Feeling weak?
Since having children, anxiety and intermittent weakness are standard.
When you are born, you will worry that your child will be jaundice if he doesn't have enough to eat; I dare not fall asleep when feeding, for fear that the valve will hit the child's nose and mouth; Protect your neck when you hold it, for fear of hurting him; When you can climb, socket covers, safety locks, guardrails and various protective measures are worried that children will play with themselves to death; When you can walk, you should not only let the child walk by himself (exercise him), but also hang a heart ready to help at any time; It's late, you are in a hurry; Temper, anxious; If you don't share, you are in a hurry; Grab toys, you are in a hurry; He hits people, you are in a hurry; I finally survived the "terrible 2-year-old" and looked up to find that "
At the age of seven or eight, "when the dog comes to you"; Seven or eight years old is difficult to deal with. In addition to cramming lessons every day, adolescence is also eyeing you. .....
The key is that you find that both the experience of the older generation, the skills of "other people's children" mothers and even the methods of parenting experts often fail here.
Can you not sigh: raising children is really the hardest job in the world! ? Since you have children, the college entrance examination is no longer the peak of your IQ, because: you have to know something about nutrition and give your children nutrition; If you can cook, you should also be able to cook. You have to know medical knowledge. When a child is sick, he probably has a score in his heart. You have to know something about developmental psychology and know the growth law of children at each stage; You have to learn some linguistics, know how to teach children to speak, and how to communicate with them well; You have to learn some economics, allocate children's daily expenses reasonably, and cultivate their financial quotient; You have to know some management, so that children can be polite, reasonable and form good habits; You became a small town photographer, shooting and editing one-stop; You must have dabbled in pedagogy, and you must know how to educate children and help them with their homework.
Miraculously, you have also developed patience, cultivated your own patience, and educated your children every day. It is too difficult! The difficulty is that it only has a direction, but it can't see the end.
It has only goals, but no standard answers. Educating children is like an exam. Before entering the examination room, no one asked you to study in advance, no one asked you to do the questions, and no one gave you the key points. You may be surprised to find that this is an open-book exam, but you are completely in the dark and don't know which book the answer is in; You find that there are no invigilators in the examination room, but everyone's papers are different, so you can't copy them.
Children are giving you questions every minute, and they are all questions you have never seen before. How many parents have never met a moment of weakness?
What shall we do? These three measures are relatively effective.
One is to learn something and have a bottom in mind. Learn more about developmental psychology, read Psychology of Child Development, and understand the law of children's growth; Take a look at "Children, I care about your emotions" and master some emotional management skills; Learn the skills of reading picture books; Learn some methods of games and sports. I don't panic when I have food in my hand. Most of the child's illness is under control and it is not easy to feel weak.
The second is to find some friends with company. Find a few like-minded parents, help each other and talk about each other's hardships. People in the same situation and similar positions can provide each other with solutions and emotional support. The third is to disperse the pressure and take the initiative to grab time. The child is not the mother/father alone, and the other half naturally has the responsibility to take care of the child. Let the other half take care of the children regularly and quantitatively and give themselves a holiday. Even if the other half is "cloud parenting", spend money, or ask friends and relatives for help as much as possible, and set aside free time and space for yourself regularly and quantitatively.
. Only by charging can you keep your state.
Who has never been helpless in the face of children? Fortunately, children have their own "healing" function. When you look at the sleeping child, that quiet little face, take a look and take another look, it seems that it will be fine.