Reflect on what happened to Fang Siqi's tragedy, and go and have a look with me.
"I forgave him, because in this way I can live. You can't forgive him, because then other girls can live. "
Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise is a very depressed literature, which is also equivalent to Lin's autobiography. This book, which she disassembled with her life, is hopeless.
Fang Siqi's Paradise of First Love was published on 20 17, and Lin committed suicide that year.
In the same year, this book won the Taiwan Province Openbook Award of the Year and the Taiwan Province Blog TOP 1 and other awards.
This book is also controversial. Some people criticize that this book is unnecessary because it only gives others despair without positive emotions. What's the value of a book, just a person's emotional catharsis?
It's cruel to say that it doesn't hurt people in this respect, but in fact, women who have similar experiences with Lin Yi also resist this book, because they could have licked their wounds silently in the dark, but now they have been torn apart in front of the whole society. Not everyone has the courage like Lin Yi.
The value of Lin's existence is not that everyone consumes "Fang Siqi" girls, but that it provides a perspective to understand them and treat the girls who have been violated around them well.
In Fang Siqi's first love paradise, we should reflect on the girl's helplessness. What can we do?
There is no doubt that the perpetrators will be punished, but can we only pin the girl's life on the humanity of others?
The book "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" makes us get in touch with the victims so closely for the first time, and it is the first time to look at the sexual assault from the perspective of sexually assaulting girls. It gives us an irreplaceable reflection on other novels.
In this book, I want to talk about two things that I feel most deeply: our avoidance of female sex education and excessive female moral education.
1. Sex education = sexual shame? The wrong idea at first made the girl shut up.
Many people have asked their parents a question: Where am I from?
And most parents' answers are: I'll pick you up. It's just that each child picks it up in a different place, some may be under a tree, and some may be trash cans.
When children are ignorant of sex and begin to question their parents, parents will quickly cover their children's mouths and ask who taught you this? It seems that this is a shameful thing.
In this book, there is a scene that impressed me deeply.
Adults always eat some unfamiliar and boring food at parties. The sea cucumber lying on the white porcelain plate is like a piece of shit at the bottom of the toilet polished by Anna. Liu Yiting held her breath and spat on the plate. I can't stop laughing like a burp. Mother asked her what she was laughing at and she said it was a secret. Mom raised her voice and asked again. She replied, "It's like oral sex." Mother was very angry and told her to go to the penalty station. Fang Siqi said she was willing to accompany her.
Mother Liu is very angry because she thinks her daughter is too reckless to say so, and can sex be said in public? This is not something you can gossip with your neighbors.
Adolescent children begin to have an ignorant understanding of sex. At this time, children need the guidance of their parents, have a correct understanding of sex and guide them on the right path.
However, parents are absent or even evasive in this respect. This is the case with Liu Yiting's mother in Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise. Children just find it interesting to talk about this word. Instead of guiding children to face up to sex, Liu's mother told her "shame" directly and even criticized her seriously.
This was originally a good opportunity for sex education, but mother Liu blocked the road directly.
This is also the reason why many girls are hurt and refuse to tell their parents. It is difficult for them to talk about it.
Many people say that the girl who was sexually assaulted didn't report to the police at the first time, and didn't tell her parents at the first time. The first time was not so good! This has something to do with sexual shame. Everyone told them to shut up.
Women who talk about sex are dissolute, while women who talk about sex are romantic. In short, girls should not talk about sex.
Think about the scene of Liu Yiting from another angle. If the boy says it this time, will Liu's mother let him go to the penalty station? At most, pretend to be angry and say "you child"!
After Fang Siqi was sexually assaulted, she used "I love the teacher" as a "name" for sexual assault. Actually, it's not. If you love her, how can you fall into pain and finally collapse?
Fang Siqi didn't tell anyone about the sexual assault. When she persuaded herself to slow down for a while, she mentioned her best friend Liu Yiting.
She was careful not to frighten Liu Yiting. She told Liu Yiting about her and her teacher's sexual assault on love packaging. Liu Yiting just said "disgusting"!
Liu Yiting and Fang Siqi are soul mates. They grew up together, went to school together and played together. They are inseparable, but even such close people can't tell the truth in front of sex.
If, if Fang Siqi said she was raped, would Liu Yiting still say so?
Sexual shame, like chastity, is a shackle imposed on women.
2. women should be well-behaved, kind and docile? We just domesticate women into the prey of the devil.
Fang Siqi is a perfect child. She is good at her lessons, studies well, and looks beautiful and smart, which is what everyone wants girls to look like.
But this is also the cause of her tragedy. The first time she was sexually assaulted, she also apologized to the teacher because "I won't".
She is very bitter inside and doesn't want to bear a grudge against the teacher, making her look vicious.
This is also a scene that shocked me very much. The girl's obedience to this point makes her back cold.
People should be kind, but kindness has a bottom line, and they never hurt themselves in order to fulfill the kindness of others.
Smart and kind will only make women better obedient.
Written in the last words:
I don't want this book to stay in my mind, but I'm afraid I'll forget it and live in this whitewashed day.
Recently, I wrote several micro-headlines about the package case. One of them wrote that Bao's sister said in an interview that the relationship between the younger brother and the girl was not adoptive parents. In my opinion, this is an excuse to escape legal sanctions. I didn't expect a voice in the comment area to say that this girl is not worthy of sympathy.
I suddenly understood one thing, Bao was exposed, and the demons of Wang, Li and Lu would always exist and appear.
We can't just pray that the world will get better, nor should we complain about how it makes people so desperate. The world has always been like this, neither too good nor too bad.
It is better to expect girls to be good at fighting the devil than to expect the devil to get better.