The first kind of strong parents
It seems that you have arranged everything for your child, but in fact, you have deprived your child of the right to choose himself again and again. You let your child listen to you, but you are constantly denying your child, which will gradually make your child form a cognition that everything I do will be wrong, so I don't want to make a decision. Slowly, the child gets used to listening to you and others, but when he grows up, you blame him for not having an opinion. It's like you broke a child's wing, ruined his courage to explore the world, and finally blamed him. Why can't you fly?
The second kind of emotionally unstable parents
When I am happy, you can do anything. When I am unhappy, nothing you do is right. This has caused the children's judgment standards of things to be completely confused. He doesn't know what the real standard of right and wrong is. His standard is to act according to your face, and finally form a flattering character. Once such a character is formed, it will accompany him all his life. Children who please their own personality are generally inferior children and tend to ignore their feelings.
The third kind of avoidance denies the child's emotions.
Parents can't allow their children to have emotions. The child cried, and you said not to cry. The child did something wrong and lost his temper because of irritability. You said you did something wrong, but you lost your temper. Why are you so bad? You have turned normal emotions into taboos for children. Your various attitudes will make children unable to deal with emotions and become anxious and inferior.
Children with long-term depression are prone to two extremes, either irritability, irritability or depression.
Fourth, talk about other people's parents behind their backs.
Many parents think that children ignore and can't hear. They always like to talk about other people's lives at home, especially like to talk about some negative phenomena unscrupulously. For example, whose husband is laid off again, which is really unlucky. If you look at whose parents are divorced next door, you won't know how they live. Xiao Ming upstairs didn't do well in the college entrance examination, not even one. What do you think this child will do in the future? Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, etc. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. This actually gives the child a huge psychological pressure. He can't really. If you label these setbacks as "no", how do you let your children face these setbacks in life?
Fifth, always discuss your children in front of others.
In front of the children, tell them that my children don't like studying. My children are timid, especially procrastinating and have a big temper. It is this kind of behavior that directly denies the child in front of the child, and you will turn the child you want into what you want, because the child acquiesces.