A child's growth is not only about learning, but only the overall improvement of comprehensive quality is the guarantee to cope with the increasingly fierce social competition in the future. Therefore, since children are sensible, we deliberately teach them to be tolerant, polite and judge right and wrong about some simple things. From kindergarten, children are taught to love the collective, respect teachers, unite with classmates and abide by rules and regulations. So children are very disciplined and obedient students at school. At the same time, we often remind him to be a polite, labor-loving and caring child, and take the initiative to say hello to teachers and classmates. I remember once a child's grandmother came home, and her daughter took out her favorite chocolate and gave it to everyone. Maybe old people love children very much. At that time, chocolate was only enough for the whole family, so her grandmother said, Grandma won't eat it, but save it for MengMeng next time. ? I criticized my mother's point of view at that time. If the child gives you something to eat, you must eat it. If you don't get into the habit, she thinks you won't eat anyway, and you won't know how to be filial to the elderly when you are old.
Second, give full play to the exemplary role of parents to help children develop good habits.
Children are very imitative, and many characters and practices are learned and imitated from their parents. Parents are the first teachers of the children. From birth to school, even to middle school, it is the parents who may be in contact with the children the most. They are always imitating their parents' words and deeds. When the child was four years old, we went downtown by bus together. My wife and I took two seats. I was holding the baby, and then an older man came over. Because we sat in the back, the old man stood in front, and I held my daughter, so I didn't give up my seat. But my daughter's words deeply touched me. She said, Dad, why don't you give your seat to Grandpa? Didn't you say you would give up your seat when you saw an older person? I was really happy with my daughter's director. So I said to my daughter: You let your mother hug you. Dad didn't see it just now. Now give your seat to Grandpa! ?
Third, pay attention to children's concentration and develop a good habit of being serious and responsible.
Most of them are only children now. With the improvement of living conditions, children are in an absolute central position in the family. When my child was young, I also bought many toys for her, but the child still loves all her toys, because every toy reflects the parents' love for their daughter. She often takes it out to see which one is bought by her father and which one is bought by her mother. Clean it up and put it back after each reading. Once at grandma's house, grandma picked a lot of tender beans and peeled them to make porridge. So, my daughter peeled beans with her mother, and her mother only peeled a little and went to the neighbor's house. As a result, my daughter peeled them all herself. I held my daughter in my arms and praised her. I must finish what I have done. This is a good boy.
Fourth, cultivate children's sense of independence.
We often see reports that some college students can't take care of themselves and so on. All these remind us that children can't be independent and will always grow up. In order to give children independence, I also got a cruel title. It was when children just learned to walk. Every time I fall, I let my daughter get up by herself, and then I told her that she must get up by herself. Now I can help you, but mom and dad are not around. Who will help you? Later, I watched my daughter fall to the ground on her knees, bleeding and telling me with tears. Dad, I will be careful when I walk next time! ? After listening to my daughter's words, I was both distressed and gratified.
Fifth, learn to communicate with children and be their friends.
The most important thing to communicate with children is equality, and everyone longs for respect. Children are no exception. In the process of learning, children will encounter some problems more or less. When she asks you for help or is ready to give up, try not to criticize and complain about the child. Trust your child at all times, give her time, encourage her and encourage her to believe that she has the ability to overcome difficulties. We help her analyze the reasons, find out the problems, inspire and guide her from the side, stimulate her desire to solve the problems, and enjoy the joy after solving the problems with her. I always believe that if we cheat children once now, they will cheat you a hundred times in the future. Listen carefully to your child's different opinions and don't interrupt at will. Don't tell the child what you think until she has finished. Be sure to stand on an equal footing, don't just make condescending demands and give orders, or you will never know the true thoughts and reality of your child again.