High adversity quotient must be cultivated from childhood. If children are excessively cared for and spoiled by their parents, they will not know how to cherish, struggle and care for others. They like material comforts, are used to praise, only love themselves and don't understand others. In the process of growing up, they are smooth sailing without any difficulties and setbacks. Therefore, when children enter the society, they can't face the cruel competition, and they will be defeated in the face of difficulties and adversity. It can't be said that our education has failed. So what can be done to cultivate children with high height in adversity quotient?
● Let children learn to wait from an early age. When the child is 7-8 months old and has certain requirements, we should take the opportunity to let the child learn to wait. For example, when feeding a child, tell the child that the milk is cold before eating; When children learn fine movements, give them a piece of candy wrapped in sugar paper and tell them to peel it off before eating it; Go to the store to buy things or queue up to get on the bus, and tell the children that they must abide by the rules and queue up to achieve their goals.
● Let children learn to do things from an early age. No matter what a child does, he must finish what he started. If you are playing with toys, you must put them back after classification. There is no reason not to make them. Parents can do things with their children that they have difficulty in doing. When children overcome difficulties, parents must give praise, consolidate this behavior and form good habits.
● Let children know from an early age that what they say will be true and what they do will be rewarded. When children are young, adults must keep their promises when they do things or promise their children. When children are 3-4 years old, parents should not only set an example of honesty, but also educate their children to keep their promises. No matter what you promise your child, no matter what problems you encounter, you must keep your promise. However, due to the limitations of children's thinking, parents should also remind and help their children appropriately.
● Let children learn to maintain a happy and optimistic mood. In order to make children have a good mood every day, in addition to giving them love, parents should also take appropriate punishment measures, so as not to let children develop the bad habits of willfulness, selfishness, fear of suffering and fatigue (in fact, this is also a kind of frustration training). Of course, all this must be set from an early age and let children abide by it. Children should also be encouraged to express their feelings about everything every day, praise positive emotions and guide negative things. Keeping a good mood all day is helpful to children's physical and mental development.
● Let children learn self-confidence from their parents' attitudes. Encourage children to handle their own affairs. Children are often given some difficult tasks to complete, giving them full confidence. Even if it breaks down or causes certain losses, parents should encourage their children to actively help them find out the problems and start over. The trust of parents makes children confident.
● Tell your child what you want, and you must rely on your own efforts and pay for it. When the child's request is considered reasonable, parents should give it to the child. If you want to get this thing, you must pay. Only what a child obtains through hard work is the best and what he cherishes most.
● Encourage children's initiative. We give our child a task, not only hoping that the child can complete it, but also hoping that he can create something, not just satisfied with his achievements. Therefore, when explaining the task to the child, parents should also sincerely say that they hope that he will do better than before. For example, "the little house you built with building blocks today is very beautiful, but it's a pity that it was collapsed by children." Can you make a more beautiful one? " Let the children learn! "
After these trainings, the child improves the adversity quotient, so that he will have perseverance in the face of difficulties in the future and can give full play to his potential. But be careful not to create setbacks for children too deliberately, otherwise it may be counterproductive and cause inferiority complex. This degree needs to be controlled by parents themselves.