Grade seven children like to use mind maps to sort out their daily homework, which is a very good and encouraging thing. But as a mother, I see that she spends a little more time every day, especially beautifying, which breeds anxiety. Improper remarks hit her and affected her enthusiasm. She went on strike.

I'm trying to figure out how to fix it. Cooking good food for her, watching TV with her and kissing her ass all failed. She said, "I haven't forgiven you yet. I just don't do homework, I don't draw mind maps, and I won't draw them in the future. " I listened to the cold, critical words immediately welled up in my mouth, but I finally restrained myself. I didn't speak and went back to my bedroom silently.

I learned to be aware of my emotions: yes, after all my efforts, she still said she wouldn't give me any steps, which made me very unhappy and even a little angry; What is behind the anger? What are my needs? In fact, my request is that she can finish her homework as happily as before, draw a good mind map and master what she learned that day.

I tried to understand the children's emotions: "I take the initiative to organize my mind map after class. The teachers praised me for my good painting, which inspired other students in the class. You say I'm not good, that I just draw well, and that the content is not enough. You also criticized me for spending too much time painting. Actually, I didn't start painting until I sorted out the knowledge points. You don't understand me. Can you make me something delicious and say something nice? No! " Children's emotions may be very wronged and depressed; What are her needs? She may need her mother's approval, encouragement and support when necessary; There may be some schadenfreude in the child's mood: Hehe, what do you do, mom? What are her needs? Maybe this is the way to make my mother ride a tiger, let my mother know the difficulties and give up, so that she can be her own master in the future.