As the saying goes, "it takes ten years to plant trees, but it takes a hundred years to cultivate people." This is about the difficulty of talent training. Children's success and strong growth are closely related to family education. Human education can be compared to a project, which is systematic. This system consists of family education, social education and collective education (kindergarten and school), which are interrelated, organically combined, mutually influenced, interacted and restricted. Without any link in this huge educational project, it is impossible to implement it perfectly. In this systematic project, family education is the foundation of all education.
Good family education has a lifelong influence on people's progress. As a child's first teacher, parents lead by example the most. Suhomlinski, an educator in the former Soviet Union, once compared a child to a marble. He said that it takes six sculptors to shape this marble into a statue: ① family; 2 schools; (3) children's collective; ④ Children themselves; 5 books; ⑥ Accidental factors. Family is ranked first, which shows that family plays a very important role in shaping children. Let's take another example to deepen our understanding of the importance of family education: a growing child is like water; Family education is like a channel. How and where water will flow in the future depends entirely on the guidance of channels. Therefore, family education plays a key role in children's growth. No matter how old the child is, no matter where he is, what his parents say and do have a great influence on him. Tao Kan, a famous soldier in Jin Dynasty, lost his father in his early years, and his family was not rich. His mother's strict discipline had a good influence on him. When he worked as a secretariat in Guangzhou, his business was not busy, but he didn't want to be idle. He moved 100 bricks outside his study every morning and moved into his study at night. In this way, come back and forth every day. One day, someone couldn't help asking him why. He replied: "Now that a large area of northern China has been lost, we should always be ready to recover the Central Plains. How can I feel at ease and not exercise often! " When Tao Kan was a county magistrate, he took advantage of his position to get some government salted fish to honor his mother. Tao's mother didn't covet cheap, but severely criticized her son in her reply, which made him correct his bad style in time and became a praised honest official. Fang Zhongyong in Song Dynasty was a "prodigy" because he was smart when he was a child, but his parents let him show off all day, ignoring the importance of learning the day after tomorrow, thus neglecting his studies and eventually becoming an "unknown generation" and an unknown mediocrity in adulthood. It can be seen how important the correct guidance of parents is to children!
According to the explanation of "family education" in Ci Hai, it refers to the education of children and adolescents by parents or other elders in the family. Family education plays a fundamental role in children's life and is an extremely important part of the whole education work. In particular, left-behind children are far away from their parents, and of course they have an important responsibility for family education and biological parents. At the same time, they are inseparable from the care of their elders, relatives and friends and "caring parents". Caring for left-behind children and ensuring their healthy growth should be a comprehensive project of mutual concern and cooperation among families, schools and society. For the families of left-behind children, we should attach great importance to their educational functions. The elders in the family should have a sense of responsibility to educate and manage the left-behind children, especially parents, no matter whether one or both of them are at home, they should strengthen their contact with their children, communicate with them regularly through letters, telephone calls, picking up their children for short-term residence, and pay more attention to their study, life and physical and mental development, and give more affirmation, encouragement and praise; Take advantage of holidays and other spare time to go home as much as possible, so that children can feel the happiness of family and parents' care; Guardians of rural families should take various measures to guide left-behind children to contact their parents who go out to work, so that children can pour out their feelings of missing their parents irregularly and give feedback on their study, life and physical and mental development, so as to win their parents' care, understanding and support, thus enhancing their enthusiasm and consciousness in learning; As a government, we should increase support and optimize the learning and growth environment of left-behind children. Relevant departments should take the education of left-behind children as an effective measure to solve the education problem of migrant workers' children and promote the construction of new countryside, put it on an important agenda, increase policy support, strengthen the construction of rural communities, improve community service functions, and establish a monitoring network for left-behind children that combines school, family and society. Guardians should also receive family education and training, impart advanced family education concepts and methods, impart scientific and cultural knowledge, and improve cultural quality; It is also important to strengthen communication and form a joint force of school education and family education. For example, rural schools should find out the home address, entrusted guardian, work place and contact information of the parents of left-behind children, hold regular forums for left-behind students and their guardians, strengthen communication with parents or guardians, inform students of their academic achievements in school in time, and understand their ideological status and behavior habits after returning home. Schools and guardians should work together to strengthen education in a targeted manner. In the final analysis, it is necessary to further form the pattern of joint management by the whole society, give full play to the strength of all parties, and form a family education network that covers the border, monitors the end, is as send warm as a loved one, gives love and cares for left-behind children. Through meticulous care, left-behind children who are far away from their parents can get "love, protection and difficult help", so that they can enjoy family education, grow up happily and thrive like children around their parents.