Because what most girls want directly at this time is that their boyfriends want to "coax me" and show the tolerance and love of boys. When boys realize that they should not be angry with their girlfriends, but should make girls happy, they have actually succeeded halfway.
Now, vagrancy education will come to talk to you about the correct process of "coaxing" your girlfriend.
1 Men should put their minds right.
The man should not assume a sense of superiority of "accommodating you and tolerating you", thinking that girls are not sensible and I am a gentleman because I am used to coaxing you.
The way girls vent their anger may be bad, but most of them are angry for a reason, not unreasonable. Even if the boys feel that they have done nothing wrong, they should also think about whether there is a misunderstanding between the two sides.
Then girls, especially couples who have passed their honeymoon, will use the means of "smirking" and "hugging and kissing" responsibly to make them sick. That woman doesn't want to talk to you or let you touch her. This is really angry. No games.
Two people should have a fixed problem-solving model.
As a couple who want to develop a long-term relationship, quarreling is a rare opportunity to influence each other. This is not only to solve the current problem, but also to give you an opportunity to "seek a problem-solving model". In the future, you will encounter more complicated problems and contradictions, which will be relatively easy to solve.
List a better way of communication:
1) The man should calm down for a few minutes and think about the reasons for your quarrel, which is also the time for girls to calm down.
2) Then, sincerely tell her "I didn't do it right" and tell her "What did I do wrong?" .
Don't spit out the girl's question: "What's wrong with you?" Because the woman wants to make sure that you are not dealing with her at this time, but take this conversation seriously. The reason why a girl quarrels with you is mostly because she thinks you are doing something wrong and you don't pay attention to it.
3) Then, never follow "But, you also …". That woman will know. You must start criticizing her. It is better to change it to "I think it will be better for us to understand, face and deal with this matter."
4) Don't rush to give a girl an answer or respond positively at this time, because she may still be in the mood, or you may not have given her enough steps.
At the same time, after your sincere "mistakes" and analysis, she will actually reflect on her poor performance. Don't think girls are unreasonable. They just want to be unreasonable. In fact, their hearts are very reasonable.
5) After the above, you should give your lover some "relaxation" time and space again. Don't disturb her, take a few minutes to tidy up the house, for example, she threw a pillow when she quarreled, or washed half the dishes when she quarreled, then you can wash the rest.
6) Don't take too long. Five minutes later, go back to her, hand her a hot towel to wipe her face (even if she doesn't cry, the hot towel is absolutely comfortable on her face), sit quietly beside her, don't hug her and kiss her right away, there is a great chance of being pushed away (this is called a small temper, how cute).
7) If she suddenly starts to cry with a towel, or even more. Congratulations, she is not angry with you anymore, but venting and releasing her emotions. At this time, you can finally hug her (most girls and boys don't cry when they quarrel, but they will cry after the quarrel, so don't ask me why).
8) From now on, you can have a lot of freedom. You can comfort her quietly, take her to eat delicious food, kiss her, or have a heart-to-heart talk (heart-to-heart doesn't mean telling the truth).
3 some supplements
1) Girls are emotional animals. After all, few of them can rationally analyze problems and actively solve them, and as mentioned above, when they are rational inside, they will also show small temper, small affectation and small irrationality.
Therefore, girls who don't talk and ignore you are actually very good, giving boys room to deal with the crisis. I'm more afraid of the yelling type.
2) Having said that, men should remember that girls are used to spoil and make her feel that you love her and will not continue to be angry when encountering contradictions.
3) Men want women to follow their own values, ideas and ideas. Create a tacit understanding. This cannot be done by quarreling, arguing, reasoning, coercion and other means.
Cowardly men should have the power to "moisten things quietly", specifically
First, in daily life, let her feel that your judgment and handling of things are correct;
Second, on this basis, through heart-to-heart, through "talking about other people's affairs (not gossip, but changing the analysis object and standing outside the bureau)", a consensus is reached on a certain kind of things. In other words, you basically solved a crisis before you experienced it yourself.
Having said that, I actually want to say:
Women's performance today is not only based on what happened today, but also the expression of emotions accumulated in long-term life. What's more, there are not so many right and wrong things in daily life, but she wants to know whether you care about her feelings.
When you are considerate, caring and tolerant of her in your daily life, when you really need to make a decision, you have the opportunity to say, honey, let's do this as I want.