But many times, parents love too deeply and too urgently, and they can't wait to pave the way for their children's life and let him finish it in one step.
I forgot that only when children have their own practice and experience can they be calm and confident about the future!
If you don't watch the news,
I have never heard of this wonderful disease!
This disease is, adult baby disease!
The patient is obviously an adult physically, but his behavior and thoughts are childish like a child, which is a serious "psychological retrogression", also known as "Peter Pan syndrome".
Ms. Chen, 34, from Huai 'an, Jiangsu, got the disease.
As a mother, she always feels that she has not grown up. Not only is her dress style and room layout young, but even her lifestyle depends on her parents.
I didn't know until I went to the hospital that Ms. Chen's behavior was not a simple "act young", but a disease.
The attending doctor said that this disease is related to the "overprotection" of parents.
Children have reached out for food with the love of their parents since childhood, and they have never suffered anything.
When I grow up, I still miss the protection of my parents, and I am used to avoiding things when they happen.
Without proper guidance, life can easily go to the extreme of "refusing to grow".
It is our nature that parents love their children.
However, all the efforts to create a "greenhouse" for children eventually cultivated one giant baby after another.
This kind of education is the most distressing
Excessive love of parents is the poison of children's future.
In Japan, there is such an old man who died of eating the old man.
After graduating from college, Xinyi wanted to work in English.
But I failed in the exam, I couldn't go to school smoothly, and I often ran into a wall when I was looking for a job. He thinks that he can't "mix" in society and chooses to go home and "eat the old money".
Stay at home all day, don't go out to socialize, and eat and drink with the help of parents.
A house is 30 years.
During this period, Xinyi's father was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and his mother also showed signs of Alzheimer's disease. But he is still hiding in his own little world, refusing to come out and take care of his family.
Later, my parents died. Stretch and stay at home.
Ten years after his father died, he starved to death at home.
When I opened his diary, I saw that it recorded in detail how long the legacy could last.
Can't his parents help eating the old man like this?
In fact, Xinyi's father wrote many times in his diary that he was worried that his son would not work, but he didn't want his words to be a pressure on his son, so he only dared to vent his grievances silently and endured the pain of "hating iron and not turning into steel".
It's really a success and a failure.
Children who are used to hiding in the hotbed of spiritual asylum created by their parents will never know that their parents' excessive love and care will be their "cradle of death"
Because parents don't know, it is obviously the most selfless love for their children, but why has it become a poison that ruins their children's lives?
Educator makarenko once said: Everything is for children, and everything is sacrificed for him. This is the most terrible gift parents give their children.
That's right!
Far-sighted love is especially cruel.
I remember that Liu Xuan, the Olympic champion, once shared a difficult childhood in Children's Words.
In primary school, as a gymnast, she left her hometown and suffered a boring and hard training life alone.
One day off a year, even if parents come all the way to visit her, they may not meet each other.
For eight years, she hasn't been home once.
At that time, her only wish was to win the world championship and have a meal with her parents.
My nose ached when she said this.
Such a small child was forced to live that life. Presumably, her parents' absence will bring her unpredictable trauma.
In fact, her parents have never left her, and they are always worried about her.
In the dead of night, I miss my daughter and think of crying secretly. Even though I had doubts at that time and worried that it was a wrong decision to send my daughter to gymnastics, on second thought, what an honor is it for a child to have such talent and win glory for his country by professional training?
Under the cruel parents, we can see that Liu Xuan is confident, cheerful and tenacious.
She not only won the prize, but also took away her "iron nature" with her lifestyle and education for her children.
In the diary of her freshman year, she acted independently, never relied on her family, had a clear goal and was not afraid of the eyes of the outside world. She is a good mother that her husband appreciates and her son trusts.
Actor Tamia Liu said: "Both boys and girls should know the rules from an early age and should not be too spontaneous. The child can't just give in, someone must control him. "
Taking strictness as love is to strictly discipline children and let them work hard and have a bright future. This is love for children.
On the contrary, doting and obedience to children is the so-called doting. Overindulgence means that love for children has changed. Behind every hiding Xiong Haizi, there are a pair of doting parents.
Spoiling a child is like killing a child, and the consequence of doting on a child is often to destroy the child's future.
For the future of children, every parent who loves children should be willing to be cruel, and every visionary teacher should be "cruel".
The so-called "cruel" is not preaching or controlling. It's not about yelling at children or even punishing them when something goes wrong. Instead, you use a sober and firm attitude to find the best way to solve problems with your children, and always firmly hold your bottom line in front of them.
"Cruelty" means that parents do not condone or give up when their children avoid problems, always respect their children and firmly implement the principles jointly formulated.
When you make your principles and bottom line clear and firm again and again, your children will gradually form such principles and bottom line.
In this way, the principles and bottom lines formed imperceptibly in daily life will become a part of children's personality and be integrated into their words and deeds.
Willing to let children suffer hardships and experience the storms of life can truly educate promising children.
Parents are children's mirrors,
Most of the children's problems come from their parents.
When a young child comes into this world, the first person he contacts is his parents, and the first sentence he learns to say is "Mom and Dad".
Every child grows up watching his parents' backs.
Parents are the first teachers of the children. When a child cries for the first time, he speaks, eats and dresses himself. ...
For the first time in a child's life, parents walked by hand.
In fact, the influence of family on a person is far beyond our imagination. Children's initial knowledge of the world comes from their families and parents.
A child is like an empty cup. If you devote yourself to love, he will become patient. If you give him strength, he will become independent. If you make him diligent, he will become self-disciplined.
How a person should spend his life is not only his own choice, but also the outlook on life and values instilled by his parents since childhood.
Behind all children's behaviors, they actually reflect their parents' eyes and minds.
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