When guiding family education, we should emphasize the importance of planning and explain the harm of randomness. When making a family education plan, we must fully consider the basis of three aspects: First, the actual situation of children, parents must comprehensively analyze the actual situation of children, so as to have a clear idea and clear goals; Secondly, the general physiological and psychological characteristics and development trend of children of the same age; Thirdly, it is the educational planning and requirements of schools, classes and communities. In learning, family education should pay attention to the cultivation of children's learning attitude, learning habits and learning responsibility.
Second, oral preaching in family education
Many parents think that family education is "talking" about children, and it is obviously a misunderstanding to take "teaching by example" as the only or leading way of family education.
An important feature of family education is permeability, that is, it permeates the daily life of the family. We should vigorously improve parents' educational awareness and attach importance to this permeability. We sum up family education as "teaching by example, teaching by example", which are indispensable. "Words and deeds" should be enlightening persuasion and education, not random criticism and reprimand. Some parents seldom patiently put forward facts and reasons, but mainly criticize, accuse and even abuse, which will definitely affect their children's rebellious psychology and will not receive good results. "Example" refers to the model education of parents, that is, set a good example for children everywhere, let them admire and convince them, so as to learn from their parents and educate themselves. Some parents only care about their children, regardless of themselves, but they can't do what they are asked to do, or even run counter to it. Such parents can only leave a negative impression on their children and have a bad influence on them. "Environmental education" refers to environmental education, that is, creating an environment conducive to the healthy growth of children's body and mind. At present, some families tend to attach importance to material things rather than deepening, which is not conducive to family education.
To guide parents out of the misunderstanding of simple preaching, we should explain the truth to parents and teach them some specific methods in the combination of example and environmental teaching.
Third, the "inconsistency" of family education.
The inconsistency of family education is a quite common phenomenon. There may be inconsistencies between parents, parents and grandparents, and grandparents. These inconsistencies are partly reflected in the guidance of educational thoughts, memory contents and educational ways and methods. This situation, on the one hand, may make children don't know who to listen to and can't agree; On the other hand, children may be allowed to choose the side that is "beneficial" to them instead of distinguishing right from wrong; It may also cause trouble for children.
Fourth, there is a lack of guidance for children's mental health.
Strengthening children's mental health guidance is not only an important task of school education, but also a task that cannot be ignored in family education. In recent years, because parents don't understand children's psychology and deal with problems wrongly, children's psychology is seriously unbalanced, so that cases such as running away from home, self-mutilation, suicide and homicide are not isolated, and some children have psychological disorders and mental illness.
At present, it is unrealistic to ask all parents to give mental health guidance, but it is very necessary for parents to understand that children have mental health problems during their growth and attach great importance to them. In family education, parents should carefully observe their children's words and deeds, find abnormal signs and take timely measures to guide them. If you can't solve the problem yourself, you should
Contact teachers and consult experts to discuss solutions together.
Fifth, the labor education in family education is weak.
The quality of reading can only be cultivated through education and practice. While strengthening labor education in schools, parents should pay more attention to labor education. On the one hand, parents are told the importance of labor education in their children's adult process, on the other hand, parents are required to arrange their children to do what they can. In addition to self-help, we should also have a certain amount of housework, make clear requirements and persevere. Children should be encouraged to actively participate in school collective labor and community public welfare activities.
Sixth, encourage children to spend too much.
Excessive consumption has both social reasons and family and students' own reasons. The psychology of conformity, comparison, showing off, liking the new and hating the old, hedonism and pursuing fashion in consumption behavior have contributed to the development of excessive consumption. And some parents' excessive love and doting on the only child is also a cause that cannot be ignored. Once students form the bad habit of excessive consumption, they will have endless troubles.
In consumer guide, we should first strengthen the education of correct consumption concept. Although people's income is increasing and their living standards are improving, the fine tradition of hard work and plain living cannot be lost. It is necessary to educate and train children to live within their means, spend rationally, learn to accumulate, and link consumption behavior with physical and mental health. Secondly, it is necessary to guide specific consumption and let children know some necessary consumption knowledge. Thirdly, we should set an example of thrift for children, especially among students, relatives and friends.
Seven. Family education values wisdom over morality and knowledge over ability.
Many parents only pay attention to their children's academic performance and scores, but ignore their morality and sentiment. It is right to attach importance to intellectual education, but it is wrong to despise moral character. The problem is that many parents equate knowledge with intelligence, attach importance to knowledge learning and despise the cultivation of ability.
Accordingly, in the guidance of family education, parents should be guided to recognize the relationship between adults and talents, and the relationship between moral education and intellectual education. Family education should focus on children's learning to be human beings, guide children to develop self-awareness and self-education ability, establish lofty ideals, cultivate children's sense of responsibility, responsibility and mission, and link today's efforts with future contributions to society and the motherland. You know, a person with moral defects will only be selfish and harm others, and it is impossible to honor his parents and care for others, let alone serve the motherland and win glory for the country.
Eight, excessive love in family education
It is human nature to love children, and there is nothing wrong with it. However, parents often fall into various misunderstandings of love in family education: instinctive love breeds infertility; Partial and indulgent doting; Crazy love encouraged by seedlings; Well-designed love
It is an instinct for parents to love their children, but this instinctive love alone cannot cultivate healthy people needed by society, so it is necessary to upgrade instinctive love to rational love. Without loving feelings, there will be no family happiness; Similarly, without rational love, there is no real family education. It is very irrational to think that "a big tree attracts the wind", but I don't know that "a big tree is difficult to break" is not only a summary of people's experience for thousands of years, but also a warning to parents to stay in instinctive love.
With the increase of the only child, the tendency of "doting" is also spreading. Some parents are obedient to their children and try their best to meet their material needs; Some parents don't let their children do housework, arrange everything for them, and even feed them bite by bite; Some parents "isolate" their children from the world because they are too worried about their children's safety, which limits their normal interpersonal communication with others; Because some parents prefer children, they often only see the advantages of children, but they can't treat their shortcomings correctly. They will defend their shortcomings and mistakes, even if they conflict with others. These practices of parents make children become selfish, lonely, timid and indifferent, and form many bad habits and bad qualities.
Some parents are eager to "make their children succeed" and "make their daughters succeed" and are obsessed with family education. They ignore the laws of children's physical and mental development, arrange various learning contents for children, make them breathless, and ignore their feelings and hobbies. This kind of crazy love that "encourages young plants" is undoubtedly harmful to children's minds.