"There is a saying in Dai Li Suburb Special Festival:' Men and women are different, and then father and son are close. Father and son kiss, and then give birth. No other nonsense, the way of animals. "These words explain the relationship between father and son and husband and wife, which is very profound. If the distinction between men and women is not strict, couples will be restless. If the couple are not at ease, the father and son will not kiss. As for human nature, if there is no intention of blind date, it is more meaningful than Li He. Rational calculation, utilitarian measurement and the bondage of legal laws can not lead people to righteousness. The ancients in China said,' Words speak from the heart and stop at comity'. When you know that all etiquette must be based on emotion, emotion must stop at etiquette. Husband and wife get married mainly here.
? The traditional five-LUN emphasizes "the difference between husband and wife", that is, husband and wife should be loyal to each other. Mr. Qian Mu talked about the influence of mutual loyalty between husband and wife on their children. He said, "If the difference between men and women is not strict, couples will be restless. The couple are uneasy, and the father and son are not close. " "Father and son are not close" means that parents and children are not close. Why don't couples get along "father and son don't kiss"? Because of the disharmony between husband and wife, especially for young children, it is easy to feel at a loss, which will affect children's feelings for their parents and even form opposition with one or both parents. Then, he further talked about the influence of "father and son are not close". What kind of influence will "father and son are not close" have? This will affect the child to become a sentient and righteous person-"People are not blind date, then righteousness is Li He". In other words, if the relationship with parents is not smooth, the child's personal growth will be negatively affected.
? It can also be seen from this passage that the so-called righteousness of the ancients (such as the responsibility to parents and society) is based on family ties. If children have deep love and respect for their parents, it is easy to be filial, and on this basis, cultivate a good impression on others and society. In order to cultivate children's filial piety to their parents, harmony between husband and wife is very important. This is what the ancients said. You might as well try to figure it out.