But how do we cultivate this towering tree?
Sow the seeds first. Seeds are like our genes. Parents have children.
We should constantly fertilize and water the saplings, which is the condition we create for our children as parents. Sunshine, moisture and other external conditions are very important. At the same time, we should constantly prune branches so that saplings can grow sturdily, which is just like parents should guide their children and prevent them from going astray. During the growth of saplings, leaves are like advantages and disadvantages, and green leaves are the advantages of children. When we find many green leaves, they are always mixed with yellow leaves, so parents can't help pulling them out, which makes it easy to ignore the advantages of green leaves and create a good environment for children. We ruined the child's life in the name of love. Therefore, parents should understand that we should cultivate an excellent sapling, not spend time on yellow leaves, but on the roots and environment of the sapling.
The metaphor of Dashu is that, as parents, in the process of raising children, we tend to strengthen our children to do things they don't like according to our own wishes, or we only pay attention to their current performance, instead of looking at the essence through the phenomenon, to understand what is the reason for their situation and how to help them solve problems, so that they can grow up happily. Although we advocate happy education now, we should stand firm, gentle and firm in the dimension of re-educating children. It is important to master the key factors in raising children.