As long as the sense of security is protected, parents after 80s can give their children strict education. In this way, children have trust in their parents, and it is not easy to have conflicts, and it is easy to get out of the mood of being disciplined. Introduced in Zhengfeng Suji? Gentle and firm? In other words, it can also be called? Strict but not strict? Stick to your decision and keep a gentle and respectful attitude towards your children. Many parents can't do this. If they are gentle, they will be arrogant. They will lose their temper if they insist on principles. This will cultivate their children to despise the rules, have no respect and like to manipulate others emotionally. As Confucius said, it is difficult to raise a villain. This is the case. If you don't want this result, you must change it.
Respect for children should start from dribs and drabs, even when disciplining him, use polite expressions, such as? Can you go to your stool and calm down? Don't humiliate him with a condescending attitude.
When pointing out people and places to children, use five fingers together instead of one index finger, especially when introducing someone. Imagine when you say? Would you please come here? 、? Is that the neighbor's grandmother? 、? Put the jam here? When using five fingers, it feels completely different from using only the index finger.
Reminders of good habits are equal. Since recognition is a good habit, everyone should abide by it. When children remind adults to sit up straight or eat quietly, say to them? Thank you for reminding me? Then do it, it will make the child more recognized for good habits, let him see that adults are equal to him at ordinary times, and give him an atmosphere of common progress. Don't let the child feel qualified to mention others, and don't let him be ashamed of being mentioned.
Methods for parents to educate their children after 1980s First of all, education should start with understanding children, strengthen emotional communication with children and establish good family relations. Understanding is to understand the child's personality, interests, hobbies, what he is thinking, what he usually does and what kind of people he associates with. Understanding means not to ignore the role of children in the family. Children have their opinions in the family, but don't say them? What do children know? . We should listen to their opinions in major family affairs and build a democratic family, that is, the rights and status of every member of the family are respected. Respect children's rights and status at home, instead of blindly doting on children and putting them in? Little emperor? State. Obedience to children is not respect, but doting.
On the basis of the above knowledge and understanding of children, while attaching importance to setting an example, we should pay attention to? A key to a lock? If this educational method is adopted, good results can be achieved. Below, the performance and main education methods of several common types of children are listed:
The first category: children who are not attentive in class. Such children are mainly active, fun and talkative in class, and even absent-minded when studying at home. Regarding the education of these children, some parents say that it is a school matter. I'm not responsible. I can't sit next to the children. ? In fact, to cultivate children to concentrate on listening, we should start from daily life, because living habits and study habits are closely related.
The main methods of education: first, parents should train their children to listen and do it at once; Secondly, in life, parents can consciously train their children's obedient ability, such as arranging three or four things, what to do first, what to do later, and what to do finally. Parents can observe whether their children are like this; Thirdly, parents should consciously cultivate their children's attention and talk to them. Children must look at your face and listen. Fourth, parents can also tell their children some tips for attending classes; Fifth, parents should try their best to let their children retell the contents of the class, or talk about the most impressive problems in the class.
The second category: children with excess energy. These children are mainly fond of playing and fighting, and difficult to discipline, but they are smart, active, quick-witted and receptive.
The main methods of education: first, we should establish good interpersonal relationships with children and let them know that they are not one? A disobedient child? So that they can easily receive psychological education and guidance. Secondly, we should let go and discipline appropriately. If the discipline is too strict, it will be counterproductive if it is not in line with their personality. Give him some freedom, some time and space for activities. Thirdly, patient teaching: patient education and persuasion, so that children can understand themselves through reasoning? Independent? Not so good, not so in line with social ethics and norms, so as to give up on yourself? Independent? , to overcome their own problems, and gradually move towards the road of growth.
Three ways for parents to educate their children after 80s. In years of lectures, research and practice, I often find such parents: I am a college student and a graduate student, and I still don't know how to educate my children. China's generation happened to meet the enrollment expansion of colleges and universities, and going to college is no longer a problem for many of them.
I'm going to give it? After 80? Parents have a piece of advice: in real life, educating children depends not on academic qualifications and income, but on the quality of education. This kind of educational quality includes educational idea, educational method and educational ability. Like Li's parents, although they are singers and have high social status, their children are still not well educated; Mo Yan's mother, though uneducated, won the respect of her children all her life, which is the difference in the quality of education.
A really good education is to give children freedom and respect, and to combine their initiative and self-control. Initiative and self-control are the core of a healthy personality and need a balance between care and discipline. In 20 14 years, I communicated with brain scientists and psychologists in China and America1/kloc-0, and wrote a book, Nurturing with Heart. The book says that education should not go to extremes. The most successful education is to cultivate a balance between children's initiative and self-control. A democratic and authoritative family is most conducive to children's growth, understanding and respecting children, and being strict with children.
However, in the current fierce competition environment, it is a common psychology not to let children lose at the starting line. For example, in society, many parents choose caesarean section to let their children be born at the end of August in order to seize the time of entering higher schools in September. Parents are so anxious, how can children grow up in a healthy environment?