Nowadays, many students are the only children in the family and the apple of their parents' eye. Some children at home are uncompromising. In any case, parents will meet any needs of their children, even if they are very rude, they will not hesitate to meet them, which has caused their children to be willful and overbearing. It is for this reason that many teachers will carefully brew every detail when communicating with students. The former teacher has a very tough tone when communicating with students, even with a fatalistic tone. Nowadays, when teachers communicate with students, they communicate more like friends, like loving fathers and mothers, so students can accept it gladly without conflict.
However, when communicating with their children, parents who are teachers often take a stern tone of fate as they used to treat their students. This is often counterproductive, but it leads to many children's resistance, unwillingness to accept their parents' opinions, and even rebellion. This kind of communication is doomed to failure, the relationship between parents and children will become more and more tense, and natural learning will not be good.
Second, when making mistakes, we have different attitudes towards students and children.
As a growing child, mistakes are inevitable. In fact, every mistake a child makes is a growing experience. The key is whether the guardian handles this matter in time, and the handling method and attitude will have a completely different impact on the child's growth.
As one of the guardians, when students make mistakes, most teachers will help them face them in a timely and responsible manner, and at the same time, they will seriously talk with them to help them analyze the reasons for the mistakes, how to correct them, how to prevent similar mistakes from happening again in the future, and so on. The teacher's attitude is like "sneaking into the night with the wind, calming things down" to influence students. Only a few teachers may be perfunctory, thinking that they are not their own children and just do their duty as teachers. It's not your own child anyway. If you criticize improperly, you will be punished. Why bother?
However, when teachers treat children's mistakes, they are absolutely severely criticized, even if it is not the child's fault. Some teachers even hit children. They think that forgiving children's mistakes is irresponsible for their future. So when their children make mistakes, teachers rarely communicate with them calmly and ask why. This will increase children's resistance, which is not conducive to the solution of the problem, and some children may even have rebellious behavior. Over time, children's negative emotions will increase day by day and communication will become more and more difficult. It is impossible for a child to study hard in this mood.
Third, treat students differently from their own children in their usual learning methods.
Especially in today's quality education, we advocate teaching students in accordance with their aptitude. Teachers will design learning methods according to students' interests and individual differences, try not to use a teaching plan to run through the whole course, and will make timely adjustments according to students' learning process. Few teachers will require all students to follow a learning method, but will design different teaching methods and learning methods according to students' acceptance ability. Especially in high school, teachers will fully solicit the opinions of students and parents, make a comprehensive analysis according to students' hobbies and specialties, as well as their academic performance and learning ability in various subjects, and then give students an optimal plan for their reference.
However, for their children, many teachers will impose the best learning method on their children, without considering the children's ideas at all, and will not evaluate the effect of this method on children. Treating children's learning in this way will definitely make it difficult for them to meet their parents' expectations. Once a child's study fails to achieve the expected goal, the teacher seldom analyzes the factors that cause this result, but will continue to put pressure on the child to achieve his "goal".