Perhaps no country in the world has pushed the elderly who should have lived their own lives to the historical stage of raising the third generation like China.

However, in their later years, they gave up their leisurely and comfortable life, left their hometown and friends, and went to the area where their children lived, which may not be recognized by their young parents. Many times, the differences between the two generations in educational concepts and living habits have become an important issue in children's education, which is often a contradiction for modern families.

Any parents who leave their children with grandparents have their own difficulties, perhaps because of the pressure of life, perhaps because they are too busy at work, or perhaps because they have not had the courage to bear the hardships of raising children. In short, it has become a common social problem in China.

First of all, when young parents make such choices, no matter where the difficulties are, please be sure to put them in the right position. Grandparents and grandparents have never been obliged to bear the burden of raising the third generation. Please be grateful, respectful and grateful, which will set a good example for your children. How do you treat your parents and elders now and how your children will treat you in the future.

Secondly, respect and gratitude do not mean that we can compromise in principle. Some key issues concerning children's education need to be agreed with grandparents. Here, we summarize some aspects that often appear when the elderly take care of their children, which will have a negative impact on their children:

1. Old people need to avoid telling their children. If they don't listen, they won't kiss you and don't want you. -Destroy children's sense of security.

2. Old people need to avoid taking all the responsibilities of children's daily life. -affect the formation of children's sense of responsibility, the cultivation of self-care ability, the development of hand-eye coordination and motor coordination ability.

3. Old people need to avoid worrying about children's safety and hygiene, and don't let children move here and play there, for fear that children will get dirty clothes and be unhealthy, which will limit children's normal exploration. -Affect children's curiosity, exploration spirit, adventurous spirit, self-confidence and immune development. We should give children as much freedom as possible under the premise of safety and let them play, even if their clothes are worn out and covered with mud balls.

4. Old people should avoid giving their children antibiotics, especially infusion, because they are worried that their condition will deteriorate. This issue has been widely concerned by the media, so I won't go into details here.

5. Old people should avoid loving children and being unwilling to eat delicious food, or saying that children have delicious food for the old people, and grandparents are unwilling to give it to their babies. -let children form the habit of being self-centered and selfish, and form the bad habit of doing everything and not knowing how to be grateful.

6. Old people should avoid Chinese etiquette and force their children to say hello to strangers. Etiquette should be cultivated, but the formation of children's self-awareness and self-protection awareness should not be ignored.

7. The elderly should understand the child's sensitive period, and don't treat the normal performance of the child's sensitive period as willfulness and mischief. For example, children like to play with water and sand, and children like to eat their hands and mouths. For example, children like to take the elevator repeatedly, which is actually the need of vestibular development and nerves. Deprive children of opportunities for normal development

8. Old people should avoid indulging their children too much and not adhering to principles and rules, especially when children are derailed and crying. -Affect children's sense of order and discipline.

9. The elderly should understand the basic common sense of emotional management, correctly understand emotions, and avoid suppressing children's reasonable emotions. For example, say to the child, don't cry, hold it, cry and then hit you, cry during the New Year and sweep the stars. -Suppress children's normal emotional venting.

10. Don't treat junk food as the treasure of the elderly. The carbonated drinks, all kinds of candied fruit, snacks, street fritters and fried dumplings produced by KFC, McDonald's and small workshops, as long as children say they want to eat, the elderly will try their best to satisfy them. —— Pigment, essence, preservative, excessive fat, gutter oil and repeatedly used oil are harmful to children's health.

1 1. When parents discipline their children, the elderly should avoid playing the role of protector. When parents discipline their children, some old people rush out to stop them, and some even teach their sons a lesson. -let children confuse right and wrong, let children have the psychology of being supported by others, and learn to take advantage of contradictions and differences in family relations.

The above are some problems that often appear when the elderly take care of their children in China. Parents need to pay attention to themselves, and at the same time, they should fully communicate with the elderly and reach an agreement! As long as you can make a reasonable statement and pay attention to communication methods, the goal is for children, and I believe the old people will accept it gladly!