treat my friends correctly. But most importantly, I learned to adjust myself. When I am frustrated and sad, I will inadvertently think of Teacher Cai teaching us hypnosis in class, which makes me finally understand that "happiness is actually very simple". As long as we open our hearts and embrace the world, our life will be detached and our success will be unexpected.
Although the course of psychology and life is over, it has really brought me a lot of gains, but I still feel that there are still many things I want to understand and comprehend. As before, I began to regret why I didn't choose psychology at that time. If I have the opportunity, I want to know more about the professional knowledge of psychology, study modern psychology deeply, understand the development history of psychology, learn some knowledge of group activities, and experience the knowledge of life by participating in activity classes. Want to master more psychological methods, know yourself and yourself, and improve your ability to help others. I hope teachers will talk more about psychological counseling and psychotherapy in the course of Psychology and Life. In today's society, how to calm one's impetuous mentality, how to relax oneself and find psychological health and harmony has become an important new topic in modern society.
Some people say that happiness, for most people, has become a distant dream. In fact, no one can stop a person from being happy. Everyone has factors of happiness. The key is whether you want to be happy or not. When you are upset, be optimistic, be brave and be knowledgeable, and happiness is around you. Because the value of psychology and life is to make the world full of happiness!